what. the. hell.

[1_21Guns]

cut a long story short,
my aunties splitting up with my uncle - my uncle knows, and its tearing the family apart.
my uncle is now stalking my auntie
and my auntie has to sneak around
aparantly this is my problem because my mum just HAS to tell me.
everyones lieing to eachother and the family is just about ready to explode.
seriously what the hell. like i dont have enough without knowing everythings about to go bang. jesus.
it was all ment to be after christmas. but it wont matter anyway. it'll be ruined either way. fucking bullshit. tired of my family being idiots. and what am i supposed to do when my cousins will be in peices and i'll probably get told to help them b'cos i've 'been through it'
ugh. why does there have to be sneaking when its all been said. why do adults only complicate things further. i'm not niave either before you start saying that. i had to grow up fast and i know most dangers that most others dont think of. i just dont get why it has to be so epically complicated.

[NightFighter]

Firstly, it sounds like your mother needs to talk about it to someone. Surely you know the feeling when something big is happening in your life which causes you stress and you just need to speak to someone about it. "A problem shared is a problem halved."
So, just go easy on your mum. All you need to do is listen.
Secondly, your parents have had a divorce and you know how hard it can be for children involved so i dont understand why you dont want to help others in the same situation which you were in. Tell them its not their fault and that things will get better.

Your family need you right now. So be there for them.

[1_21Guns]

Firstly, it sounds like your mother needs to talk about it to someone. Surely you know the feeling when something big is happening in your life which causes you stress and you just need to speak to someone about it. "A problem shared is a problem halved."
So, just go easy on your mum. All you need to do is listen.
Secondly, your parents have had a divorce and you know how hard it can be for children involved so i dont understand why you dont want to help others in the same situation which you were in. Tell them its not their fault and that things will get better.

Your family need you right now. So be there for them.

I know she needs someone to talk to, but its hard to explain whats really going on. Adults shouldnt lean on kids, they arn't strong enough. I know she needs me, but I can't take this stress and anything else life decides to throw at me.
And my situation was different to my cousins, i asked for my parents to split because of years of abuse from my father (my mum doesn't know thats why), my cousins however didnt ask for it. its a completely different situation. and nothing got better with me. sure its my fault for telling you half a story, but theres no need to have a go like that tbh.

[NightFighter]

Sorry, i really didnt mean to sound so aggressive.
Maybe you could tell your mum that you find it difficult when she offloads her thoughts to you. She might not know that it is having such a bad effect on you.

[1_21Guns]

Sorry, i really didnt mean to sound so aggressive.
Maybe you could tell your mum that you find it difficult when she offloads her thoughts to you. She might not know that it is having such a bad effect on you.

Its alright, probably me that took it that way.
and I would, but she doesn't even know i'm remotely upset, nevemind depressed, so its difficult. i'm too good at lieing and acting okay to tell her..

[Lily of the Valley]

cut a long story short,
my aunties splitting up with my uncle - my uncle knows, and its tearing the family apart.
my uncle is now stalking my auntie
and my auntie has to sneak around
aparantly this is my problem because my mum just HAS to tell me.
everyones lieing to eachother and the family is just about ready to explode.
seriously what the hell. like i dont have enough without knowing everythings about to go bang. jesus.
it was all ment to be after christmas. but it wont matter anyway. it'll be ruined either way. fucking bullshit. tired of my family being idiots. and what am i supposed to do when my cousins will be in peices and i'll probably get told to help them b'cos i've 'been through it'
ugh. why does there have to be sneaking when its all been said. why do adults only complicate things further. i'm not niave either before you start saying that. i had to grow up fast and i know most dangers that most others dont think of. i just dont get why it has to be so epically complicated.When she tries to tell you, don't listen or leave. Duh. No one can make you listen to them.

By the way, if you're going on about adults making things complicated and wah, then you haven't grown up as much as you think you have. Also, you're very focused on yourself durin gthis. Seriously, your aunt's being stalked and your cousins are going through something really pretty tough, and you're bitching about yourself? About you having to hear about it and help your cousins? Wtf. Grow up.

~Maggot

[1_21Guns]

When she tries to tell you, don't listen or leave. Duh. No one can make you listen to them.

By the way, if you're going on about adults making things complicated and wah, then you haven't grown up as much as you think you have. Also, you're very focused on yourself durin gthis. Seriously, your aunt's being stalked and your cousins are going through something really pretty tough, and you're bitching about yourself? About you having to hear about it and help your cousins? Wtf. Grow up.

~Maggot

What the hell? ofc I have to listen to her, what am i supposed to do? rudley walk away? that may be what you do, however i don't
and secondly your quick to judge. its my fault they're going through this, and i've been through more than them. so yeah. i will sit there slagging myself off, okay? I'm not sure if its me or you who needs to grow up.

