I need Relationship advice....

[Spaceballs14]

I started dating this girl a month and a half ago [(since sept11)i know i know bad date but whatever] and to me it seems like we are going to fast but i love it. it just feels so natural to be with her. I love her so very very much! and we are already talking about sex. But i say i want to but i dont want to cause its too soon. And my girlfriend is saying the same thing. She wants too but she also think its too soon. Its just it seems like we are going so fast with in the relationship.... is this something i should be worried about..... Cause i really would love to be with her forever.

[Maxxy]

Every relationship is different. I've been in a relationship where everything went quick, another was quite slow. It's really up to what you and your girlfriend think is right, but if you are both thinking you are going too quick, you may want to slow down a little. At the end of the day, if it feels right between the two of you, go ahead. Talking with each other is probably the best thing and it seems like you two already are.

By the way, welcome to VT

[Spaceballs14]

ty ^^ my friend is on it all the time and i heard good stuff about it...

and i do talk to her like everyday.... it just really sucks cause i can tell her mom doesnt trust me...
everytime i try to do something with her i cant... even if its going to her house T_T. Her mom keeps finding excuses and it really sucks. Ive tried being friends with her mom and i walk her to her car every day after school and even say hi to her but every time i ask to come over its a no. T_T

[Maxxy]

That's a bit of a bummer. She will in time, but are you your girlfriend's first boyfriend? Maybe she's still adjusting to the idea of her daughter dating, and would be the way she is regardless of who the guy was.

I've had to keep a relationship secret as she was scared of what her parents would say about me. Turns out that after we broke up her parents we like, "Why didn't you two ever get together? It would be perfect."

Don't worry, I think in time she'll come around. Maybe you should slow things down a little then if her mum's like that. That'll probably show her that you're trust worthy

[Spaceballs14]

the thing is we cant slow down XD... i know it sounds stupid but we just cant... and i dont show anything like that in front of her parents or sister or anyof our junior friends (im a junior, she is a freshmen in high school) all i do when we are around anyone at all is hold hand and play around (in a non perverted way) and we are just now starting to kiss (really quickly) around school. The only time we do have together is for like 40 mins around school (like 20 min in morning and 20 mins when ever i see her between periods) but the only days we really have together is monday -looks forward to tomorrow- cause of anime club and her sister is an officer there so she goes to a meeting and i hang out with my gf for like 30 -40 mins but we mostly walk up and down hallways and make out a lil.... ok a lot XD. and then theres thursday after school which is ping pong and i only see her during the meeting.

[LismLFC]

I'm confused you said your just starting to kiss quickly, but you make out "a lot"? To me, that is normal for a relationship that been going on for nearly two months.

Just talk about it, and come to an agreement. Just don't be rushed into it.

[laurita_21]

Just talk about it, and come to an agreement. Just don't be rushed into it.[/QUOTE]
true. talk about it and if your both comfortble with it you could try, i say only do it if you 2 are ok with it and its not somefin your gonna regret :rolleyes:

[Ghoti]

Hey congrats Travis. Also i would slow it down IMO but its your life. Maybe wait for sex.

[unknown2011]

bout time you joined VT....j/k lol. you're going in my signature. and yeah...i pm'ed u...bout this so yeah reply to that.

[Spaceballs14]

ty all ^^ your all a great help i love this site already!


BTW when i said we just started to kiss i ment infront of other random people in school...beside her sister....monday after school is a dif story

[alex95]

just slow down a bit do something thts somewhat like sex finger her or something lol

[Art_dude]

It's great that you have both entered a relationship based on mutual love and kindness for one another :) I wouldn't rush into sex though, especially if you have both discussed your concerns of rushing into it. I'm not saying never have sex - when the time is right, I think you two will be ready, just don't rush into it now. I know you say that you can't "Slow down" right now because you're really horny, but there are plenty of fun, sexual activities you can do without rushing into sex. There's dry humping (a personal favorite of mine XD, mutual masturbation, oral sex, intense kissing etc,.

[AllThatIsLeft]

For your age it is kind of still early to jump to sex.
as the guy said above me, you should start with that.
go by steps,
kissing making out, dry humping, hand jobs / fingering, oral....
I assure you! by the time it reaches up to sex,
it will be that much special, and that much better.

so instead of slowing down, redirect that into other things.
When you're ready for sex, you'll know it

[jack straw]

Think I might know why her mom doesnt trust you. You said you were a Junior, right? an shes a freshman? Sometime parents can get defensive when they see their little freshman daughter with a Big Bad Junior. Every Relationship is different, an since I dont know you personally I wouldnt be able to give perfect advice. I would suggest, however, no matter what your situation that always stay a gentleman. Small things that show your a well-mannered person can go a LONG way in winning over a adults respect.

