My mom and dad

[alex95]

well first of all i haven't been able to go over a single friends house without lying to my mom and dad and im tired of it so tired some times i would leave school and go over friends house and make my parents sooooo worried they didn't even ask where i was they just tell me they called cops w/e and that they was worried and please not to do it again. First of all the reason i started doing this was because my parents are overprotective and i cant go outside i cant go over friends house all i can do is stay locked up in my house and if i talk to friends to long my mom gets mad she never lets me go outside the house what should i tell her?

[Kahn]

This sounds like abuse kind of. If she doesn't let you get out of the house or do anything I would call CPS. Thats what I would do.

[Cloud]

This sounds like abuse kind of. If she doesn't let you get out of the house or do anything I would call CPS. Thats what I would do.

for what charges?
how is it abuse
shes not violent towards him
just loooking after him
abit to much
but its not a crime to look after someoen

[nick]

for what charges?
how is it abuse
shes not violent towards him
just loooking after him
abit to much
but its not a crime to look after someoen

Actually this was in the news yesterday:-

An Italian mother has appeared in court accused of being so over-protective towards her 12-year-old son that she has impeded his development in what experts say amounts to child abuse.

Social services have accused her of insulating the child, named only as Luca, from normal life and refusing to let him play with other children.

"They built a wall around this little boy," said Andrea Marzola, a lawyer representing the child. "He couldn't play with friends. He didn't play sport. He went to school, but only for the minimum period of time and he wasn't allowed to take part in any after-school activities like gymnastics. He was totally isolated."

The boy's mother and grandparents have been charged with "aggravated ill-treatment", according to Corriere della Sera newspaper.

It is not the first time the case has come to court. The boy's mother and grandparents were accused of mistreatment in 2004, when the child was seven years old, and were sentenced to 14 months imprisonment, a sentence which they are still appealing.

There's a bit more in the full story here (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/italy/6324709/Italian-mother-accused-of-mollycoddling-son.html)

[Cloud]

Actually this was in the news yesterday:-

An Italian mother has appeared in court accused of being so over-protective towards her 12-year-old son that she has impeded his development in what experts say amounts to child abuse.

Social services have accused her of insulating the child, named only as Luca, from normal life and refusing to let him play with other children.

"They built a wall around this little boy," said Andrea Marzola, a lawyer representing the child. "He couldn't play with friends. He didn't play sport. He went to school, but only for the minimum period of time and he wasn't allowed to take part in any after-school activities like gymnastics. He was totally isolated."

The boy's mother and grandparents have been charged with "aggravated ill-treatment", according to Corriere della Sera newspaper.

It is not the first time the case has come to court. The boy's mother and grandparents were accused of mistreatment in 2004, when the child was seven years old, and were sentenced to 14 months imprisonment, a sentence which they are still appealing.

There's a bit more in the full story here (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/italy/6324709/Italian-mother-accused-of-mollycoddling-son.html)

holy shit thats mad as toast
never knew that

but there not completely isolating him
they do let him contact his friends still

[alex95]

Actually this was in the news yesterday:-

An Italian mother has appeared in court accused of being so over-protective towards her 12-year-old son that she has impeded his development in what experts say amounts to child abuse.

Social services have accused her of insulating the child, named only as Luca, from normal life and refusing to let him play with other children.

"They built a wall around this little boy," said Andrea Marzola, a lawyer representing the child. "He couldn't play with friends. He didn't play sport. He went to school, but only for the minimum period of time and he wasn't allowed to take part in any after-school activities like gymnastics. He was totally isolated."

The boy's mother and grandparents have been charged with "aggravated ill-treatment", according to Corriere della Sera newspaper.

It is not the first time the case has come to court. The boy's mother and grandparents were accused of mistreatment in 2004, when the child was seven years old, and were sentenced to 14 months imprisonment, a sentence which they are still appealing.

There's a bit more in the full story here (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/italy/6324709/Italian-mother-accused-of-mollycoddling-son.html)

I feel like crying that's exactly what my mom is doing to me she doesn't want me to have any friends and shes saying there guna hurt me and then she acts like i wana do anything to make her happy because of her im failing all my classes because im fed up of her she makes my life miserable i cant enjoy my self so only way i enjoy my self is to not do class work and talk to friends while i still can everyday i go to school my mom says dont talk to any boys it will get you in troubel? IM FUCKING TIRED OF IT! My whole child hood has gone down the drain i hate my life and im just tired of it.

