Telling someone you don't like them.

[tripolar]

So there is this girl at school she likes me...a lot. But the problem is i don't like her. I had my phone out showing it to people and I made the mistake of giving her my number. well she texts me non-stop and obsesses over me. If i don't text her back in 3 minutes she goes "Hello?" and it pisses me off so much. She does all kinds of shit like "I haven't seen you and forever" and she freaking seen me yesterday. And now she is saying stuff like she dreams about me and wants to go out. I don't like her, its not just her appearance but she is annoying and not someone i would want to take home.

I don't want to date her, and I want her to know that but I don't want to break her heart. I asked my friend for advice and he said to call her "a fat bitch and to leave me alone" but that is going to make me look like a complete dick and its rude beyond belief.

What should i do just to let her know it isn't going to happen with out crushing her.

[WonderChild]

I don't have any experience with this, but I would talk to her and tell her that she isn't the girl for you and you are sorry. Thats all I can say, I have a bad love life so far.

[unknown2011]

you just have to be honest. i had to tell my Ex that i don't like her anymore and she still has really strong feelings for me. if it hurts, they'll move on.

[Gumleaf]

there is no need to be rude to her. just because she is annoying and whatever, it doesn't make her a bad person and i'm sure you know that. you just need to sit down in person with her and tell her that you don't feel the same way. it might upset her a bit, but you can't keep on stringing her along, you have to talk to her soon. suggest that you stay friends with her if you want that? that might help ease the blow for her. good luck.

[tripolar]

but you can't keep on stringing her along, you have to talk to her soon.

That is why i have to cut it off soon, because it seems she is getting more and more attached and, i don't want to look like i played her just to be mean.

[Grinchilla]

Stop being a jerk. She's not doing anything wrong since she has no idea how you feel. If you're "pissed off" at stuff like that, you don't seem very likeable.

Gaw, I seem cranky today, eh? sorry... :p It just annoyed me that you played the victim.... this poor girl was damned to fall in love with someone who doesn't love her back!

Now... You can't very well tell her to stop talking to you. IN the real world, you just can't say you don't like a person because they annoy you for some reason... you just have to deal with people like that sometimes. So just tell her you don't want a romantic relationship. That's it. either way you do it, she won't like it, so watevs. Maybe throw her a few complements to even out the pain.

[tripolar]

Stop being a jerk. She's not doing anything wrong since she has no idea how you feel. If you're "pissed off" at stuff like that, you don't seem very likeable.

Gaw, I seem cranky today, eh? sorry... :p It just annoyed me that you played the victim.... this poor girl was damned to fall in love with someone who doesn't love her back!

Now... You can't very well tell her to stop talking to you. IN the real world, you just can't say you don't like a person because they annoy you for some reason... you just have to deal with people like that sometimes. So just tell her you don't want a romantic relationship. That's it. either way you do it, she won't like it, so watevs. Maybe throw her a few complements to even out the pain.

I would like it if some of the girls I liked did that or a attractive girl, or at least a descent girl, but this one is none of those. The reason that i don't like those things is because i don't like her.

[JackOfClubs]

I had something like this, and it was as annoying as hell, thankfully its over now though. You have to tell her politely something like "I like you as a friend" and elaborate on that. Might not work immediately, but it might.

[Art_dude]

Unrequited love is the worst :P I've had a similar situation happen. She was a perfectly nice girl, but I did not like her. You just have to let her down easy. It's not nearly as hard or rude as people think. A simple, "Look, you're a great person, but I'm not interested in you that way" will suffice.

[laurita_21]

Just let her down easy, its always hard when someone you like dosnt feel the same way.
DO NOT listen to the guy who told you to call her a fat bitch. That would make you look so bad and it's just rude.
let her down easy.

[Hyper]

Summary; be polite & tactful but honest at the same time.

[Christheman]

I would be flattered personally you know? I mean someone who cant stop thinking about you? Nut yes you should not be leading her on. Tell her to calm down and just be friends

[kenoloor]

Say, "I don't like you." Works (almost) every time.

[unnamed94]

Im afraid you are in one of the worst situations. i get it that you dont want her to be hurt by what you say but at the same time you want her to know you dont like her. just tell her you just want to be friends, or that you dont want to be in a relationship with her(whichever fits best on your situation). theres a 99.999% chance she will still be hurt after you tell her, but extending this will make it worst for her and harder for you.

[botwa]

please don't be rude and aggressive. I understand that her behaviour pisses you off but I guess if you act in a wrong way she can get a wrong idea about everything.
a calm talk with her and explanation that you just don't like her and that you are indifferent to her feelings would be great. just get a grip and tell her everything IN PERSON. it is really effective I think

[RazorTourniquet]

Please, try not to be rude because as you said, you'll probably look like a total douchebag. I also liked one boy...a lot. He just came to me and said: "Stop fucking talking to me. I don't like you, get it? You are fucking annoying me and please stay away from me." I can't say I was annoying, I just wanted to talk to him at least once in a week and he ignorned every try of mine. So, don't be a scumbag, and tell her (while making eye contact) that she is very pretty but you aren't in love with her. That's way better.

[FullyAlive]

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