How do I tell her?

[MadManWithaBox]

yeah so,I need some advice. Basically I'm living in ireland with my mum right now, and I hate it. so much. I wanna go back to liverpool and live with my dad and his wife and her two sons, as the ideal situation. But I love my mum. Obviously. I don't wanna hurt her feelings, and I'd like to come over regularly and see her. But the thing being she hates my dad, it was a massive stretch for her to let me go see him, and I have a feeling If I tell her, she'll never speak to me again. so I need some advice on the best way to tell her. i haven't decided when yet, but It'll be soon, cos I can't carry on here much longer. All advice appreciated, ta

[cherry_boi]

hmm, maybe first you could just let her kno your presently unhappy

rather then telling her you want to move away

cuz i think if u say ur unhappy and want to move in wit ur dad that will b harder for her to deal with then just hearing that ur unhappy

make sure you tell her why u don't like it there, she needs to kno it's not something she's done, or if it is something she's done she needs to kno what she did and how to fix it

supply her with as much information as possible on how your feeling, while being considerate of her feelings at the same time

it'll help her understand better

after brinig that up ask her something like 'could we look into me moving in with dad?....how would u feel about that?"

haha idk.... u kno ur mom better then we do

gl :)

[Kahn]

She sounds like my Dad. I told my Dad that I wanted to go live with my Mom and he exploded on me. She doesn't care where I live and he hates he guts. I'm glad I got away from him but I think thats because he mentally abused me. Everyday. I don't know that much of your situation... If she hurts you, or anything but if you already have a good relationship with your Dad I don't think it's worth ruining with your Mom.

Although I would talk the idea over with your Father first due to the current situation with you Mother. Just by mentioning it to her may make her angry at you and she might never let you down. Talk it over with your Dad like I said. See what he thinks. If he doesn't care what you do I think you should go through with it. I may not be happy now but thats because my Mom and her Husband aren't even together right now. One lives two states away but thats because of Work. They are still married and I know when I am done with School that we will start living with him again. Hope this helps.

-Adam

[MadManWithaBox]

well I've already asked my dad and he said yeah of course I can come live with him I'd be very welcome etc, and I can come over anytime, its just I don't how my mum will react when I tell her.