Situation. I need help and answers

[Lifeguard18]

Ok. Most if you know me already and know that I am bi. There is a girl who like me so much. And I want a boyfried more than a girlfriend. I don't like her that much to go out with her. There's a guy I'm extremy attracted to. I asked him on AIM if we would ever be together. He said no not really. You are cool and all but I don't think relationship. I said ok. He said are you alright. I said in fine. He said ok that's good. I wasn't ok. I was about to cry. I was crushed to death. I said next ok well I'm tried in gtg to bed now. Ttyl. He said night. I'm like in love with him so much. I want to go out with him and everything but I don't want to make this girl sad and hurt. I'll just feel bad. I don't like her that much. I'm realizing I maybe just gay and not bi anymore. I want to be with this guy for the rest of my life. Explain how I can get around this. I told her so many times I don't want to go out with her and she still bugs me and she just doesn't get the message at all. I need help with this. And another question how do I get him to like me more. I send him messages all the time but he doesn't answer back no more. He's never online anymore. I need help asap please.

[Lifeguard18]

Please guys I need answers asap please

[nick]

AppleFanBoy try to avoid double posting just to get a response.

To be honest I cant give you an answer that you want to hear. In my opinion you need to accept that the guy just isnt interested and also you're not really interested in the girl. So neither of those is going to work out for you. So I think you need to just stay cool and wait for the right thing to come along.

[Philip]

Even I do not know what to say.I'm straight, so on your place i' started to think about relations with a girl, but if it is a real love try to wait some time and after this tell him again about your feelings.good luck

[lilhellboii]

yeah u need to realize that the guy dosent like u... and well in this case ur acting like the girl... ur not getting the message that he dosent like u! and well if ur gay thats ok... but dont decide that uir gay because u like only one boy or other... just understand that he dosent like... thats it.

[tripolar]

Unfortunately the thing between you and the guy will not happen so you'll have to move on if you ever want a boyfriend. Don't force him to like you because that will not work and make things worse.

As for the girl she likes you but you want to go out with the guy sense you won't be going out with the guy you can decide what you want to do about her. You said you told her several times you do not want to go out with her, if you want her to stop make it really clear you are not interested.

The best thing everyone has to do is move on you have to accept that the guy doesn't like you and you have to move on to something else, and same with the girl she has to move on from you and find someone else

[Philip]

It's true maybe you are bi

[Lifeguard18]

Thank you guys. I know he may not like ne but we talked on aim today for about five hours (not straight) and about three last night. And he sent a few flirts to me but but not actually making it look like a flirt. I just can't get over him. I'm like in love with him. Idk what to do. I told my guidence counselor about my situation with the girl and she didn't exactly give me a straight answer but a little answer. She helped me a lot. She said take baby steps and tell her little by little you're bit interested.If he doesn't like me what you guys said I may just have to move on but I still won't be able to get over him. He is way to awesome sweet he'll be there in your toughest time. I hate this situation. I wish a miracle would just happen. Sometimes I cry at night because I like him to much and idk if he dies like me or not and I don't want to make this girl sad. If I just has 3 wishes...

[The Harlequin]

If I just has 3 wishes...

It's at times like this you realise just how much of a lucky git Aladdin was...

[CaptainObvious]

Thank you guys. I know he may not like ne but we talked on aim today for about five hours (not straight) and about three last night. And he sent a few flirts to me but but not actually making it look like a flirt. I just can't get over him. I'm like in love with him. Idk what to do. I told my guidence counselor about my situation with the girl and she didn't exactly give me a straight answer but a little answer. She helped me a lot. She said take baby steps and tell her little by little you're bit interested.If he doesn't like me what you guys said I may just have to move on but I still won't be able to get over him. He is way to awesome sweet he'll be there in your toughest time. I hate this situation. I wish a miracle would just happen. Sometimes I cry at night because I like him to much and idk if he dies like me or not and I don't want to make this girl sad. If I just has 3 wishes...

Maybe this will give you some empathy for what this girl is feeling for you...

It's hard not having your feelings returned by someone you care deeply about, but the bottom line is that you can't make someone feel something they don't and it can become a very big drain on your life to try and make something from nothing like that. Obviously, it's already affecting you.

You need to mentally get yourself to a place where you're not dependent on the thought of this guy. Think about other things; find something to occupy yourself, find someone else to be attracted to... no options are great and I know the situation sucks, but dwelling on it will only make it worse I can guarantee.

[Cinderandsmoke]

I would say try to fix your insides meaning heart before trying a relationship. I know how it feels to get rejected. Heck ive been rejected more than anyone i know. Plus i am in love with a girl that is a homophobe. And im a lesbiam. So all i can say is life sucks but it will get better.

[XxHaViiK]

I agreed with what Nick said. Obviously neither way is going to work. You can still be friends with both of them, but just wait for the right person to come along.