post sexual abuse

[kolte]

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[Sapphire]

My boyfriend and I are in a similar position to you and your girlfriend.

I'd love to be able to tell you that it eases with time, but the truth is that I doubt it will ease unless she is getting help in dealing with the trauma of her past abuse. Getting help with facing past sexual abuse is scary and it will be painful, but if it can help her have sex without crying and pushing you away then it'll be worth it.
Has she seemed open to the possibility of recieving therapy for this?

Sorry for not having any great words of advice but if you want to talk more about this drop me a pm or email.

[Art_dude]

Unfortunately I can't really comment because I haven't experienced something like that, but I commend you for being so empathetic and understanding to your girlfriend. It's a real pickle you're in - Relationships are obviously grounded in things much deeper and more important than sex, but sex is indeed an important part of a romantic relationship. If she has to relive her own personal hell every time you try to have sex - it would be unfair to both you AND her. Have you talked to her openly about this situation?