[Lily of the Valley]

What the hell? ofc I have to listen to her, what am i supposed to do? rudley walk away? that may be what you do, however i don'tSo instead you're going to bitch to people online about how your family is comprised of idiots? Lawlz. And no, you don't have to just walk away. Tell her hearing about it upsets you or some shit.and secondly your quick to judge. its my fault they're going through this, and i've been through more than them. so yeah. i will sit there slagging myself off, okay? I'm not sure if its me or you who needs to grow up.Aw, poor bub. You've been through more than they have? Well then, you certainly don't need to help your cousins through a difficult time in their lives. That'd be ridiculous! You just keep wallowing in your self-pity. I'm sure that'll make it all better. ;)

~Maggot

[1_21Guns]

So instead you're going to bitch to people online about how your family is comprised of idiots? Lawlz. And no, you don't have to just walk away. Tell her hearing about it upsets you or some shit.Aw, poor bub. You've been through more than they have? Well then, you certainly don't need to help your cousins through a difficult time in their lives. That'd be ridiculous! You just keep wallowing in your self-pity. I'm sure that'll make it all better. ;)

~Maggot

i spend half my life helping everyone else and not even once thinking about my own problems, sorry if because of that i get like this. maybe you should watch your mouth and learn to bite your toungue, because you'll pick a fight with the wrong person one day, i'm sure sarcastic tone in your replies is somewhat abusive. now why dont you get off this threat, learn to grow up and treat peoples lives with respect then try and help someone?.

[Lily of the Valley]

i spend half my life helping everyone else and not even once thinking about my own problems, sorry if because of that i get like this.So you're overcompensating now?maybe you should watch your mouth and learn to bite your toungue, because you'll pick a fight with the wrong person one day,Haha, probably. Chances are that's now I'm gonna die. I'll piss the wrong person off and end up with a bullet in my skull.i'm sure sarcastic tone in your replies is somewhat abusive. now why dont you get off this threat, learn to grow up and treat peoples lives with respect then try and help someone?.I'm perfectly willing to help people. But I have no sympathy or desire to help someone who's only concerned about themselves when they should be worried about the people that are actually suffering in the situation. I've seen people that have just had a friend die or whatever and going on and on about how everything bad happens to them and poor them, and I'm like, uh, wtf. You're friend just DIED, never even got to leave their lives, and you're complaining about yourself? That's just pathetic.

~Maggot

[1_21Guns]

So you're overcompensating now?Haha, probably. Chances are that's now I'm gonna die. I'll piss the wrong person off and end up with a bullet in my skull.I'm perfectly willing to help people. But I have no sympathy or desire to help someone who's only concerned about themselves when they should be worried about the people that are actually suffering in the situation. I've seen people that have just had a friend die or whatever and going on and on about how everything bad happens to them and poor them, and I'm like, uh, wtf. You're friend just DIED, never even got to leave their lives, and you're complaining about yourself? That's just pathetic.

~Maggot

you clearly struggle to see things from peoples point of view, i know full well how hard it is for everyone else, i have to watch my mum get stressed and upset, i get to watch everything crumble just like everyone else, so am i not allowed to feel bad too? the person was probably going on like that because they're blaming themselves for whats going on. srsly. learn to see the full picture, because seeing half of it isnt doing you any favours. i actually couldnt care less about myself. who's really being pathetic. you dont pick arguments with someone whos upset, thats just sheer boredom. you've been on here 7 days. you dont go about upsetting people on a forum to help people.

[Lily of the Valley]

you clearly struggle to see things from peoples point of view, i know full well how hard it is for everyone else, i have to watch my mum get stressed and upset, i get to watch everything crumble just like everyone else, so am i not allowed to feel bad too?You're again going on about yourself. the person was probably going on like that because they're blaming themselves for whats going on.Classic projection with a hint of disassociation.srsly. learn to see the full picture, because seeing half of it isnt doing you any favours.You're just BSing now, aren't you?i actually couldnt care less about myself.You said: "i spend half my life helping everyone else and not even once thinking about my own problems, sorry if because of that i get like this." And now you're saying you couldn't care less about yourself. Contradition.
who's really being pathetic.Stephanie Myer? I dunno. Is this a trick question? =/you dont pick arguments with someone whos upset, thats just sheer boredom.http://gloomies.com/comics/2006-11-30-thanks_reality_you_bear_the_most_important_tidings.jpgyou've been on here 7 days. you dont go about upsetting people on a forum to help people.You know, I actually had a friend online who was a druggie and an alcoholic (before we became friends), and she was always bitching about it. And I was like this to her. Eventually she stopped, and after we became friends, she thanked me because she said that it was my brutal honesty that snapped her back into reality. Good times. Goooood times.

~Maggot

[1_21Guns]

You're again going on about yourself. Classic projection with a hint of disassociation.You're just BSing now, aren't you?You said: "i spend half my life helping everyone else and not even once thinking about my own problems, sorry if because of that i get like this." And now you're saying you couldn't care less about yourself. Contradition.
Stephanie Myer? I dunno. Is this a trick question? =/http://gloomies.com/comics/2006-11-30-thanks_reality_you_bear_the_most_important_tidings.jpgYou know, I actually had a friend online who was a druggie and an alcoholic (before we became friends), and she was always bitching about it. And I was like this to her. Eventually she stopped, and after we became friends, she thanked me because she said that it was my brutal honesty that snapped her back into reality. Good times. Goooood times.

~Maggot

well you've upset me tbh, the way you've rephrased and twisted my words. so i guess it doesn't work for everyone. i dont need snapping into anything, i know exactly where i am. some people cant take remarks like the ones you make, so could you stop making them to me? kthxbi

[Lily of the Valley]

well you've upset me tbh, the way you've rephrased and twisted my words. so i guess it doesn't work for everyone. i dont need snapping into anything, i know exactly where i am. some people cant take remarks like the ones you make, so could you stop making them to me? kthxbiI can live with that. I'm watching Man Stroke Woman anyway. WHO KNEW BRITISH TV COULD BE FUNNY? =o

~Maggot