14th birthday in 10 days still never been kised

[thededer]

so my 14th birthday is in 10 days and ive never been kissed never had a girlfriend and ive only even hugged a girl (other then family) twice. all of my friends ( i only have like 3 and there not really great friends) have all kissed had gfs seen girls topless and one has even had sex (im not saying a want to have sex) i feel so left out i think its partialy because i was identified as gifted in grade 3 and in grade 4 i started goin to school with really smart people that didnt realy have a personal life i mean they went to night math and math camp so i really want to find a girl that likes me and accepts me for me but i dont know how to go about it. any advice is apreciated

[Cloud]

stop focusing on it
woopty fuckin doo that youve never been kissed
your not even 14 yet
theres shitloads of people out there in the same boat
so stop trying to grow up to fast
go out with your mates
and itll work itself out as it progresses
youll meet loadsa girls hanging out with your mates most likely and then youll be able to end p with one of them maybe
jsut dont focus on it to start
befriend people first
and work from there

[Sage]

so my 14th birthday is in 10 days and ive never been kissed never had a girlfriend and ive only even hugged a girl (other then family) twice. all of my friends ( i only have like 3 and there not really great friends) have all kissed had gfs seen girls topless and one has even had sex (im not saying a want to have sex) i feel so left out i think its partialy because i was identified as gifted in grade 3 and in grade 4 i started goin to school with really smart people that didnt realy have a personal life i mean they went to night math and math camp so i really want to find a girl that likes me and accepts me for me but i dont know how to go about it. any advice is apreciated

That's your own fault. Just because you're smart doesn't mean you can't be social, all you need to do is go out and talk to people. I'm fucking brilliant and even I can be fairly social.

[thededer]

its not that i cant be social its the fact that i was in the exact same class with same people from grade 4 to 8 and i never really got a chance to interact with other social people

[nick]

Some of us are more shy than others and dont find it easy. Dont know if you're like that. But like Calum says, you're only 14, its not such a big deal, loads of other guys will be in the same position. Not all the bragging is true.

[thededer]

im kinda shy when it comes to girls and making friends although i try not to be but other than that im not shy

[Rainstorm]

its not that i cant be social its the fact that i was in the exact same class with same people from grade 4 to 8 and i never really got a chance to interact with other social people

So, start now?

Really, it's no big deal. Hang out at big teen places, like the mall or movies. You might meet a girl there you can relate to.

Just because you're 14, doesn't mean you have to have a girlfriend, kiss a girl, etc.

[thededer]

I try to hang out with people but they dont really like me. im not popular at all and i dont really have any friends at school

[Sage]

its not that i cant be social its the fact that i was in the exact same class with same people from grade 4 to 8 and i never really got a chance to interact with other social people

If you can move, move. If not, ride out until you can go to college or university elsewhere.

[thededer]

If you can move, move. If not, ride out until you can go to college or university elsewhere.

i chose to go to a diff highschool then them but now im an outsider except i know a few ppl from before grade 4

[Sugaree]

It's no big deal. It shouldn't be. You're not 14 yet. Hell, I'm 15 and have never been kissed, but I actually solcialize with girls. It's not easy since I'm a bit shy, but I can still do it. You should just take things slow. Become friends with a girl maybe and just try to take it from there. There's nothing much you CAN do. Just be social and maybe a bit outgoing and you'll be noticed. If you ever want to be kissed, or even have a girlfriend, you have to be social and have to be noticed. Otherwise, you won't be getting a kiss any time soon.

[thededer]

i just wish that ther was a girl that liked me

[xEZx]

Hey it will all work out in time im really smart but i didnt have many friends only 2-3 til 6th grade then i started hanging out with more people and now im in 8th and im hanging out with some of the most popular kids in the school dont worry itll all work out i still dont have a girlfriend but its cause i dont want one theres some hot girls(by that i mean big breasts, smart, and bi wich i dont mind) that like me but i dont want a girl yet :love::kissfriend:

[theOperaGhost]

I never kissed anyone until I was 19....it's not a big deal at all...

