Telling My Parents;

[ErykaInspire.]

That I'm sexually active.

Ok, so.. My mom and I used to be really close. We used to talk about EVERYTHING. I'd always bring up pregnancy and a girls monthly cycle, and what not. She always told me that she trusts me and knows I won't be having sex until I'm after college.
Well.. a lot of things in my life changed. Mentally, personally, emotionally, physically.
My relationship with my mom.. is.. well.. disintegrated. No longer of existence.

Needless to say, I'm sexually active with my boyfriend.

Well... today really hit home. My brother and mom were joking around because he's 21 and his girlfriend is 17 (a year older than myself.) and my mom was telling him not to have sex, blahblah.. Then she looked at me as said "It's like your sister having sex. Which I KNOW she hasn't."
It was kinda like a slap in the face. A very HARD slap.

I feel really guilty, like I'm letting her down..
How do I tell her that I'm having sex? or atleast, if anything, THINKING about having sex?
I can't just come out and tell her. She'd flip out and make Dale and I stop seeing each other. I can't let that happen.. Dale's the best thing that's happened to me in three years.
So.. Any suggestions? :/

[Aves]

To be honest, the only thing I can think of is sitting your mom down, and letting her know. I don't know your mom, and since I'm not your stalker, I'm not sure about what you can really say to warm her up for the big bang. I think if your mom truly does love you (and how is it possible not to love you), she will accept you for it. She might be mad, she might be upset, but it's better than living knowing you are hiding something from her.

As for telling you that you can't see Dale, you might just have to tell her how good he has been to you, if she just forgets all that. This is the part where I'm extremely confused on what you should do. I just hope it goes well with you telling her, if you do.