Am I a Nerd?

[MattHolyman41]

I have always been kind of lame... until now... now, reaching the age of 17, I have realized that I am getting older and older and I haven't even begun with any kind of relationship with girls...

Sure, I tried to ask some girls out, but... They only laughed at me and I kind of turned out to be a total douche and better pulled back from the battlefield.

Last year, coming to a new school, meeting new people, I embarassed myself the way I would never even think of. Now I know what reputation I have made in my school. Now the majority of the people think that I'm a pervert, an aggressive douche and a gross lame guy who is really pathetic, none of which is true. The worst of all is that I tend to be really pissed off when someone makes fun of me (like verbal bullying) and I don't know what to say.

Considering the fact that I'm not the kind of guy the girls would talk about as cute and handsome boy I am really losing my self-confidence even though I try my best to stay calm and smily in front of girls.

Not all the girls hate me, but... those who don't hate me either already have boyfriends or are waaaay too ugly or waaay too ... ehm... inattractive to me.
Some people say: just wait, It will come. Well, I'm still waiting and I don't see any sign of that coming. I just watch my classmates and see even the lamest of them having hot girlfriends and being much happier than me.

Trying my best to be cool and optimistic young man I just see that my effort is useless. I'm still being laughed at. I can't respond in an intelligent way when I'm nervous and worst of all I always have to complain to someone, which makes a lot of people think I'm what I truly am.

Am I just losing hope and self-confidence at the same time or I just want to experience youth in full way sooner than it is too late?

Please help me to be at least mentally like anyone else!!!

[Contra]

You need to calm down, don't worry so much because that probably make things worse.

You need to clear your reputation, ask another girl out, but chill out, don't be afraid of the word "no", that makes your stress higher and bad things happen like the ones you said. Or, you can just talk to them, and become friends with some, make them see you're a nice guy and everything will go good.

Don't lose your hope, that's the worst thing you can do.
:)

[cherry_boi]

sux dude, high school can be a pain in the ass

ur def cute tho (lol sry if u don't like hearing that from a guy)

if everyone at highschool has preconceived notions that ur a "bad" guy then maybe u shud look outside of highschool for someone....at work? lol do u have a part time job? do u have any hobbies or do any sports or anything outside of school? and friends that go to different school that cud hook u up maybe?

dunno getting a good reputation back is something u'll have to work on, try just being really polite/curtious. compliment some girls, even if u don't have any desire to date them, girls talk.....so ur nice gestures will get around...that may help abit

lol not much help, i kno

sry

gl

<Note>---- b4 anyone yells at him for being "shallow" when he says all the single girls left r unattractive remember looks DO count for something, yea personality and stuff is important but u gotta b attracted to them too, he just phrases it very bluntly

lol just figured i'd mention that cuz i can feel comments from a bunch of offended ppl coming lolz

[ILOVEYOU]

Man.. i always thought its only me that has reaches this age, and still havent had succeed relationship.. but now i see you too. so Dont worry, there are a lot of guys like you, like me, but the fact is that everybody deserves the best, in their own way. i dont like those bitches out there in the streets who will stay with just ANYBODY, i want a girl like myself, i'm sure you want something like that too. so if i were you, i would wait a little and see if there's any girl that i like, then i would move on and start a friendship with that girl, and then slowly turn the relationship into a Love process, take it easy man, just Do what you want, life doesnt worth any sadness, Enjoy your life, AT ANY COST, ;)

[AllThatIsLeft]

Who the hell said you were ugly?????
they need a hit on the head.
You are very cute IMO :)
and I like that jacket in your picture ..

On topic...

Well, sadly once we get reputation in school is very hard to overcome those...
I held pretty bad reputation, lol, I was Ugly, weird, awkward, and a bunch of other things.
What's important it's how you face that, if you let them get to you, if they see a reaction from you they will keep bothering you, it feeds their satisfaction. They want to see you freak out, and not know what to say.
I know the "ignore it" advice it's old and probably flawed, but there is something similar you can do about that...

When they do that, 1. Smile (shows your not affected by it, even if you are inside) 2. Agree with them (it will shut them up) 3. Keep doing what you are doing.

