Ugh! I need advice/helpppp!

[bowlheadhere]

So I am in a conflict with myself. I know I am a pansexual, but I don't exactly know how to tell my closest friends. We are going on our 8th year of being friends, but I just don't know how to tell them. They are EXTREMELY Christian and I think slightly homophobic. Every time we hang out, they always make gay and bisexual references, and I always feel awkward not knowing how to respond because they kind of expect me to, and I end up just sitting there (I think I might even blush sometimes). Another one of my friends, in the trio, has a gay brother and always makes fun of his brother for it... and I just don't know what to do!!!!??? I mean, they say things like "look at that flaming homosexual". I mean... to my other friends I always am hella on their asses when they make such references, but around them I just don't know what to do. I guess I am kind of scared to have them figure it out, while at the same time I feel guilty that I don't tell them. I know this sounds bad... but I think that they might even de-friend me if they found out. I dont know how they would react because they are so Christian/slightly homophobic... I mean, this is the only reason I didn't join GSA because I don't know what they would thing... UGH! any advice?

[Stewart]

Don't tell them? I wouldn't if what you say about them is true. and, if they don't like it and don't accept you, they aren't your real friends

[TheKingDavis]

One question. what is a PAN sexual?

[Blue63]

One question. what is a PAN sexual?

Not 100% sure on the exact descriptions, but I think it's someone who is attracted to anyone, regardless of sex, male, female, transexual, all, am I right?

I know you want to come out, and that can be really hard. If you think it will wreck the friendships you've had for so long by telling them, you may want to consider not telling them, I know that sounds terrible but I'm not sure what else to say. Look at some of your priorities, what means more to you? I personally respect both choices, but it's not my choice to make. Also on the Christianity thing, it depends what kind of Christians they are, catholic, Lutheran, presbyterian, Methodist, etcetera. Some are more lenient on these sort of things than others, also it depends how closely they follow it, so don't make your decision just on that without doing some more research into your friends.

Good luck, it's a hard choice.

[tyler27846]

dont tell them if you dont want too and mos people who are christians aren really true christians like they say they are if they were they wouldnt act that way

[bowlheadhere]

They are *really* Christian. They explained to me (I am atheist) how most people think they are Christian, but really aren't. I didn't really understand it... but basically he was saying he is a true Christian.

But I just don't know. I feel guilty holding things from people... which might actually be a lot I guess. I have a hard time opening up to people and showing my true emotions.