Bin dazed and confused for so long it's not true.

[ToRch]

Well, here goes. I dated this girl for two years, and can honestly say I fell in love with her. As a fifteen year old, most people would say I couldn't really have been in love, but I truly think I was as I see what love is with my parents every day. So anyway, after dating for about a year, we lost our virginity during our first summer together. Shortly after the summer, her friend killed herself. Things just went downhill from there. My girlfriend slipped into depression. Things were difficult at home for her, and I helped her get through as much as I could. She tried to kill herself on two seperate occasions, and I saved her on both. Things were finally getting better, until she made friends with a guy named Mark. Mark showed her this site called Tagged... Guys began to hit on her and flirt with her. She told me not to worry about it and that she was in love with me. I believed her and didn't worry. I then found out that she had started to fall for this guy. She began dating him behind my back... Finally telling me about him two or three weeks later. Hurt, I told her that she needed to pick between me and him. I gave her a week to decide. She did... and she picked him... Now I'm still in love with her two months later, and she still talks to me constantly. I have this thing.. Where I can't break an important promise to anyone I care about.. That's just who I am, and I promised her I'd wait until she was done with him.. She says she still loves me, but I've just lost the will to fight for her anymore. But I can't leave because I promised.. I need advice, like really really badly.

[AllThatIsLeft]

It's very noble for you to wait for her. But you are human too, you feel, and I bet you suffer from waiting for her.
She may love you, but that doesn't justify making you wait like that. If she's not willing to fight for you, you don't have to suffer because you promised.

If she really loved you,she would let you go, and not leave you hanging by thread with a mere hope that she might come back.


Promise or no promise, the most important person here is you, andif she doesn't realize how good you are, there is no need for you to hang around like a lost puppy.

Move on darling, live, fall in love again.
and you never know, maybe some day fate will reunite you.

Don't suffer for someone who doesn't appreciate you.

[ToRch]

See, I've really thought that. I've tried so hard to get away but every time I'm about to, she calls me up. She may be happy, upset or any other emotion.. and my heart just breaks when I try to do it. It's so difficult. I really have tried over and over to finish with this.. I work up the courage but her voice and her laugh... I just lose myself.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Then tell her to stop toying with your emotions, stand up to her hun.
Don't answer her calls, before she starts talking about something tell her your busy.
it's really up to you to make her understand.
Because really until you set your foot down, she will keep doing because she knows you are there.

[ToRch]

I know... and you're right... I need to stand up to her. It's hard to explain the situation entirely.. I mean.. I'm so comfortable with her.. You know? I'm not that comfortable with anyone else, and even if we fell in love.. We formed a strong friendship too. I don't want to lose that too. But I know what needs to be done. She doesn't want to hurt me, I just keep telling her I'm fine, but you're right. This.. Needs to end...

[AllThatIsLeft]

It's best for you.
if you need any help pm me.

[ToRch]

Thank you. I've talked to a bunch of people, but no one would give me a straight answer like that.

[AllThatIsLeft]

it's not about what you want to hear, it's what you need to hear.
i don't do subtle, often.

[Kaius]

:/ Cant say its exactly the same as this situation but i recently went through a similar thing. my ex girlfriend of two years and i 'mutually' split up, then i realised it wasnt what i wanted, but what she didnt tell me was that the reason she wanted to split up was she fell for someone else, and it completely tore me up inside. I swore i would never lve anyone again. The one girl i fully learnt to trust, broke it, and broke me in turn. It led me to attempt suicide. After doing this, they were testing for damage and found a problem with my heart, the overdosing being a blessing in disguise. 3 Months on, i have a beautiful girlfriend, with a personality to match, And im growing to trust her. I promised my ex i would always love and wait for her, and in my own way, i think i still do love her, Shes become a small part of me that reminds me each and every day that theres way to move on. It may not be clear, but but look at it like this, if shes with someone else but still loves you, whats to say you cant do the same? Talk with your ex, you may find it to be some help. If you need to talk im here, my contact details are on my profile. Good luck mate.