she might leave me!

[love123]

Hey. i have been goin out with this girl for 2 months now and still havn't had the courage to kiss her. I was speaking to her friends earlier and they told me if i dont kiss her very soon she is going to leave me. I want to kiss her but every time my nerves get the better of me. I am 14 and she is my first gf and hopefully will be my first kiss with. Have u got any advice or tips on how to avoid my nerves and have the courage to kiss her????? please help me ASAP!!!!!

[DecemberRain]

Maybe just tell her that your nervous and talk to her about it? She might understand...

[Grey fox]

Tell her that you're nervous, and would very much so like her to break the ice.

Kissing isn't that hard or stressful at all, though it does take a lot of practice to not clash teeth, heads or dribble when full-on snogging.

Just go for a peck initially, lean in close towards her, hold her hands in yours, make eye contact, then look down at her lips and up back to her eyes again a few times as you slowly lean in towards her. If she doesn then leap at the chance to give you a kiss, just give her a quick peck on the lips, NOWHERE ELSE to start with.

I bet she's thinking by now that you don't find her attractive and that she is fat/ugly/unlovable.

Hurry up and kiss her, at least to reassure her that you do care about her.

Hope this helps!

[WonderChild]

With my first gf I was nervous to look at her... I guess just try to overcome this or talk to her and explain that your nervous.

[SGT_]

maybe pluck up the courage & tell her to kiss you.
who knows, maybe she might find your sudden change in personalitly a turn on.
it also means you wont have to make the first physical move.

[ZFX86]

With my first gf I was nervous to look at her... I guess just try to overcome this or talk to her and explain that your nervous.

Thanks alot! That's so reassuring to know that I'm not the only one that found it hard to look at her.
You should definately talk to her, talking with her will show that you feel you can approach her about things that are worrying you, it'll only make the relationship stronger.

[Grinchilla]

She's being immature if that's true... don't feel the need to do something just because she pressures you into it. tell her you're not ready if you aren't. oooh, she might think you're a wimp? than who cares about her.

Good luck, hon

[Archer600]

Well the other guys r right If ur nervous bout that and she leaves u for it then she is just a bitch...but seriously on the other hand get some balls man kissing is nothing to wory bout

[natey]

hold her tight and kiss away, if someone has something to say, tell them to step up.
thats what I do;D

[Art_dude]

Although it's not o.k. for anyone to pressure you into doing anything (and in agreement with the others above, if she breaks up with you over this she's a bitch..) You should seriously "get some balls" if you're that concerned about kissing. This isn't sex,or marriage, it's KISSING. It's an important part of a relationship. For a healthy relationship to work you need both the emotional and physical connection. If there is a lack of one or the other, then she has a legitimate reason for breaking up with you.
If you're REALLY that concerned, just talk to her about it and I'm sure she'll understand. Once you get this first kiss over with, you'll never be nervous about it again!