As far as Sex goes, You will both know when your ready. As Allthatisleft said, "
For your age it is kind of still early to jump to sex.
as the guy said above me, you should start with that.
go by steps,
kissing making out, dry humping, hand jobs / fingering, oral....
I assure you! by the time it reaches up to sex,
it will be that much special, and that much better.

so instead of slowing down, redirect that into other things.
When you're ready for sex, you'll know it That Definatly true.

[Spaceballs14]

i see.... i know for certain we are going to rush in to sex cause we both agreed to do that later ^^ and i plan to be with her later... and that part about being a big bad junior im far from it XD..... im a pasifisist (i dont fight).
and im a bit of a feminisit too i think... and im also trying all i can to be a gentlemen for her parents that the first thing i worried about.... ok i lied second thing i worried about when i got with her...

but still ty you all for helping ^^

[Contra]

I think you are too young to rush into a sexual relation so soon. You should wait a bit more until you are really sure you are both ready, and one month and a half in that age is not enough, probably.
I think you shouldn't do anything you can regret later. :)

[Ghoti]

Making out is best :D

[jack straw]

i see.... i know for certain we are going to rush in to sex cause we both agreed to do that later ^^ and i plan to be with her later... and that part about being a big bad junior im far from it XD..... im a pasifisist (i dont fight).
and im a bit of a feminisit too i think... and im also trying all i can to be a gentlemen for her parents that the first thing i worried about.... ok i lied second thing i worried about when i got with her...

but still ty you all for helping ^^
I just used the term "Big bad junior" to say that the parents can be intimidated by their daughter dating older guys, lol nothing wrong with being a pasifist, I think they just might be intimidated by your age

I think you are too young to rush into a sexual relation so soon. You should wait a bit more until you are really sure you are both ready, and one month and a half in that age is not enough, probably.
I think you shouldn't do anything you can regret later. :)

True. Very true. I have always felt Age is a very bad factor in judging somebodys readiness forsomething, but I'd definatly make sure you an her are more than ready before you go rushing into sex. And to prevent regrets later in life, CoNdOmS!, and (sorry to sound repetive, but its very important) Make sure you are both ready.

[Spaceballs14]

i see.... i know for certain we are going to rush in to sex cause we both agreed to do that later ^^ and i plan to be with her later... and that part about being a big bad junior im far from it XD..... im a pasifisist (i dont fight).
and im a bit of a feminisit too i think... and im also trying all i can to be a gentlemen for her parents that the first thing i worried about.... ok i lied second thing i worried about when i got with her...

but still ty you all for helping ^^
first of all i made a mistake i ment to say we arent XD my bad XD
or at leaset i think thats what i meant to say lol

[newbie]

i just read ur first post,and i thought about me and the gf, we first did it after 2 months because that just felt right,we had known each other a good while and were totally comfortable and have been goin out for aggges now!
we often do it and enjoy it as much as we did the first time,if u both feel right,i say go for it.just remember....be safe.

[Spaceballs14]

k now.... i have a new question.... is it normal to be jealous cause of my gf hanging out with other guys?
i mean i didnt mind it enless they got to close or asked her out. but ever sense i started dating her i know at least 3-4 guys i think are hitting on her...

i got jealous today cause in a blog on myspace she was saying how this one guy made her feel really happy today and she went on saying how that one person hanged out with her instead of his other friends.... and i got jealous cause i always try to make her happy but some other guy beat me to it.

[Quick_Sylver]

Have you drifted apart? Been with friends more than each other? It's normal to get jealous in a relationship.

[Spaceballs14]

we want to spend alot of time together but we cant..... cause of her parents and cause of school.... i mean it would really help if we had same lunch which im gonna try to switch next semister and i thought i made her happy cause i always walk her to class and i always flirt and kiss her but idk i just hate freshmen guys XD .... i know theres this older guy that hits on her and im trying to stop it. then theres this junior that i think is hitting on her but he also does hits on the other girls in my group so im not that worried. and i trust her 100% i just dont trust the guys.... enless that guy is shawn XD

[Quick_Sylver]

Could it be that the passion died down?

Shawn? *hears the focus point of the jealousy* Is she flirting back?

[Spaceballs14]

i dont think so... cause i always kiss her and make out and stuff