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Kahn
October 26th, 2009, 06:49 PM
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NightFighter
October 26th, 2009, 08:25 PM
When it comes to social situations you cant keep on bailing out or else it will turn into a habit. Many people get scared and dread going out in public but things will never improve if you dont push yourself to go out and do them. Next time you have plans to go out just remember that you will probably have a good time. My motto is 'If you think you will regret not going, go'
Inorder to be happy in the place you are you need to make an effort. If you try then you'll come to enjoy your stay for however long you're there. Even if its just a short stay atleast you'll have the memories.
You should also speak to your mum about your constant moving. She seems like she would do anything to get you happy. She just wants you to be happy. So i think she will do her best to make that happen.
Take Care.

Kahn
October 26th, 2009, 09:57 PM
Well I've been becoming less and less social for like three years... I don't know why.. It just happened.

tyler27846
October 26th, 2009, 10:27 PM
Maybe you could try to do thigns you like or go and talk to a therapist or someone else and if you ever need to talk just pm or im me

daveywavey
October 27th, 2009, 12:21 AM
Adam, i know how it is man, i also have moved around ALOT, not to mension i left my ex boyfriend/my dad / my sister and all my dads side of the family behind in california as i moved too canada due to a divorce about 11 months ago, i know EXACTLY the pain you are feeling Adam, and i would love to help you and talk with you about it, i have been tyring to get ahold of you but we keep playing PM/IM tag, it gets better Adam, i know it feels like it doesn't but it does bro, please keep a possitive attitude, and MESSAGE ME ADAM, because we need to talk , having some one to EMPATHIZE with and not recieve SYMPATHY from, is freakin huge man, please contact me, i know we can work through this together bud, keep strong adam, day by day bro, life is a god darn marrygoround, when you are going through puberty and when you , miss someone whos been around you your whole life, it eats a hole in you adam, let me help you fill your void bud, as bad as that sounds, i believe i can HELP you


davey

Alfred Pennyworth
November 2nd, 2009, 04:11 AM
I feel the same way as you, only I haven't been moving. It's all of my close friends that I keep losing. Even the girl who I loved and still love has moved away. You're lucky to have a counselor though, because I don't have one and don't know where I can find one without being interrogated by my parents. I don't know if I would still be here if it weren't for everyone at VT and the aforementioned girl. You've gotta remember that just about everybody on here will be more that glad to talk, and that there are people like you out there. It get's tough, believe me, and I'm probably sounding like your mom, but things do and WILL get better. You will just have to ride the storm out, and remember, even if we don't truly know each other, all of us can ride this storm out together, and eventually, we'll make it out into the clear, blue skies where we can finally stop and rest.

Art_dude
November 3rd, 2009, 01:31 PM
I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this right now :( Should you want to PM me, My door is always open.

I've been the victim of multiple moves in my childhood, and tweenhood, and it definitely screws with your head. It's never easy to make transitions into new environments. Not to point this out to insult you, but I'm picking up on this bad mindset you have of not getting used to moving. To me it seems you have some deep rooted fears and anxieties about groundlessness (Comes as no surprise seeing as you've moved around multiple times. To a kid growing up, moving is like pulling the rug out from underneath you). Nevertheless, I think your anti-social nature is a sub-concious result of this fear: "Why form new friendships and attachments when I will most likely have to lose them and move again?" If you learn to live in the present moment (which sounds like you did when you proved yourself wrong by having a good time at the water park) without fear of impermanence, then you will see a huge paradigm shift.