Social Freak

[Ghoti]

I am a freak in talking situations. I have nothing to say and am extreeemely anxious. I love to talk to some people though by myself one to one if i know them good. But i get scared to death if i see someone that knows me. Someone help me please! I have like one friend and we dont even talk. I am scared to talk to people.

[Lily of the Valley]

You're just gonna have to suck it up. The more you force yourself to not be a pansy, the less you'll have a problem with it. Face your fears and whatnot.

~Maggot

[Ghoti]

You're just gonna have to suck it up.

~Maggot

thats what she said

but also its more of a habit now its hard (t.w.s.s.)

[Lily of the Valley]

thats what she saidAnd this is why you don't have friends.
but also its more of a habit now its hard (t.w.s.s.)People can break habits. Don't make excuses.

~Maggot

[Ghoti]

Look if you told a turtle to run a marathon it'd be kinda hard...

[Lily of the Valley]

Look if you told a turtle to run a marathon it'd be kinda hard...Not really. Turtles are actually quite fast, and I say this from the experience of having owned one as a child. Damn, that sucker could run. :lol:

~Maggot

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Once again, Laura (or do you prefer Maggot, I know you always sign with that?) gets straight to the point.

If you want to become more comfortable in social situations, you need to put yourself in more social situations. Work your way into it, gradually increase the amount of time you spend in groups of people, force yourself to talk to people you don't know. A good place to do this is school, particularly at the start of the year or semester. If you're in a class where you don't know anyone, turn to the person sitting next to you (or whoever looks most approachable), and have a piece of paper ready to ask them to write down their name and phone number. Offer them yours. Explain that you don't know anyone and this way you each have someone you can call for the homework if you're absent. Good first day of school activity to get to know someone in the class. It's little, it doesn't guarantee that you'll talk much in the future or be friends or anything, but it's forcing yourself to talk to new people. Those are the kinds of things I would work on. once you realize that nothing bad is going to happen, it'll be easier.

You can take small steps, but keep taking them. It's really the only way.

Also, you mention getting anxious when you see people you know in public while you're out with your mom. Does your mom have anything to do with this, is she part of why you don't like running into people? What's the deal with that?

Look if you told a turtle to run a marathon it'd be kinda hard...

Well, he may not run it in record time, but he could still do it.

[Ghoti]

Hey thanks
my family and school dont mix
its like if you got caught masturbating in my book
i mean i dont know why they just dont mix for some reason.
i get all red and my eyes water when i talk to people lol.

[Lily of the Valley]

Once again, Laura (or do you prefer Maggot, I know you always sign with that?) gets straight to the point.Psh, whatever. You could call me Fluffernutter for all I care.

By the way, thanks for not throwing a bitchfit about my...bluntness. I don't (usually) try to be mean, but things tend to come out that way 'cause I kind of ignore that filter most people use that keeps them from being too blunt. So thank you. :)

~Maggot

[Hyper]

Did I hear SUPER FREAK?!

Yah really suck it up.. Or rather don't pay attention to it. If something or rather someone you really want comes along you'll get over your shy nature unless you staple your lips together

[Sage]

You could always try narcissism. Talking to people has become unbelievably easy for me once I convinced myself I'm better than them.

[Lily of the Valley]

You could always try narcissism. Talking to people has become unbelievably easy for me once I convinced myself I'm better than them.Haha, that's exactly what I did. Virtual high five? Y/y?

http://kara.allthingsd.com/files/2008/11/virtual-high-five.gif

~Maggot

[drumir93]

You could always try narcissism. Talking to people has become unbelievably easy for me once I convinced myself I'm better than them.

Hah, as terrible as it sounds that's pretty much the same for me.
I'm still a very private person and really don't enjoy most conversations I end up in.
But whenever I find myself getting nervous when talking to someone, I just find myself thinking "Why am I afraid of this person, I'm smarter than them."
And from that point on I'm the leader of the conversation, since being the smartest I'm the most qualified.;)

[overcome.]

Nobody's problems should be overlooked. However, the amount you make excuses it just shows people that you don't really want it that badly. People are told all the time about how they can't do things, I'm talking about overcoming the odds to whatever life throws at you. Taking into account some things are much easier said that done. You can do it, you have to believe. You don't believe in yourself.

[Lily of the Valley]

To whomever neg-repped me with this: "Some peoples problems go deeper than that. You can't just "suck up" a paranoia or disorder." You completely misunderstood, like, everything I was saying. Way to go.

Seeing as I have an anxiety disorder, OCD, and a severe phobia of heights, I understand that things like that can't just be sucked up. They'll always be there. What I did say was that he had to suck it up (i.e. do his best to suppress his fears) and force himself to do what it is he's afraid of. Is there really anyone in their right mind who would disagree with that? I doubt it.

I do apologise I didn't word it so you could understand it. I'll be sure to consult you next time before making a post. OH WAIT, I CAN'T. YOU DIDN'T HAVE THE BALLS TO SIGN YOUR NAME. Ah well. :)

~Maggot

[overcome.]

What I did say was that he had to suck it up (i.e. do his best to suppress his fears) and force himself to do what it is he's afraid of. Is there really anyone in their right mind who would disagree with that? I doubt it.

I certainly agree with you, coming from another person with an anxiety disorder and phobia, I confronted a fear tonight and feel much better for it. I would have felt like crap sitting at home knowing I got beat. I refuse to. Good mentality.

[Lily of the Valley]

I certainly agree with you, coming from another person with an anxiety disorder and phobia, I confronted a fear tonight and feel much better for it. I would have felt like crap sitting at home knowing I got beat. I refuse to. Good mentality.It's weird. I've got an extreme phobia or heights and tight spaces, right? Like, super extreme. But I also used to be terrified of spiders. I forced myself to put up with spiders, and now they don't bother me in the slightest. But when I've forced myself to put up with heights, I've not noticed any difference. I spent years doing it, and it never helped. I dunno why it does with one and not the other. =/

~Maggot

[overcome.]

I'm unsure, I consider my phobia extreme also, as in affects your life daily, like tight spaces would too. A stab in the dark, maybe because you don't always come into contact with spiders every day? Where as you'll have more of a chance to come into contact with great heights. In time you know yourself that you'll be able to cope with it a lot better. You know that yourself and I know that, because I sense you're a strong person.

[Lily of the Valley]

I'm unsure, I consider my phobia extreme also, as in affects your life daily, like tight spaces would too. A stab in the dark, maybe because you don't always come into contact with spiders every day? Where as you'll have more of a chance to come into contact with great heights. In time you know yourself that you'll be able to cope with it a lot better. You know that yourself and I know that, because I sense you're a strong person.Actually, I come into spiders incredibly often. I'm outside a lot, I live in the country, I work at a barn, etc. But heights I do too. I get freaked out every day at school walking down the stairs into the commons. I avoid it now as much as I can, and when I can't avoid it, I still get freaked out.

Although, the claustrophobia I don't encounter too much. I had to get an MRI of my lower back a little while ago. We drove an hour away to get an open MRI instead of a regular one, but I was so freaked out that I just bawled and panicked the whole 20 minutes or whatever it took. I wasn't right for days after that. Dunno wtf is with that. =|

~Maggot

[Ghoti]

You could always try narcissism. Talking to people has become unbelievably easy for me once I convinced myself I'm better than them.

Good idea, i see myself as insignificant so a great theory. I'll try it! :D

[Ghoti]

Let's stick to the topic guys ;)