Is it possible

[Billy15]

If like a kid is sexually abused for an extended period of time, do you think it could have something to do with his sexuality later on in life? I'm trying real hard to piece stuff together and make sense of all this liking boys stuff, so I was just wondering thats all.

[XxHaViiK]

Well, not everyone thinks the same way. Some people could just forget it, and others might be afraid of that sex.

[nick]

Yes, I think it could have an effect, but it doesnt mean that it has had an effect. Lots of us find we like boys without having been abused and have to make sense of it with no excuse or reason to cling on to. For most of us its just how we are, nothing anyone else would do could change it.

pm me if you feel it would help to talk to me further.

[Billy15]

I probably messed that question up but what I meant was (not so much the abuse itself) but the fact that the abuse was the first sexual experience. Because gay stuff was a first experience at a real young age, could that have made that much of an impression? Could I be attracted to guys now because that's what I know more about?
Sorry, I don't know what I'm trying to say.

[Cloud]

Or maybe your just gay?
there doesnt have to be a cause for you being gay maybe you jsut are
dont ponder for an excuse live it to the max

[nick]

William, I can only repeat myself. Yes, I think it could have affected you, but to be honest I cant see that it would have turned you off girls. It seems as if you feel guilty about the idea that you might be gay, really those kind of thoughts will get you nowhere.

If you are worried that your experience of abuse is affecting you now, as you go through puberty, dont ask us about it, get some professional councelling. But if its just that you're gay, well learn to accept it, its who you are, you cant change it.

[BlackenedSilver]

It could have had an effect it all depends on what you think the reason is that some people turn out gay and others arn't. But like Calum said I wouldn't worry about it too much.. =/ What's done is done just focus on the future and see how that turns out. :D

[Lily of the Valley]

You're asking a group of young teenagers what they think on a highly debated topic amongst the psychiatric community in order to determine your own sexuality and basis for it?

~Maggot

[Billy15]

Yea Laura, guess it was a pretty lame question but it's something I've just been wondering for a while so thought I'd throw it out. I'm not stuck on the past and I don't blame anyone but at the same time it's a huge reality to accept, especially in this family and in this area but if I am gay (and I think I am) I'll hang and I'll make the best of it.
I don't want you guys thinking I'm all freaked by it but I'll admit, I do feel a little like an Island right now, especially around here.

[enzenzz]

Well, if it was your first and only sexual experience then you can conclude that it is a deciding factor as to what you are feeling now. But if you have experienced heterosexual sex and still prefer the other then it is already a choice or some would say your true nature.

[CaptainObvious]

Yea Laura, guess it was a pretty lame question but it's something I've just been wondering for a while so thought I'd throw it out. I'm not stuck on the past and I don't blame anyone but at the same time it's a huge reality to accept, especially in this family and in this area but if I am gay (and I think I am) I'll hang and I'll make the best of it.
I don't want you guys thinking I'm all freaked by it but I'll admit, I do feel a little like an Island right now, especially around here.

I'm so sorry to hear you were abused, bud. That's very tough. However, you are strong and it won't define you as a person, and almost certainly hasn't

Don't feel bad for wondering; lots of people go through a period of wondering if some specific thing caused them to be gay. For me, I went to an all-boys school, and when I first realied I was gay I questioned whether that had something to do with it.

At the end of the day though, there's no way to tell what made you how you are. And really? It's not that important. You are who you are and there's nothing wrong with you, even if people where you live don't see that.

[Billy15]

Cool, thanks guys, it's helped a lot just to hear what you have to say. I like this place and I hope my question aren't to lame.

[Phenomenal TJ]

In my years of knowing people that have gone through this I tend to think and see the opposite.

For example, if a boy is molested by an adult male, more often than not, I see them shying away from other males, just due to fear in the back of their minds in the form of paranoia that can stem from sexual abuse.

[clone]

learn to accept worst thing you can do is deny it.

[Eagle1]

yes i think it can effect you later in life but the best thing to do is accept how YOU feel.

[Appleton]

I'm sorry for the abuse you experienced. And I can't tell you whether or not it affected you because I can't tell you whether or not mine affected me in that way. I do know that what Nick said is right. You need to figure out a way to accept who you are and embrace it. I hope you can and that things get better for you.

[pump_it_good]

I probably messed that question up but what I meant was (not so much the abuse itself) but the fact that the abuse was the first sexual experience. Because gay stuff was a first experience at a real young age, could that have made that much of an impression? Could I be attracted to guys now because that's what I know more about?
Sorry, I don't know what I'm trying to say.

Dude i know exactly what ur trying to say! There are some things that make you feel certain ways later on in life. like for example if a kid gets bit by a spider, he dosnt want to ever get near one or see one ever again. But in this case its the opposite. Sex is enjoyable otherwise we wouldnt do it, and all of us want to feel love. if u were sexually herased by a man u would be more attracted to guys cuz that was ur first experience and u want it again subconciously. And in another case when a boy is raised only by his mother he wants to fill the void his father left by not being there by going out and feeling loved by another guy. get it thats not alway the case. Some guys in the same situation are still attracted to girls so it can go both ways. everyones different and take things differently. Hope i hellped you! :)

[Kaius]

Don't bump old threads please :locked: