Am I being selfish?

[uihwljtkegr]

Hey all,
Just wanting to get a second oppinion on this.

There's this girl who used to go to my school (she's left for university now), who was in the year above me. Now I'm sure most of you will know what I mean when I say that we all have this vision of our perfect other half; Well this girl was damn near as close as I'm ever gonna get to that person. It was like I knew her before I met actually met her. (this probably sounds very far fetched and strange, but what the hell..)

In other words she is exactly what I look for in a person (And no, I realise thats not the sort of thing that you want to go and tell the person, so as not too look like a stalker or something). Now the other main problem (the first being that I've not seen her in months, since she left for uni) is that she's going out with this guy. The guy seems nice enough I guess (trying to be as un-biased as I can here ), but he seems to be the type that can get very jealous, or so I get the impression. And I'm usually a good judge of character.

Now despite not having seen her in quite a while, I still think of her rather a lot. Since she left for uni. she has made quite a few new friends. As such, there have been quite a few photos and such on facebook recently of her hanging around with other guys (purely as a friend, nothing more - don't get the wrong idea now). Looking at some of the photos, I can safely say that its the sort of thing that would make her boyfriend jealous.

But I keep finding myself hoping that he feels jealous. As if I want him to. This is rather out of character for me. Its strange really; Part of me wants them to split up because, I assume, of the way that I feel about her. But at the same time I don't, because I don't want her to be hurt in any way shape or form. I mean if she's happy (which she is) then I have nothing against her going out with this person, but yeah...

Am I just being selfish?

[TheTruth]

I dont really think you can be selfish when it comes to love, if you have the most immense feelings for her then it's only natural, it's up to her to find out whether this guy is the jealous type and whether he is good enough for her. I think your jealous that he probably doesn't know what he's got compared to your views of her but selfish no.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

like the truth said, its ok to be selfish sometimes when it comes to love, but this is not one of those times, you said it yourself, shes happy. So let her be happy, and move on.

[Art_dude]

Honestly... yea you're being a little selfish. Is that perfectly normal and part of being human? Absolutely. If you two have never gone out, I think it would be unfair for her to have you announce your feelings for her when she's has moved on to a new life, and a university. I think you should try to let this one go bud. There's plenty of other fish in the sea.

[Gumleaf]

dude, i think you need to try and move on from her. she is at uni now, has no reguar contact with you and is in a happy relationship regardless of whether her bf gets jealous or not. i know finding the right girl is hard, but when she is taken, you are robbing yourself the chance to find someone else if you keep hoping she might become available and you have a chance. also, it would be selfish of you to try and intefere with their relationship. the bottom line is that you should try and get over her and move on.

[uihwljtkegr]

Yeah, I guess if I'm being honest with myself, I do need to move on. I guess it was just a slight glimmer of hope, what with him noticably talking to her less and less, and the university still being within the same city. And of course, I would never dream of trying to interfere with her relationship.

She's happy, and content as she is, so I have no intention of doing anything that could change that. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm not going to cut myself off from her entirely, as we still get on well. At the end of the day, atleast I've made a friend!