i think..

[catherineee]

(i hope this is in the right place)

...I was raped..?
This high school guy name Ryker asked me to come to his car with him for something I don't remember what.. and he asked me if I wanted to come over to his house for a party.
I went. He did not take me to his house. He took me to a hotel.
I didn't say anything when we went up to a room.. I was a little freaked out.
But when he locked the door I was like panicing. He came over to me and like started... you know what...

idontknow if i was leading him on or whatever.. but like.. I don't know what to do at this point... Help?

[Shenron]

Well, if he forced you to have sex against your will, then yes, he raped you. If he did not force you to have sexual intercourse with him, then the most he can be convicted of would be sexual assault. Also, if you went along with it because you were afraid (ie; you let him do it without putting up a fight) then you could still press charges and claim durress (that means you did it out of fear)

Hope I helped :)

Oh ya, one more thing. If he did rape you, please report it. Rape is the most under-reported crimes in the U.S. Nearly 1/3 of all rapes are not reported because of shame felt by the victim. If you feel shameful, I can understand why, but you should still report it. If you don't he could do the same thing to many other women. It's not your fault, you didn't ask to be raped, it just happened.

[catherineee]

Okay... I will definately think about it...
I'm still not sure. But thanks for the help.

[nick]

Catherine, you havent really told us clearly enough for us to be able to give you a firm opinion, its as if you're holding back. Now if things are too upsetting or painful to talk about I dont want you to feel bad about that.

But the question is really how much he forced you to have sex against your will and how much you just went along with it. If you really didnt want to do it did you ask him to stop for example? That's kinda key really. Did you make it clear that you were unhappy about it and wanted him to stop?

If it was obvious you wanted to stop then yes, definite rape. If you went along with it somehow and just regretted it afterwards then I would have to say sorry, but I dont think that would be rape. Like Chris has said, the extent to which you felt pressurised is relevant too and means its not black and white.

Also like Chris said, if you feel it was an assault or a rape you really need to report it, and the sooner the better. That almost certainly would be a difficult and upsetting thing to do, but it would help to protect other people in the future. There are other people on here with similar experience that can help you through.

[catherineee]

Oh...
Uhm.. I definately remember saying No.
And he didn't listen.. At all ... So yeah..

[Aηdy]

If he had sex with you after you saying no and refusing, it is rape. It's probably a good idea that you tell someone, especially if it's happened recently.

[BuryYourFlame]

Yes, if you said no but he still had sex with you that is rape.

You really need to report this, it will be hard but it will be for the better. You could just start off telling someone you trust (preferably an adult) about it first. I can't stress enough how important it is that the authorities know about this, that way he can be put to justice. No, him in prison won't take away the hurt and what he has done, but it will make more bearable, and it will also stop him doing anything like this to other people.

[Amyxoxo]

If he did rape you then you need to tell someone, also if you had sex then do you need to go and be cheked out by a doctor? If it was rape or somethin did you use protection? again you may need to be cheked out:)
x

[catherineee]

Um,,
Okay.
I will definately think about this .