What to do now?

[jack straw]

Ok. My situation:
I'm 16. have ZERO social life outside of school and an over protective mother to compound all my problems. in dire need of some support.

Its hard to have a social life when 90% of your free time is spent working towards Eagle Scout, becoming a Volunteer Fireman, working towards College, ROTC programs, etc... But I still try (and fail miserably.)
to make things worse my body's Hormone production has gone into overdrive and now I cant stop thinking about anything related to Relationships. My first kiss was 2 1/2 years ago. The last time I kissed a girl was the next day. Since then I have watched all my friends go out and party, and have a Fun time with every girl they have ever met. I cant even get a girl to talk to me.
I realize my lack of a life definatly gets in the way of a relationship, but not this much! I've asked a few girls out, and basicly got laughed at. ?!?!?! And as if to rub it in my face, an old friend of mine (The only girl to have ever taken an intrest in me) comes crying to me quite often about how lonely she is, and how her lastest boyfriend dumped her because she didnt want to have sex with him. I hear every detail of her love life, and while I am able to offer her advice that she really appreciates, it REALLY doesnt help me. I am frequently playing therapist for multiple people while I can barely manage my own problems.

The one thing I really want more than anything else right now is for just one girl to love me for who I am.

[Gumleaf]

i have 2 theories with this. the first is to stop trying so hard. when you try too hard the disappointment of rejection just gets you down and down. sometimes its when you stop looking that things happen. it sounds like you are trying so hard right now to find someone that its just all getting you down. you are 16, its not the end of the world if you don't have a gf right now. take some time out and focus on your other things in life if you can.

my other theory is about this girl you help out. do you like her at all? maybe if you do you could try and get a vibe of whether she likes you at all and maybe tell her how you feel if you like her? but if you don't like her like that, then go with option one.

[jack straw]

i have 2 theories with this. the first is to stop trying so hard. when you try too hard the disappointment of rejection just gets you down and down. sometimes its when you stop looking that things happen. it sounds like you are trying so hard right now to find someone that its just all getting you down. you are 16, its not the end of the world if you don't have a gf right now. take some time out and focus on your other things in life if you can.

my other theory is about this girl you help out. do you like her at all? maybe if you do you could try and get a vibe of whether she likes you at all and maybe tell her how you feel if you like her? but if you don't like her like that, then go with option one.


the girl I help out, do I like her at all? Yes. I am insanely in love with her. BUT she has made it VERY clear that she's not intrested. can NEVER stop thinking about her, but after many attempts and many rejections (each worse than the previous) I have decided its best to just be friends.
I would Love to focus on other things, to get Girls off my mind, but the harder I try the more I cant focus. I realize its not the end of the world if I dont have a Girlfriend right now, but it is immensely depressing how everyone around me either has a girlfriend or is the Party-freak who has many. I would do anything to find a girl who just loves me for who I am, but it doesnt seem like thats gonna happen any time soon. I dont actually try extreamly hard to find a girl, I just try and talk to people every chance I get, and while I can talk with guys fine, Girls seem to run away as soon asI start talking to them.

[Gumleaf]

i know its depressing to feel left out in the relationship thing. for me feeling left out of anything makes it feel like the worst feeling in the world for me. but dude, the right girl will come along, you just need patience. from what you have said, i still think you are trying too hard. but if you are getting desperate, maybe you could ask that girl for some advice from a girls perspective to improve your chances with the girls? perhaps that could work?

[jack straw]

I would love to ask her, but... its complicated, and many of our conversations are mostly just ackward scilence now after the last time I asked her out...

I am getting kinda desperate especially when I see/hear about how well everybody's relationships are going, Seeing as my First/Last kiss was 2 1/2 years ago (It really seems like a tease now).

[alex95]

my mom is the same way i cant do anything except for not come home i just don't come home untill im ready i don't care if she gets mad she cant keep me locked in the house when i do not come home she is worried but doesn't ask where i was because she knows she is overprotective and its illegal.

[jack straw]

my mom is the same way i cant do anything except for not come home i just don't come home untill im ready i don't care if she gets mad she cant keep me locked in the house when i do not come home she is worried but doesn't ask where i was because she knows she is overprotective and its illegal.

My moms the same way! She feels that Taking my bedroom door off its hinges is ok so she can make sure I'm not doing anything I'm not supposed to be doing.
Have you heard Pink Floyd's song "Mother"?
(Hush now baby, baby, dont you cry.
Mother's gonna make all your nightmares come true.
Mother's gonna put all her fears into you.
Mother's gonna keep you right here under her wing.
She wont let you fly, but she might let you sing.
Mama will keep baby cozy and warm.
Ooooh baby ooooh baby oooooh baby,
Of course mama'll help to build the wall. ) That is like a Perfect description of mothers like ours.

If I ever do find a girl, I'd be embaressed to take her home to my mom!

[Spaceballs14]

k now first of all try to find a club in school you like... ex (anime club) anime (if you like it) has very nice people in it and they will be your friend in a heart beat! 3 of my bestest friends are in anime club... theres also robotics or ping pong, tennis, Drama club or what ever your school has but if you find someone in there you will def hit it off.

plus it also helps if you enjoy solving problems....idk about you but i really like helping my friends i help at least 3 of em! plus if you help them the will gladly help you!

[jack straw]

k now first of all try to find a club in school you like... ex (anime club) anime (if you like it) has very nice people in it and they will be your friend in a heart beat! 3 of my bestest friends are in anime club... theres also robotics or ping pong, tennis, Drama club or what ever your school has but if you find someone in there you will def hit it off.

plus it also helps if you enjoy solving problems....idk about you but i really like helping my friends i help at least 3 of em! plus if you help them the will gladly help you!

Haha I'm in at least 6 clubs, and am active in all of them. Enviromental club, science club, science olimpiad, Photography club, etc... I've made a few friends, but not many. And solving problems, like... Emotional problems? Sure, I help MANY friends and aquantiences with that. Mathmatical problems I'm good at too... lol