[thededer]

Hey it will all work out in time im really smart but i didnt have many friends only 2-3 til 6th grade then i started hanging out with more people and now im in 8th and im hanging out with some of the most popular kids in the school dont worry itll all work out i still dont have a girlfriend but its cause i dont want one theres some hot girls(by that i mean big breasts, smart, and bi wich i dont mind) that like me but i dont want a girl yet :love::kissfriend:

no offence or anything but im in highschool now and being in highschool with no friends isnt very fun and on top of that having people that jump donw your throat every word you say dosent make you feel very good at all

[nick]

Hey it will all work out in time im really smart but i didnt have many friends only 2-3 til 6th grade then i started hanging out with more people and now im in 8th and im hanging out with some of the most popular kids in the school dont worry itll all work out i still dont have a girlfriend but its cause i dont want one theres some hot girls(by that i mean big breasts, smart, and bi wich i dont mind) that like me but i dont want a girl yet :love::kissfriend:
Clarky, maybe its just me, but that font is more or less unreadable

[1_21Guns]

niether have i, and its my 15th next month. I used to care about it, now i dont.
At the end of the day it will happen in time. Its nothing to be ashamed of, loads of kids haven't had thier first kiss at 14. Its nothing different. Its just because not many people say it out of embarassment. It'll happen, just give it time.

[Kahn]

My first kiss was last year when I was twelve. I have had many girlfriends and I am telling you this. I have finally found a girl that I really like, not for her looks, but for her heart. Wait until you find someone like that. I just can't believe I found what I was looking for in the school I thought I would hate... Don't rush into relationships with people just because you want one. I did and it ruined many friendships.

Like they said. Your only 13. I know it may seem like you want to get your first kiss and first "Gf" but make it special. My first kiss was in a Movie Theater... She pretty much forced it on me but I kissed her back. If you want to have your first kiss make it special, so you'll remember it.

[unknown2011]

okay, you wanna know something about girls? they are just like you, me, and Natalie above me. just another human with brains and heart. what i do to make friends? i eavesdrop and if their conversation is like "WHAT??!!" moment for you, then do just that. say "im sorry, but i over heard your conversation and WHAT??"
anyways. thats how i make my friends.

[Kahn]

okay, you wanna know something about girls? they are just like you, me, and Natalie above me. just another human with brains and heart. what i do to make friends? i eavesdrop and if their conversation is like "WHAT??!!" moment for you, then do just that. say "im sorry, but i over heard your conversation and WHAT??"
anyways. thats how i make my friends.

He's right... Thats how I started talking to the girl I hope to ask out in a few months. (I want to take it slow)

[thededer]

Clarky, maybe its just me, but that font is more or less unreadable

yea i find it kinda unreadable too


i also dont really have any friends at school i have like 3 or 4 friends outside of schhol but none my own agae at school

[cherry_boi]

14 is young, no worries lots of ppl don't have their first kiss till their like 15 or 16...even older, and thats fine

and 14 is def to young to be having sex (imo)

don't worry about it, it's soo much better to wait for someone who u really care for then to just pick someone for the sake of doing it

[SlightlySane]

I'm 16 I've never had a girlfriend and I've never kissed a girl. One of the reasons that is probably why this happens is that I don't try to get one really. If you want a girlfriend you are going to have to take the time to get to know someone and take it upon yourself to ask it doesn't just happen.

Another thing, you get over it trust me. There will be someone right for you but you aren't going to find them until you try

[AllThatIsLeft]

okay, let me put it this way .. right now you are just complaining, and whining that you have never kissed a girl and don't really have friends... and you are going around the same stuff over and over, THAT gets tiring... reason one why you don't really have friends.. You gotta be chill, stop repeating your problems over and over, it makes you look uninteresting!

Kissing it's not a big deal, when it happens it happens, the more you worry about, the more it is in your head the more painful and slow it will be.

Just let things turn out as they must, stop finding excuses for everything, expose yourself, and when you least expect it, it will be there.

