its getting serious..

[holly]

recently its got out of control..
i started self harming by scratching myself with scissors or pins, this was about 2 years ago and up until about a week ago i hadnt gone through the seriousness..
ive been using the blade of a rasor and have been cutting open my shoulders and accross my stomach and hips and also my knuckles slightly, to stop myself punching walls..
i look disgusting and i have tried to stop, i have told one of my closest boy mates and they have been helping me through it.. but i cant stop, no matter what is said to me verbally.. i tell myself that i dont want to stop, but a part of me does..
ive gone through alot for my age, not wanting to get into detail, and i just want badly for someone that cant judge me to come through and help me get past this.. even if i dont stop all together.. because i have no space left on my stomach/ hips and soon its gonna get worse..

[Cloud]

You need someone to help?
only so much we can do
i would strongly suggest that you go to see a counsellor at school or if your feeling up to it speak to your parents and ask then ot help yo get a therapist

If you want you can PM me anytime and I'll do my best to offer some help as it would be alot easier if i knew exactly what was causing yo to do this.

[Stewart]

I'm sorry to hear that man :(

You should try to stop before it gets super serious. the sooner you stop the better. You should check out the thread on alternatives for cutting, they got some great ideas in there.
You may also want to talk to your parents or someone you trust. Good luck, you'll get through it! :)

[holly]

You need someone to help?
only so much we can do
i would strongly suggest that you go to see a counsellor at school or if your feeling up to it speak to your parents and ask then ot help yo get a therapist

If you want you can PM me anytime and I'll do my best to offer some help as it would be alot easier if i knew exactly what was causing yo to do this.
im super scared of telling people..

I'm sorry to hear that man :(

You should try to stop before it gets super serious. the sooner you stop the better. You should check out the thread on alternatives for cutting, they got some great ideas in there.
You may also want to talk to your parents or someone you trust. Good luck, you'll get through it! :)i trust people too easily, but when it comes to my personal things i cant tell anyone.. not even my family.. im going to look at the ideas but ive tried next to everything, when it comes down to it.. all i do is this.. but thankyou x

[Discomposure]

im super scared of telling people..

Of course your super scared about telling anyone, but ask your self this do you want to carry on?
Because you will if you don't, I understand its hard. You don't want people to know you do this, no way. The thing is you need to know that it is truly easier to get better once people know, they can help you, it's what they're there for. Self-harm is very addicting and can spiral out of control all of a sudden. You don't want to live the rest of your life with scars all over your body, as you said your running out of room on your stomach, next it will be your legs, then arms. People will notice. You need some help, as Calum said, we can only do so much as we are virtual. You need to get the help yourself, you have to push yourself to do it.

All we can do, is give advice (hopefully the right advice :)) and then it's up to you weather or not you take it into account. Good luck, and PM me if you ever need anything or just want to chat :)

[MadManWithaBox]

well the fist step is I think, always the hardest part. You don't know how the person you're telling will react, will they panic, will they blank you, will they overreact, will they be upset? But the fact remains you have still have to tell them. Cos their gonna find out sooner or later. No matter how long, or how well you cover it, they'll eventually see, you'll eventually slip up. You have months of concealing scars, treating new cuts, all of which is a pain in the arse. Telling someone now will eliminate those problems, and you'll feel that much better just for having told someone. You'll feel as if a huge weight is gone off your shoulders. trust me. Even if it isn't an authority figure. A trusted friend, Someone else's parent. If you can tell us here, random strangers on an internet forum, you can tell them.

[Fusion]

recently its got out of control..
i started self harming by scratching myself with scissors or pins, this was about 2 years ago and up until about a week ago i hadnt gone through the seriousness..
ive been using the blade of a rasor and have been cutting open my shoulders and accross my stomach and hips and also my knuckles slightly, to stop myself punching walls..
i look disgusting and i have tried to stop, i have told one of my closest boy mates and they have been helping me through it.. but i cant stop, no matter what is said to me verbally.. i tell myself that i dont want to stop, but a part of me does..
ive gone through alot for my age, not wanting to get into detail, and i just want badly for someone that cant judge me to come through and help me get past this.. even if i dont stop all together.. because i have no space left on my stomach/ hips and soon its gonna get worse..

A counciller is a good way to stop, they can help you stop forever and also find a hobby a lot of people do this as it takes up a lot of time :)

[Lily of the Valley]

Cutting is effective because it releases endorphins that ease stress levels. There are many other things that release endorphins as well, though. Instead of doing that, exercise, have sex, snap a rubber band on yourself, etc. There's no reason whatsoever to have such a desire to cut. What you have the desire for is endorphins, which are easily released through other common activities. So just stop cutting and start doing something else. Or, hell, just stop cutting altogether.

