Fed up

[catw]

I'm so fed up of living at home. everything is always my fault. Like today my mum had a go at me because my boyfriend doesnt come to mine much and I'm always at his. The main reason for this is that at his we can go in hiss room and watch telly and no one disturbs us. At mine i have no telly in my room so if we want to watch DVDs i we have to do it in the main room with everyone about, so we go to his for some privacy. But this isn't good enough for my mum, she has ago about how she never sees me. I'm at college most days 9till 5. About 3 out of 7 night i go to my boyfriends or sometimes he comes here, but she comlains that I'm never at home and don't care about my family.
Nothing i do is good enough either. So i dint do too well in my exams but there is no need to rub it in my face all the time, especially as i am resitting them in January so i can do better. and also my friends aren't good enough either. I spend too much time with my friends according to my mum. However the only time i have seen them recently is at college because she says i am not allowed out because i need to do none existent college work. and if i do go out i ma expected to be home by quarter to 10 on an evening, no one else has curfews. I respect the time she asks me to be back. If I'm going to be a little late i always call her so she knows where i am and i don't just wander in at whatever time like some people do. so I'm not been unreasonable
I just don't no what to do anymore. I dont want to live at home anymore. I cant move out until September when i go to uni and i dont have anywhere else i can stay. But life at home is starting to effect me. i feel upset all the time and its starting to effect my college work because the more she nags at me to do revision and coursework and homework the less i want to do. If i was left to do it then i would get it done at my own pace.
I just dont no what to do. I mean are there any options as to where i can stay if i can leave home? i just cant cope anymore

A little advice maybe?

I just dont no wheat to do anymore

[overcome.]

Reading the first few lines, this sounds like an old relationship I had. My girlfriend at the time would mostly come to mine considering we had more privacy for the same reasons you've listed - her Mum seemed to have a problem with this and claimed I never made an effort. Baring in mind she worked evenings and I'd often see my girlfriend at college or after college at hers/mine. It must have bugged her so much, she even made remarks to my family at a meal we all went out for one night how I never made an effort to go round.

Maybe if you took a different approach by saying to your Mum why you prefer going there, but be careful as she may take the 'privacy' thing the wrong way, i.e. you're going round there for sex or something. It's probably that she'd like to see you more, maybe she didn't get the opportunity to do all of these things as a child as much like having a busy social life, boyfriend, doing all of these things you're doing. Who knows.

I know it may not always be what you want to hear but realise that she wants the best for you in regards to grades and stuff like that. Saying that, maybe if you were given a little more responsibility since you are in college, such as a little bit of an extended curfew and mainly given the freedom with your work. You're more likely to achieve more at your own pace, studying for hours isn't always the answer. I know grades are important but you can only be young and enjoy these college years/youth years for so long. I left college this year and it was the fasted (and some of the best) 2 years ever for many reasons.

I'd make that point to her about the responsibility. It's a pretty valid point. Not everybody needs to revise hours upon hours a day/night. I've never revised much and have always gotten good grades in pretty much everything at GCSE and got B's in college. There's sometimes more to life, but at the same time take your work seriously which I'm sure you do.

I hope everything works out and that I was at least a little bit of help.