its doin my bloody head in now

[Dibzy-Time]

One min he wants to move out sell the car and start a new life now he wants to stay at home with his mum.
Hes 25 and hes tellin me 2 difrent things.
Now hes sayin that he never wants to move out.
hmmm.... great new family plans for me n him to have kids and live together and het married now he wants nothing.
Weve been planning all this 4 a year n 2 months. Im done now

[XxHaViiK]

He sounds like a mommas boy. I think if your really having that much trouble with him, it's time to find someone else.

[Dibzy-Time]

everytime i try n get shot ov him he forces me ta stay and theres no gettin rid ov him. I have my eye on sum 1 ealse but he knows him aswell. I hardly no the other dude n hes a fair bit olda than me

[Aves]

Ok, before anything, how old are you that you are planing on moving out with a guy?
And secondly, maybe wait till you can support yourselves without having to sell a car. It might come in handy.

[Dibzy-Time]

we can offord to move out without sellin the car. we wanted to do iot so we cn start afresh so no 1 recocanises thats his car

[Sage]

everytime i try n get shot ov him he forces me ta stay and theres no gettin rid ov him. I have my eye on sum 1 ealse but he knows him aswell. I hardly no the other dude n hes a fair bit olda than me

If you really can't spell 'of', 'else', 'to', or 'older', I would really have to doubt whether you're ready to live with anybody at all, nevermind raise a family. But hey, that's just my 2 cents.

[Art_dude]

Ditto to what Deschain said :P

In all seriousness though, it sounds like this guy has some insecurities and is waaay to clingy to his mom. You need to have a discussion with him and tell him, "Look this is what WE agreed on as a couple and you need to go through with this. It's unfair to me."
If he is a grown adult and can't move out of his own mother's home and the excuse is not Financial: then there's a BIG issue. I wouldn't give him an all-or-nothing, but you should stress the point that, that's how strongly you feel about it. It sounds like you've reached the last straw and he needs to know that.

[sebbie]

One min he wants to move out sell the car and start a new life now he wants to stay at home with his mum.
Hes 25 and hes tellin me 2 difrent things.
Now hes sayin that he never wants to move out.
hmmm.... great new family plans for me n him to have kids and live together and het married now he wants nothing.
Weve been planning all this 4 a year n 2 months. Im done now

Whatever you plan to do, make sure you think it through properly and do not rush anything. Remember that people will say different things if they are in different situations, talk things through and decide what is best for both of you.

[Dibzy-Time]

now its happend again. We arrange to go out for lunch to discuss things and see what we can do. He stood me up and went to lunch with his mum instead without even a text. I found out through his sister

[sebbie]

now its happend again. We arrange to go out for lunch to discuss things and see what we can do. He stood me up and went to lunch with his mum instead without even a text. I found out through his sister

My advice then is to straight up ask him where you stand with him. Maybe try saying you are not trying to come first above his family, but on an equal level with them. Also say how unfair it is for him to stand you up, people should make arrangements if they cannot commit to them.