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Sapphire
November 7th, 2009, 09:29 PM
I'm feeling a bit odd at the moment.
I've been dating my boyfriend for just over two years now and I am truly head over heels for him. He has his faults and I have mine. But I honestly don't care and I think I love him all the more for his faults.

Well, I really want to propose to him or have him propose to me. I want to be engaged to him and for us to get married.

I can really see us making a marriage work. We trust each other, love each other, work to maintain our relationship and to better it. We've lived with each other so we know each others little habits and try to reach a compromise when necessary.

But I don't want to get married for a few years because I have my heart set on it being really lovely and you need money to have a really lovely wedding. Not to mention the fact that there is so much going on at the moment (I'm starting counselling again and it wasn't long ago when I reported a figure from my past to the police) that it would create more stress on top of it all when it should be a happy event to plan and attend.

I've felt like this for a while now. It seems to flare up most when the topic of marriage is at the forefront of my mind - otherwise it is a small, niggling voice.

Sorry for the long-ish post. I needed to get these thoughts in some sort of order.

cjdude
November 7th, 2009, 09:48 PM
im not sure what type of reply youre looking for here...
but i think your situation is perfect.
you are being intelligent about the cost factor, and your analysis of the relationship where you both work to maintain it :)
And, you are very smart for waiting a few years and letting engagement be a happy time in your life, as opposed to a stressful one.
im young...so i probably dont know much, or whatever. but, i sincerely believe youre on the right track :)
good luck.

fohawk
November 7th, 2009, 10:57 PM
cjdude i agree with him he knows what he is talking about