A girl thats cheated on me

[RedTheViking]

hey ive got this problem that i cant tell anyone else , its not that im embaressed its just im not that kind of person that discusses his feelings openly. anyways theres this girl that im going out with and i previously went out with, when we went out (before) she cheated on me and and i forgave her , and then she cheated on me again , so i broke up with her. Then i realised how much i missed her and starting dropping off from going to school (before i went out with her i barley ever went to school , about 1 day a week, when i started going out with her it went up to 4 days a week), and getting really depressed. now against the judgement of all my friends im going out with her again and my schoolings gone up and but ive heard (from an unreliable source) thats shes cheated in me again. so i dont know what to do.

one thing that ive realised is that i love being able to love someone (i mean love to a partner not family love) and to be loved back , and i hate not haveing someone to love, and if i did find that she did cheat on me i feel like i couldnt cope with it and id probally snap .

thanks in advance for helping me with my problems.

[nick]

My feeling is that if you cant trust her not to keep cheating on you then you would be better off finding someone else.

[NightFighter]

If she has cheated before then she's likely to cheat again. She's more trouble than shes worth. In the long term you'll be better without her. In my opinion, you need to end it with her but you also have to go to school atleast 4 days a week. If you never go then you cant get to know other girls.

You sound like you are a decent, trustworthy and lovabled guy so you wont find it hard to find a girl who will appreciate you and stay loyal to you.

Take Care.

[Art_dude]

Edward, I know you're going through a bit of a rough patch right now but I'm not going to sugarcoat it - she cheated on you three times. Are you not picking up a pattern here?

As sick as it is, some girls go into a relationship with a guy and will play with his heart for sport. She's cheated on you and she quite honestly doesn't deserve your affection. You seem like a nice guy - you can do better this. I know you're in love with her, but start thinking about the wrongs she's done to you and reevaluate what you think 'love' is. It's a two way street and she isn't contributing.

Although she's managed to get you to go to school more (a good thing), don't be dependent on her to be your motivation. You need to develop your own reasons for wanting to go to school or else you will only accomplish to the extent that she does.

[kyle95]

mate, separate your feelings from your future. you can't do without an education, but can do with a respite in a relationship. she could also be wanting you as friend and you're crossing her signals. you're not married to her so quit having such high expectations of her. if you truly love her and not in love with just being in love, then give her the space to explore her own feelings, body and relationships. lower your expectation, focus on your school because you'll never hear girls say, "omg there a hottie dropout!"

[Misty.]

hmm..tuff call mate..
see...all u want is to be loved in return....ryt?? :)
now...she cheated u twice before..ryt..??? 2 times cant be by mistake...firstly..u gota clear the stuff...ask her y she did it..?? duz she repents cheating on u..???may b dis will strengthen ur bond wid her..k.. :)
nw.. to ur current status..since u dont trust d source(who myt b jloz or sumthng) ... hafing no faith in her wont do u any good k???
but since its coz u so much trble..u overthinking n all...being mature ...u cud jst u kno talk it out...ask her..(u myt know frm d unreliable source...wid whom shes supposedly cheating on u..???ryt?? ) abt d guy...is she frnds wid her..n all..in a subtle manner...n if her response seems to make sure she aint lie ing abt it...den jst b f9 wid it.. u dont wnt to loose faith in her wen she myt b actualy trying to b faithful ryt..>??

n den dont press d issue...but in case in future some reliable source says shes cheating ditch her...kz den she wnt b worth it..

[Mikey]

You need to find someone new. I had the same problem as you basically. Girl lied to me for 8 months. We were on and off for 8 months. Ignoring me. Lieing to me. Nude pictures to guys, even my close friends who didn't know. You gotta let her go. 8 Months of depression wasn't worth it