Nervous..

[tom_93]

Well this is really annoying me and confusing me.
Lately 1 or 2 chances has come to do something with my friend (boy) - He knows im gay (have been for 2 years). He came out to me the other day and asked me if i wanted to do stuff, I said sure, but whever we went to do it, i got really nervous and didnt want to do it.. is this normal?

[thepieman]

Yeah this sounds pretty normal. It's all new to you, so it may feel a bit weird at first. Don't worry about it, you probably are gay, but you may just fell like now is not the right time to do things. Only go further when both of you are ready. :)

[Misty.]

umm..i think may be this shows u need some more time to analyse about ur sexuality.. :\

i guess relax..n just sit back to think wether u can do this or not...becoz its all about pleasure.. B)

for as far as i think.. u can love a guy or gal...n still not like to do stuff with them...becoz u r not ready..or mature enough to carry out the stuff...the urge to do these things should come from within..n dont b hard on ur self.. :) ...these things will come naturally to you :)

[bowlheadhere]

umm..i think may be this shows u need some more time to analyse about ur sexuality.. :\

I do not believe this shows that he needs to question and analyse his sexuality for it seems to be as though he is simply questioning the outcome of such interactions. One must remember that the only person who knows their sexuality is them self.

You are completely normal. It is in our human nature to question events and interactions which we are not familiar with. Take for example your first time sky diving. Most of us would be nervous because we are unsure of the experience and if we will land safely. As you sky dive more and more, you gain more confidence, thus becoming less nervous. This philosophy can be directly applied to similar events which you are not familiar with, as the one you are in. I would actually be worried if you were not at least a tad nervous. One must really question their judgement and rationalism if they do not feel even slightly nervous about new events which may have some consequences.

No matter what you chose to or not to do, just stay safe! Good luck! :yes:

[luvthissite]

i assume you are both the same age.

what is it that you are nervous about specifically? it might help if you explain so we can help you better. there is nothing to be nervous about, he is likely just as nervous, although he may not show it. one thing you might try to get over your nervousness is to go slow. try giving each other a massage over your clothes, just to start some physical contact. rub his back and then let him rub yours. you don't have to do anything more initially, just leave it for next time. the next time, maybe start out with the massage again, but maybe try it with your shirts off, and then wait for the next time. i used to do this with a friend, we would take turns writing messages on each others backs, spelling out words. i would also get a brush and rub it against the back of his body, on the arms, legs, feet, and all around. he would get really aroused, but was straight and would not flip over to show me.

if he is nervous too, you dont want to go too fast and scare him off. gradually, you can work up to taking each other's clothes off, and exploring each others bodies, etc.

just take it slow and enjoy. make sure you both are comfortable. :yeah:

[nick]

Tom, its a big step to get initimate with another person for the first time. If it doesn't feel quite right then don't do it. It sounds to me as if he's trying to rush you a bit. I mean if you just want to play around together with no love involved thats fine if you're both happy about it, but maybe you need to get used to the idea a bit more if he's only just come out to you.

Anyway, good luck and like I say, dont feel pressurised into anything you're not ready for.

[sam i am]

It's so normal... my bf almost chicken out on me i had to push him a little and then he got really into it...u just feel nervous ik how u feel and then u start getting that butterfly feeling..it just takes time thats all