[sam i am]

Don't even worry about it my dude i had my first kiss from my bf last week and really i was addicted to it but its not a big deal i thought it would be but when i did it was like ok i thought it would be something "Big".. just don't worry about it its not a big deal believe me..and its best if u do it with someone u love or trust

[thededer]

thanks guys but about the friends now i try to chill with people but they just dont want to be around me if i say something they automaticly tell me to shut up

[Sugaree]

i just wish that ther was a girl that liked me

I'm sure there is. You just have to look for her. She won't just come to you out of the blue.

[Suicune]

I have your same "Problem" and so does almost every other teen.
Don't worry about it. ( I know it's hard not to )
Hey, it may happen when you least expect it. ;)
Good Luck.

[ILOVEYOU]

umm.. i think it isnt a thing that has to come in your age, dont worry, i'm actually 18 and i still havent been Kissed by my gfs, because its about 5 years that i havent had a Gf, so... dont worry, there are so many people like us around the world. it comes when it has to come, so just look for it, DO Not Go For It, let it come itself... Good luck :).

[TheKingDavis]

I put this in yellow so maybe it would attract your attention

im not guna lie, im 16, and I havent kissed a guy or girl, i believe that the first kiss should be special, dont just go around kissing people because you think your supposed to, let it be special

[Aves]

Dude seriously, I'm 15 and haven't had a gf, and have never been kissed by someone outside of family. Calm the fuck down. People live to be around 50 on average, that's still 36 years for you if you live an average life.

[Cinderandsmoke]

I'm almost 15 and never been kissed but probably for a different reason than you. I live in the middle of Kansas in a very hypocritical town and am a lesbian so not many oportunaties for me and 14 is young so don't worry.

[Sanctuary94]

I'm 15 and have never been kissed. A few years ago this really bothered me because at that point all of my friends were in relationships. It's easy to get depressed over this if you are always thinking about it. Girls won't want to date you if you seem too eager or desperate. Basically, don't think about it and it will happen when it's meant to. Also you're only 13 calm down. :)

[Akkryls]

You're almost 14, and you haven't been kissed yet. And you think this is an issue?

I joined these forums because I was self harming. Thankfully due to some of the advice given around the forum I managed to limit that and stop myself from going down a self-destructive path.
I'm almost 17. I haven't been kissed once. I've never had a relationship. I'm a somewhat half-in-the-closet bisexual.

And you think you have issues?
Those are the easiest times of your life. Just live them as they come and make friends. The relationships can come later.

[Littleman]

Im 15 and ive never kissed, Wooho--- oh wait, not something to be to happy about lol, its nothing to be worried about, i know people who are like almost 20 and have never kissed

[uihwljtkegr]

Hey, I'm 17 (18 in a couple of months) and I've never even been out with anyone. And in all honesty it doesn't bother me at all. You really shouldn't let it bother you either. When you find the right person, it'll happen. I don't really see what the rush is! And chances are your friends who claim to have had sex actually aren't getting any at all and just want to look "cool". Trust me, I've seen it so many time. And the ones who are having sex already really aren't going to be in a worthwhile relationship, are they?

[thededer]

ok thank so much everyone but this is old now its my bday today so yea mods you can close

[The Joker]

Having being kissed doesn't make a difference in who you are...at all.

Yes, I've had a first kiss and I'm 13. It wasn't special, I'd only known her for two days, she did it randomly without saying anything beforehand.

I didn't like it, I wish I had a kiss from someone special, and being kissed really didn't change anything.

[Eagle1]

dude im 15 almost 16 and never had a date your fine

[CCal917]

Hey man, I know exactly how you feel, back two years ago when I was thirteen I was 5 feet tall while my friends were shaving, that alone pretty much bashed down my self esteem with the opposite sex... I went a while alone not talking to ANYONE. But I managed to get through it... I'm Fifteen, I go to a school with 16 kids in it, none my age... but I don't use that as an excuse not to have friends. I have plenty of friends who are girls, more so than guys. Yet I've been on 1 date, never had a relationship and never been kissed. I'm not stressing. So neither should you... Trust me there are worse things that being 13 and not kissing a girl.
Don't stress it'll happen... but first you have to have the inniative. Make friends, if one group doesn't like you find another. Don't be picky. Just enjoy whatever life throws at you. :)