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[greatoldone]

I know this might get locked, but i really dont know where to ask this.


ok. my girlfriend is getting on birth control soon, because her mom is afraid she might get pregnant, and that means we can have sex without worrying about it. i want to ask her when she'll be ready, but i dont know what i would say. does anybody have any advice?

[krzwis]

first question to you: why do you want to have sex and are you completely ready for it? You willing to accept the problems associated with it? You feel personaly and mentaly developed to have sex and not having any negative sideaffects in your relationship with yourself and your relationship with her?
Will you remember to love her for who she is in her heart and not her naked body? Will you love her? Will you not use her just for sex? Will you not use her?

Once those are answered...answer these

Are you willing to take a chance that condoms can break and pills can fail? Are you willing to take a chance that one slip and you could be facing with fathership at 14? Are you willing to risk love and tempt lust?



The thing is, you SHOULD NOT be having sex at 14. Unless you two agree on it. I sapose if you two are making out one day you can ask quietly in the moment of things "Do you want this to go farther?"

[Elscire]

WOOT!! underage sex relationship. J/K are you even ready to do it with her? you should wait till you're 18 or until you get married cause i went to a website telling about girls my age already had been deflowered and/or had one baby

[kolte]

sex is about love and connection.
don't rush it.
you may regreat it.

[-Silence]

Will you remember to love her for who she is in her heart and not her naked body? Will you love her? Will you not use her just for sex?

Sorry, had to quote that. It needs to be read again.


Anyways, maybe just talk to her, her feelings about it, don't rush up to her say, "Hey you wanna have sex?" and then rush into it. Is she 14 also? Understand that she may not be ready, accept that. If you truely care for her, you'll wait until she's ready and totally comfortable.

[Bored0405]

i aren't going to go deep into the human nature of love and crap (it is important but...) if you are both ready and want 2...theres is no reason why u shouldn't...just make sure shes ready!!!!!!!!!!!! as well as yourself, don't just feel like u ave 2 causes its cool.