[Cloud]

I feel like crying that's exactly what my mom is doing to me she doesn't want me to have any friends and shes saying there guna hurt me and then she acts like i wana do anything to make her happy because of her im failing all my classes because im fed up of her she makes my life miserable i cant enjoy my self so only way i enjoy my self is to not do class work and talk to friends while i still can everyday i go to school my mom says dont talk to any boys it will get you in troubel? IM FUCKING TIRED OF IT! My whole child hood has gone down the drain i hate my life and im just tired of it.

tell her that
just go up to her and demand your freedom

[alex95]

tell her that
just go up to her and demand your freedom

I did she ask me why? And then she says i have no reason too go outside and i need to get better grades but i tell her i wont get better grades if you dont let me outside then she gets mad and curses me out.

[Cloud]

yea that usually happens when they know your right
jsut do it more
dont give up

[nick]

Well Alex, the link to the full newspaper article for that other story is in my post above, I suggest you print it out and either leave it around or use it to try to start a discussion with your parents. If necessary also take it into school and talk to a councellor if you can.

[alex95]

Well Alex, the link to the full newspaper article for that other story is in my post above, I suggest you print it out and either leave it around or use it to try to start a discussion with your parents. If necessary also take it into school and talk to a councellor if you can.

Thanks ill try to print it and put it on the table in my house.

[nick]

Well good luck. Remember that your parents will be doing this out of love. I think they've got it wrong, but I'm sure they love you very much. Try even when you're mad with them to remember that even though its stupid, they're probably trying to do what they think its the right thing.

[mrmcdonaldduck]

if it doesnt work out, you really have to call the cops or something, parents like that are just terrible.

good luck alex.

[alex95]

I talked to my mom about it and she tried to avoid it and change the conversation first she gave me a crazy look and i said why look at me like that i have a life and soul too and then she laughed and changed to conversation....

[Cloud]

I talked to my mom about it and she tried to avoid it and change the conversation first she gave me a crazy look and i said why look at me like that i have a life and soul too and then she laughed and changed to conversation....

my mum does that too when she knows im right
jsut stick at it

[alex95]

my mum does that too when she knows im right
jsut stick at it

Im guna do it again later today

[nick]

good luck mate

[alex95]

i did it and she said when im older like 15,or 16 im 14 right now but she wants it too be when im a little bit taller and stronger so i can balance my self she said... So i dont get jumped or beat up by kids but i dont have problems with anyone lol.

[Rainstorm]

i did it and she said when im older like 15,or 16 im 14 right now but she wants it too be when im a little bit taller and stronger so i can balance my self she said... So i dont get jumped or beat up by kids but i dont have problems with anyone lol.

Right now, she's practically just making excuses because she knows your right.

[alex95]

Right now, she's practically just making excuses because she knows your right.

oh my god..... I believed her i was guna wait till i was 15....

[sam i am]

Just be grateful they care about u my dude..some kids wish they parents care like that..when u get older they'll loosen up on u all parents do. They have to me protective now i get it when my parents keep me in the house i had a bone marrow transplant in the summer and yea now they wont let me go out sometimes, but im glad they care at least

[Sugaree]

She's being overprotective. It's normal for a parent to be that way, especially when their child is a teenager soon to become an adult. It's understandable that she would be worried. Just flat out tell her, "You need to trust me. I'm getting to a point in my life where I can start to look after myself for a bit."

The only reason she's making these excuses is that she knows you're right. You want more freedom and she's trying to back out of the idea. If I were a parent, I would be worried about my child if they didn't call to tell me where they were and just come home out of the blue. You really shouldn't have done that. She probably thought you were kidnapped or something may have happened. Doing it just to worry them is torture in it's own. It's no worse than what she's doing to you. That doesn't make you better.

Why don't you have another talk with your mom. Tell her that she needs to start trusting you by not having to be around her. Tell her that you deserve the right to go to a friend's house and talk to them. They're your friends, not her's. If she tries to change the subject, just keep at it until she gives in. Eventually, she will.

Best of luck.

