Helpp?? signals??

[StillurDyl]

Hey guys,

Im 15, a sophomore, and just starting to accept that I'm gay. Ive never had a real relationship with anyone, but I'm looking for one. Im not a shy person, and know a ton of people at my school.

I met this guy last year, he's a senior, and just this last few weeks, he's really started to catch my eye. He's really shy, so I would feel awkward just talking to him.

He pretty much fits the stereotype of being gay: (short highlighted hair, the accent, wears nice clothes, he's a gymnast, barely hangs out with guys, and just his personality in general). But he hasnt told anyone that I know of that he is gay, and my friend who knows him fairly well, is seriously debating his sexuality.

I find him extremely attractive, but havent said anything more than 'hi' once or twice. I dont want to send too obvious of signals, because I have only come out to a few people, and I dont think Im ready to be completely out just yet. This has been going on for about three weeks, and I've had a few dreams about just being together. They weren't just sexual dreams, so I think this might be real, not just my hormones going crazy.

My issue is that I want to get closer to him, and try to see if he is even interested, but I've never had experience flirting or just going up to someone and talking to them.

Could anyone give me some pointers? Or just tell me what you would do in this situation?? Anything would be massively appreciated!

[Severus Snape]

Approaching him outside of school may be better. There are no secrets in American highschools and once someone sees something Jennie tell Doug who tells Sarah and then in about ten minutes everybody knows everybody else's business. I would ask him to go to lunch or something to talk about things. It may be awkward at first, but once in private you might be able to confide in him and let him know you are gay. It seems to me that he is self conscious about being gay and therefore doesn't want o make it official.

Alternatively, add him on facebook and just start talking. It can start out with small things like inquiring about the afternoon announcements which you missed, or gossiping about a teacher. If you know he has taken a class you have taken, ask him for help specifically.

Best of luck!

[Giles]

I would just take your time and "observe" a bit longer, just try and see if he is gay (look for the obvious things, the "gay" laugh and the "gay" lisp stuff like that), If you are pretty sure he is gay then just do everything Meteoric said.

Add him on Face Book/Myspace follow him on twitter, just make it obvious that you are taking an interest in him. Then, if he truly is gay/bi, he should confide in you slightly more. Maybe he isn't sure of his own sexuality.

[StillurDyl]

Thanks! I'm pretty sure the entire school knows that He is gay, but he just hasnt made it official, and its the same for me. and he DOES have the lisp, and the laugh down pretty pat.
As for not being totally public about it, I dont plan to come out very soon, if at all in HS. But If we were to have a relationship, we would have to hangout outside of school. Too many people would be weirded out. (which kinda annoys me that we cant be ourselves at a public school) I have come out to friends, and the entire school has the suspicion that Im gay, so it wouldnt be much different.

I had dinner with him during a rehearsal break for the musical Im doing, and he was at least talking, so I think thats a good sign.

Hopefully things are going to move forward in the same direction.

[TheKingDavis]

good luck =]

[joey95]

why dont you ask him straight up!! whats the worst that could happen