really need advice....

[Halibut]

OK so i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost a month now and its going really swell so far ..but the thing is he is having trouble with his family. his step dad treats him and his siblings like shit..he got grounded for not using his locker at school so he didnt know the combination. and now he cant come over on friday to meet my dad..and his parents dont let him come over alot either cuz they dont know what were up to. he has to pay some bills and does so much for his family yet his step dad yells at him for not doing anything and he gets woke up by him screaming at him..and he is really hurting and its really starting to worry me as i really care about him( kinda worries me how much as we have been togeather not that long) but i want to be there for him..i listen but i dont know what to do...he says pretty soon he is gonna get in a fight with his step dad or move out..help please...:(

[BuryYourFlame]

If the situation is bad enough you could try encouraging him to go to the police or other authorities and tell them of what is happening. There isn't really much else you can do except what you are already doing, being there for him to talk to.

[kyle95]

i don't know about canada, but here in scotland someone in that position can get assistance from student welfare to move out, yes at 15. obviously your bf sounds like a decent chap and his step dad is clearly taking advantage of the 'extra help'. naturally a sod like that will always ride him so he doesn't get an ideas about having finished any task adequately. the sod is insatiable and the only solution for your bf is to move out. he's doing no one a favour by being kicked in the head. my advice is that he gets out of the firing range to a safer zone before shooting off his mouth or stooping low enuf to fight that scum bag. i'd say don't let him dirty his hands on dung - we go out of our way not to step in it, why would he want to punch it and roll in it? good luck

[WonderChild]

Not much help, but if he is old enough, he should move out. Sorry if that doesnt help enough

[TomBaseball]

I'd call the authorities. it sounds like mental child abuse to me. Would your parents consider taking him into your house (separate rooms of course) for a little whle until the child welfare folks sort things out.

One last point is where is his dad? Can he go live there?

[Discomposure]

It's good your there for him, but yeah I understand your unsure what to say to him. All you can do is comfort him, it's good he's talking to you about it :) Maybe suggest speaking with someone professional? Just so he has someone to talk to about it, and maybe they can help him out anyway. But just having someone that can give him the right advice or guidance might be good so everything isn't building up inside, so then one day he doesn't loose it.

Hope I helped!

[Misty.]

r fighting his step dad might upset him as well...
n may be he's used to all this... :confused:
but what u could do is....sit back have a serious talk wid him...tell him ur concerns...n dat u wish to help him in some manner :)
u could ask him has he ever told his mom about it???
n if not...den y(may be he wud b like his moms happy wid step dad..n all..n dis wud spoil der relationship)

trust me....like d ppl here r suggesting going to the authorities...or moving out...des things at the family point of view spoil d relationships...ask him to be mature n talk to first his step dad...ask him what prblem he has(may b his step dad duznt realise he hurts d kids so bad) ...in case duznt help...ask him to talk to his mom....if matters become worse then thing of moving out (if he can) or going to the authorities