A fleeting Dream of Love

[Cromwell]

Okay I truly do not wish to sound petty or anything, but I have been devoting my whole self to a girl for the past four years, and out of all of that she barely even has begun to acknowledge my existence. Now she is the girl of my dreams, she was perfect to me in every single way imaginable, but her gross disragard for my feelings has taken its toll. I know that she can never be made to commit to me in a romantic relationship, I only want to be able to let her go in my own heart, this whole thing has caused me too much pain and torment, I have even attempted at ending my own life due to its violent nature of influence on my emotions. I can never bring myself to do that though so dont worry about that. I just need some tips on how to break it off once and for all, I have to go to school with her everyday, and every time I have tried to end our 'relationship' it only ends up with me feeling so lonely I go crawling back to her, mainly because I have this obsessively bad self-image issue, and believe that no one else would be interested, although my main issue I guess would be, being able to let go, and not go running (crawling) back, please help!!!

Johannes M. Cromwell

[NMon]

You need to let go. You've become to attached... and that's not a good thing. If your will to let go has been lost, you need to regain control. Now I'm no psychiatrist, so I don't know how exactly. But learning to let go is the first step.

[jack straw]

Please, I beg you, GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN.
I had a girl I fell for. For 3 years, I wanted nothing but her. Girl of my dreams, i thought. And as she completely ignored me for almost the whole 3 years, I let multiple chances at other girls go. I was willing to do Anything to get this girl to like me, but it just wasnt meant to be. You have become too attached.

** YOU MAY NOT LIKE THE FOLLOWING ADVICE, BUT TRUST ME IT WILL WORK
This is going to be tough. I was an emotional wreak going through this part, but if you want to move on this is the way.

Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. EVERYTHING.
Whenever you feel the urge to go back to her, find some kind of CONSTRUCTIVE hobby to occupy yourself with. *for me, I exercised. Pushups, crunches, Running, Situps... Etc...
Avoid all contact with her, as this will only completely undue all the healing youve had
*You MUST realize that the relationship wont ever work. If you should happen to find yourself talking with her again, IT WILL BE NOTHING MORE THAN A FRIENDSHIP.

Please. Take my advice, because At the beggining of this summer I was ready to cut my life short because of a relationship like yours. I know exactly what that feels like, crawling back to the one who keeps hurting you, and thinking that no body else would be interested. I spent days in a crippling depression until I promised myself to follow the advice above.
Not gonna lie, it is Hard. But it definately gets easier over time.

[Sage]

Masturbate daily and hug a pillow at night while you sleep.

[Ghoti]

You have 2 choices: Love her, or don't
Try harder or forget her
Approach her seductively or Get more friends

[jack straw]

Masturbate daily and hug a pillow at night while you sleep. lol That actually does help




You have 2 choices: Love her, or don't
Try harder or forget her
Approach her seductively or Get more friends

With that kind of relationship it is best to just let go. Now she is the girl of my dreams, she was perfect to me in every single way imaginable, but her gross disragard for my feelings has taken its toll. I know that she can never be made to commit to me in a romantic relationship, I only want to be able to let her go in my own heart, this whole thing has caused me too much pain and torment, I have even attempted at ending my own life due to its violent nature of influence on my emotions. Right there I can tell you that if you dont get out now it will only get worse. I was there too, with suicidal thoughts and attempts about 7-8 months ago. Those few weeks were the lowest point of my entire 16 year existance, and I would do Anything to try to prevent that from happening to anybody else.

Please, just let go. Following my earlier post's advice should definatly help, and always remember that as bad as everything may seem it definatly will get better. Dont think anybody would be interested in you? Give it time; forget about this girl and eventually you will find somebody. I guarentee it. Trust me.