If they persist, look at them straight in the face .. never look down it's a sign of weakness, stare at them, make them uncomfortable, and ask them what's their problem.
Then, just leave.

Concerning the girls, girls are pretty forgiving, all you need to do is be confident, smile, comment the little things.
"That hair style looks really good on you"
stuff like that.
Slowly, your reputation will change to a better one, and believe me the "What happened there" factor is very important.

Who you were, and you are now are completely two different people... People will see that with time.

Best of luck.

EDIT: I wanted to add-in... Don't lose your confidence, you are a really good looking guy, if it were me at that school, I would think you're among the cute ones, and you seem to be really nice. Whatever they think isn't what it truly is, and don't lose sight of yourself.
At the end of the day, the only one we have is ourselves, if you start to think low of yourself, how can you expect the rest to see you as really are.

[MattHolyman41]

Who the hell said you were ugly?????
they need a hit on the head.
You are very cute IMO :)
and I like that jacket in your picture ..

On topic...

Well, sadly once we get reputation in school is very hard to overcome those...
I held pretty bad reputation, lol, I was Ugly, weird, awkward, and a bunch of other things.
What's important it's how you face that, if you let them get to you, if they see a reaction from you they will keep bothering you, it feeds their satisfaction. They want to see you freak out, and not know what to say.
I know the "ignore it" advice it's old and probably flawed, but there is something similar you can do about that...

When they do that, 1. Smile (shows your not affected by it, even if you are inside) 2. Agree with them (it will shut them up) 3. Keep doing what you are doing.

If they persist, look at them straight in the face .. never look down it's a sign of weakness, stare at them, make them uncomfortable, and ask them what's their problem.
Then, just leave.

Concerning the girls, girls are pretty forgiving, all you need to do is be confident, smile, comment the little things.
"That hair style looks really good on you"
stuff like that.
Slowly, your reputation will change to a better one, and believe me the "What happened there" factor is very important.

Who you were, and you are now are completely two different people... People will see that with time.

Best of luck.

EDIT: I wanted to add-in... Don't lose your confidence, you are a really good looking guy, if it were me at that school, I would think you're among the cute ones, and you seem to be really nice. Whatever they think isn't what it truly is, and don't lose sight of yourself.
At the end of the day, the only one we have is ourselves, if you start to think low of yourself, how can you expect the rest to see you as really are.

Thank you :D I really wanted to see a girl's opinion but thank you all.
btw I don't think I'm ugly. No way! I just can't be cool... if u know what I mean.



I'm just wondering how many girls are out there who think of me: hell I want this guy!... I think many other boys ask this question but I'm still curious about it.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Try to not double post, use the "Edit" button. Thanks.

And I don't understand the question?

[MattHolyman41]

Try to not double post, use the "Edit" button. Thanks.

And I don't understand the question?

I mean I was wondering how many girls really like me. But I know I shouldn't care about it so much.

[Spaceballs14]

first clear your rep (if you want to) but find perverts i mean i have many perverted friends so im a pervert a major one at that..... being perverted is finebut you can also be nice and try not to fight with people or arguee just my idea... XD you dont need to...
and i dont think your a nerd XD
plus you look like a nice guy ^^

[TheKingDavis]

ur def cute tho (lol sry if u don't like hearing that from a guy)

was thinking the same thing...

[katie-kat]

What you need to do is if you like a certain girl. Start out slow at first and try to become friends with her.
You are definately cute. That's how I met my boyfriend. He came and started sitting with me at lunch and I saw that he was a really nice guy. Everyone thought that he was the biggest perv in school too. Just try to become friends with the girl that you like.

Sorry if this doesn't help but that's the best that I could come up with.

[Lady_Chaos]

Ah jeez you sound like me ( except I'm a chick and 14 and have been in a few relationships...) my rep at school is something like the nerdy unattractive chick that tries to be cool but watches the Discovery channel and dates (this part is only with people that know the dude I dated in 8th grade and I do not hold this same opinion of him) gay guys. I know it may be difficult but you have to not give up hope.... And don't ever think of yourself as what people have classed you as. You are a different person in different environments. Btw, ur cute =3