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The Harlequin
November 1st, 2009, 06:12 PM
I am so furious at the moment...

With myself, with people I know ~ it's crap! First thing is people who I've trusted to keep my only Goddamn secret keep bloody well stabbin me in the back! I am bi ~ I've only trusted that to a few people in my life, and a few times now I've said to them "Look can you keep this absolutely quiet" to which they say "Yeah, sure." and THEN I find out that they've told other people ~ and it makes me so ANGRY! It's not THEIR secret! What is it, don't they respect me enough to keep a promise?!

And secondly ~ I love my bf, I mean really love him, and yet I get so frustrated with the way that we can't show our true feelings to each other unless we're in private, and it is really hard to deal with at times, I don't know what to do... And he won't come out to his parents, not even one of them. I have, and it was really hard, but I just feel at times that he really should, but I don't want to pressure him into it ~ I don't want to be walked in on, but I don't want to appear selfish either, forcing it on him... What do you do in a situation like this...?

I'm pissed off with myself because I know that I have to tell one of my mot homophobic mates that I'm bi, before somebody else just diregards the importance of my secrecy, but every time I'm about to tell him I just... Can't...

I don't know what's the matter with me ~ I'm no coward, but for some reason I just can't bring myself to tell him, and it's making me feel so damn useless, what am I gonna do if he finds out from someone else? isn't that going to make this so much worse?!

I need advice, I just hate not ever KNOWING what to do anymore...

Stewart
November 1st, 2009, 06:22 PM
You and me have the same problem. Blabber mouths. So now everyone pretty much knows. I would hang out with your boyfriend in public. Who cares if you get hated, Its better to be hated for who you are then to be loved for someone your not.

Anyways, I would just life your life and go on autopilot for a while, let everything falls in place

Good luck! :)

The Harlequin
November 4th, 2009, 05:59 PM
But I don't know if that's even what he wants as he won't even tell his parents, let alone let us be seen together by anyone in the street... I don't want to make him uncomfortable but I'm standing on a knife edge at the moment, I keep getting the feeling that everybody's gonna know before I'm even ready to deal with that kind of pressure (N)

damn I need advice (X^{

nick
November 4th, 2009, 06:19 PM
You should know that there's no such thing as a secret, especially not in schools, thats just how it is. The only way to keep something secret is not to tell anybody at all, it works well for me.

I think you should respect your bfs right to choose his own time and speed to come out. I can fully understand why that causes frustration for you but I really dont think it would be right for you to put him under any pressure about it.

Fourth Dimension
November 4th, 2009, 09:51 PM
ik what thats like

sam i am
November 5th, 2009, 03:04 PM
IK how u feel my dude when in 8th grade i wanted to tell some people and all of a sudden when im in gym class my friend told me everybody knows -_- like wtf people are just un trust worthy..Just stay strong,don't let them bring u down. At least u know who ur REAL friends are