[laurita_21]

awe poor alex XD
oh yee u told me about this on msn !
i feel 4 u :( .. just try talking to your mum and make her understand that you need your freedom :)

[alex95]

awe poor alex XD
oh yee u told me about this on msn !
i feel 4 u :( .. just try talking to your mum and make her understand that you need your freedom :)

my mom is a woman that understands nothing let me tell you that. Anyway today my sister didn't do her chores and my mom got home and she yelled at me and asked why didn't i do it then? And i got mad and said im not doing her chores for her and she got mad and made me do them after that my brother said stop whining i said idc what you say im saying what i feel to say your saying what you feel to say and my mom said don't talk to him like that your just a kid, and i got mad but i didn't say anything.

[Suicune]

It's probably harder than it sounds but seriously, stand up for yourself. You can't be treated like that. Kids need their social time, seriously.

[Yesterdays Hero]

You should just tell her how you feel, and hopefully, the message will get across.

[TheTruth]

OKay im getting mad reading it. The next time you confront her make the point that you think she's protecting you beacuse she doesn't want you to get hurt when it clearly already is hurting you. She is blind to your emotions, needs and feelings and by keeping you inside she knows full well where you are at all times and knows your safe so it gives her peace meanwhile you are suffering to make her feel like a good parent. She is the one damaging your grades because as you said yourself your too busy making up for time lost with your friends. IF SHE STILL DOES NOT LISTEN TO YOU after everything you told her including what everyone else has said on here i would seriously take tips from that article posted my JustNick. It sounds like a good last resort.

Good luck to ya mate!!!

[alex95]

OKay im getting mad reading it. The next time you confront her make the point that you think she's protecting you beacuse she doesn't want you to get hurt when it clearly already is hurting you. She is blind to your emotions, needs and feelings and by keeping you inside she knows full well where you are at all times and knows your safe so it gives her peace meanwhile you are suffering to make her feel like a good parent. She is the one damaging your grades because as you said yourself your too busy making up for time lost with your friends. IF SHE STILL DOES NOT LISTEN TO YOU after everything you told her including what everyone else has said on here i would seriously take tips from that article posted my JustNick. It sounds like a good last resort.

Good luck to ya mate!!!

my mom doesnt care she never understands she told me im always guna be a kid till im 16 then i can go outside until then i am a kid and should shutup and act like one..

[TheTruth]

HARSH!!! It's obvious your ready to be more mature and take responsibility ad she's being the kid, she may not realise it but as long as you do i'd say there is a small victory in that. But hey, you could always use that against her.

[Billy15]

Alex, your 14, I'm 15 and I swear to God, our parents are related. Mine is not as bad as yours (thank god) but their control freaks especially when it comes to the computer, scared to death someone is going to get me lol. No mic, no cam, no pics (but I've cheated a little there lol) nothing that might send some monster here lol :rolleyes: but I do have friends, I can leave the house
and occasionally lol they'll even listen to me.

Dude, IDK if what your living through is child abuse but isn't there someone else you can talk to, like grandparents or aunts and uncles that might talk to your rents for you because that just isn't right and you deserve to have friends.

[alex95]

Alex, your 14, I'm 15 and I swear to God, our parents are related. Mine is not as bad as yours (thank god) but their control freaks especially when it comes to the computer, scared to death someone is going to get me lol. No mic, no cam, no pics (but I've cheated a little there lol) nothing that might send some monster here lol :rolleyes: but I do have friends, I can leave the house
and occasionally lol they'll even listen to me.

Dude, IDK if what your living through is child abuse but isn't there someone else you can talk to, like grandparents or aunts and uncles that might talk to your rents for you because that just isn't right and you deserve to have friends.

dude your lucky she lissins to you at least you can go out but i do have a mic lol and a fone so i can sen pics and all taht but she is sooo overprotective its un believable

[Icarus7]

Alex, your 14, I'm 15 and I swear to God, our parents are related. Mine is not as bad as yours (thank god) but their control freaks especially when it comes to the computer, scared to death someone is going to get me lol. No mic, no cam, no pics (but I've cheated a little there lol) nothing that might send some monster here lol :rolleyes: but I do have friends, I can leave the house
and occasionally lol they'll even listen to me.

Dude, IDK if what your living through is child abuse but isn't there someone else you can talk to, like grandparents or aunts and uncles that might talk to your rents for you because that just isn't right and you deserve to have friends.

I totally agree with this one...usually relatives can help. specially if they are close to your rents!! Go on and talk to them, they will help you for sure!! :)