lieing to me

[ArtistInNeed]

me and my bf have been going out for 2 years now, and recently hes made a new friend that is a girl. i have no problem with them being friends but i dont like it if they hang out alone and i told him that. he had a problem with it saying that he has a right to do wat he wants but i still feel like he should respect my feelings and not do it. so after fighting for like 3 days he finally gave in and agreed to not hang out with girls alone. then a few weeks later he tells me that he hung out with her twice behind my back. i was pissed. once again i told him that i didnt like it and that it really bothered me, so he agreed again. now i find out last night that two days ago him, the girl, and two of his guy friends went out and saw a movie together. i have been asking him to go to a movie for like a month now. i dont want to break up with him, and it definitely isnt an option. he said he wouldnt lie to me anymore but idk if i can trust him. and wat sucks the most is that im not going to break up with him and hes doing all this to me and i have to suffer...what should i do? im so lost

[Darkness]

I'm sorry, are you in the cast of friends?...I think not, You have to trust him on this, if you can't trust him then you shouldn't be together, because he's not worth it..

[cherry_boi]

hrmm

k well imo....

ur def have a right to ask him not to hang out with her alone, i wud do the same and i feel that it is a good rule, hanging out with her in a group is a bit different and i personally wud b ok with it to some extent...not veto it entirely but ask him to keep it to a minimum

him lying to you about it is not ok, as trust and loyalty are the MOST important things in any relationship and he's pretty much stomping all over that by lying to you

however he just met her, she is a new friend, and he's gunna wanna spend more time with her and get to know her...cuz well, she's new

thats where the trust comes in, u have to trust that he loves you and will be faithful, and he has to ensure he acts responsibly and doesn't put himself in situations that will lead to problems, of course it's ok for u to feel bad about him spending alot time with her without u being there, and he shud respect that and not hang out with her alone.

i suggest u guys work something out where he can hang out with girls in groups with out you but not one on one...providing he still gives u appropriate face time and affection

if he can't honor that then u have to make a decision as to whether or not u want to be with a person who is willing to risk your relationship by not respecting your feelings and reasonable requests regarding other girls.....

best of luck :)

[Blue63]

I'm sorry, are you in the cast of friends?...I think not, You have to trust him on this, if you can't trust him then you shouldn't be together, because he's not worth it..

Haha friends is a great show and I absolutely love your crossover here!

Anyway

I know this might not be what you want to hear, but you're a little paranoid (don't worry, I am to). Have you met this girl? Maybe you should, it could either ease your worries (most likely) or actually give you cause for suspicion. You need to trust him, plus it is possible for boys and girls to be just friends. One of my best friends is a girl, and she has a boyfriend. Yes he gets suspicious from time to time I hear, but even so, I would never do anything. Trust is hard, but you've been going out for 2 years, so I think you should have it by now :yes:

[Art_dude]

You have legitimate thoughts of concern that you're boyfriend is making a new friend with a girl. But don't let that override your rational mind. have you met her? He's probably not romantically interested in her. IF he was, something would've happened by now. Although I don't think he should be seeing her ALONE on a regular basis, I don't think it's your place to tell him what or what not to do. You need to trust him a little more. That's part of a healthy relationship.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Okay, I'm going to put it this way.
If it was you, and you had a guy friend that you just met and enjoy hanging out with him, and suddenly you're boyfriend tells you, you can't see him anymore. How would you feel.
were it me. I'd be one 1. Sad because there are obvious trust issues,
2. Pissed because I don't like being told what I can or can't do, might it be your partner or not.
3. and I would do it anyways, because that he has trust issues doesn't mean his fears will become real
4. suffocated, because for much I love someone I don't like feeling controlled.

You are taking all the wrong steps here, you should one offer to hang out with her and him together, see how things are between them yourself.
Don't get on a jealousy attack, because he IS with you, not her.
and most importantly talk about how you feel uncomfortable, in a non-controlling "i-don't-want-you-seeing-her-way"

Before you decide anything, or make a mistake. Look at all the cards on the table.
or you might regret it.

[ArtistInNeed]

no ive never met her. thats wat bothers me more. and its like y cant i be invited to go too? y do u have to be alone?

[Darkness]

Ask to meet her, just make sure he knows your not backing down... yet.