~Maggot

[Discomposure]

Cutting is effective because it releases endorphins that ease stress levels. There are many other things that release endorphins as well, though. Instead of doing that, exercise, have sex, snap a rubber band on yourself, etc. There's no reason whatsoever to have such a desire to cut. What you have the desire for is endorphins, which are easily released through other common activities. So just stop cutting and start doing something else. Or, hell, just stop cutting altogether.
~Maggot

You make it sound like it's so easy to stop, like it's easy to just do something else. People do have a desire to cut, and they do have reasons for it. Yes your right in saying that people can find other ways to deal with it, but you'll find many are in the frame of mind that cutting is the only thing to deal with it, no matter how many times your told about the other things, it's the person cutting that needs to be able to WANT to stop and they need help in finding ways that suit them to deal with things other than cutting, which is why the best thing to do is seek proffesional help.

They are trained for all of this, and can help a lot! Trust me, after a while they really do. If you do go see someone, and you aren't comfortable with them you must let them know as you won't get anywhere if you don't like talking to them, they won't take offence as the understand and hopefully you will be given someone you feel more comfortable to talk to.

[Lily of the Valley]

You make it sound like it's so easy to stop, like it's easy to just do something else.It is.People do have a desire to cut, and they do have reasons for it.Proof? Or any logic-based argument to suggest that the desire is to cut, not for the release of endorphins?Yes your right in saying that people can find other ways to deal with it, but you'll find many are in the frame of mind that cutting is the only thing to deal with it, no matter how many times your told about the other things, it's the person cutting that needs to be able to WANT to stop and they need help in finding ways that suit them to deal with things other than cutting, which is why the best thing to do is seek proffesional help.Of course they have to want to stop in order to do so. If they don't, there's no reason for them to attempt to stop to begin with, let alone put any actual effort into it. And, frankly, I think, as long as it's really what the person wants to do, then have at it.

~Maggot

[Discomposure]

It is.Proof? Or any logic-based argument to suggest that the desire is to cut, not for the release of endorphins?Of course they have to want to stop in order to do so. If they don't, there's no reason for them to attempt to stop to begin with, let alone put any actual effort into it. And, frankly, I think, as long as it's really what the person wants to do, then have at it.

~Maggot

People have differen't reasons, it's not the same for everyone on exactly why they want to cut, alot actually just want to cut anyway, they don't want to do alternative methods, which is why i would think they would need proffesional help. And maybe not for you, or people you know but stopping is very difficult. For a lot of people, and can take alot of time.

And yeah your right, aslong as it's what they want to do then can most proabably stop eventually. But this isn't between me and you lol, nor is it a debate of our veiws on self-harming, I just think that the OP needs to seek professional help and get this sorted. Hope things all go well for you, and good luck.

[Lily of the Valley]

People have differen't reasons, it's not the same for everyone on exactly why they want to cut, alot actually just want to cut anyway, they don't want to do alternative methods, which is why i would think they would need proffesional help. And maybe not for you, or people you know but stopping is very difficult. For a lot of people, and can take alot of time.

And yeah your right, aslong as it's what they want to do then can most proabably stop eventually. But this isn't between me and you lol, nor is it a debate of our veiws on self-harming, I just think that the OP needs to seek professional help and get this sorted. Hope things all go well for you, and good luck.You haven't given a single bit of actual evidence to back your claims. You're just rambling with no basis, statistical or logical.

~Maggot

[1_21Guns]

recently its got out of control..
i started self harming by scratching myself with scissors or pins, this was about 2 years ago and up until about a week ago i hadnt gone through the seriousness..
ive been using the blade of a rasor and have been cutting open my shoulders and accross my stomach and hips and also my knuckles slightly, to stop myself punching walls..
i look disgusting and i have tried to stop, i have told one of my closest boy mates and they have been helping me through it.. but i cant stop, no matter what is said to me verbally.. i tell myself that i dont want to stop, but a part of me does..
ive gone through alot for my age, not wanting to get into detail, and i just want badly for someone that cant judge me to come through and help me get past this.. even if i dont stop all together.. because i have no space left on my stomach/ hips and soon its gonna get worse..

You need to stop before you go too far, and I understand you don't want to explain what you've gone through, but venting to somebody could help you get it out, instead of getting so mad you punch walls. I do the exact same thing. Its easy to just turn and vent on a wall, because you don't have to face things properly, talking you do. Just a guess, and i'm sure anyone will be willing to listen, me included.

[Discomposure]

You haven't given a single bit of actual evidence to back your claims. You're just rambling with no basis, statistical or logical.

~Maggot

As I said, it's not a debate, so I need no evidence. I was simply saying that it's not as easy for people to stop as you said it was. I didn't need any evidence as I know myself that it's not easy, if you want to debate, the ramblings of the wise is the room to go to. I won't be replying anymore as this could turn into an argument, and to be honest, I don't want that.

To the OP, just PM me if you need to chat :)