Cutter how should i tell

[Girl Wrestler]

How should i tell my teacher im a cutter?
Im really close to him i just dont know hwat words to use.. im gonna go int here tomorrow before school and tell him.. plz help!

[kolte]

just...well, tell him, but wouldnt it just be easier just to quit cutting? You can do it, with the right outlook.

[Girl Wrestler]

i want to tell him though casue all my teachers just found out.. and i want him to hear it from me..

[-Silence]

I'm late so I'm gonna ask how it went.

How'd it go?

[Girl Wrestler]

Well not to good.. he like totally disowend me.. which really pisses me of cause i looked up to him so much... how should i ask him if it bothers him?

[-Silence]

It seems like it bothers him.

[kolte]

just don't cut.
seriously its not that hard.
you just have to reolize how immature and irrelevent it is.
nobody will repsect your decision to cut.
maybe him disowing you is right.
because cutting is wrong.
and nobody wants to be friends witha cutter.

[-Silence]

because cutting is wrong.
and nobody wants to be friends witha cutter.


Now that's wrong, I don't care who you are.
There's more to a person then how they handle things.

"Seriously it's not that hard" ?
Are you fucking kidding me?

[kolte]

Now that's wrong, I don't care who you are.
There's more to a person then how they handle things.

"Seriously it's not that hard" ?
Are you fucking kidding me?

i've had friends that were cutters.
I don't talk to them anymore.
why not?
because all the do is complain.
they complain about there awful lives and how they have no friends.
well shit, talk about something else and maybe you would have more friends.
and no its not hard at all.
just get in threw your head that it means nothing.
it helps nothing
and its really immature and FUCKING STUPID to do
then maybe you will quit your ridiculas obsession.

[-Silence]

You've had friends so that gives you every right to put us all in the same damn box?

I'm sorry but fuck you, fuck this.

[Girl Wrestler]

Now that's wrong, I don't care who you are.
There's more to a person then how they handle things.

"Seriously it's not that hard" ?
Are you fucking kidding me?
yea thats not right.. cutting is very hard to quit. and i dont complain about my problems. thats why i cut if i did complain about my problems i owuld have no reason to cut.

[Oath]

Um yea well i DID cut and it took me 2 years to finally stop, but sometimes i get stressed again and just dig my nails into my skin. I dunno if ppl understand that its extremly hard to stop and if someone doesnt want to stop u can force them to!! and by the way cutters do have friends! i WAS a cutter and i ahve TONS of friends and they helped me get threw my problems and i wasnt always complaining...
Try to stop but im not gonna force you to do anything...just remember it leaves nasty scars that 1 day you'll ahve to explain...but if you do stop tell your teacher you stoped and then maybe he will gain trust in you or w/e again...
PM me 4 help...
~CF

[6XxRazorBla6deKissesxX6]

I was a cutter for 3 yrs and it is sooo hard to stop. I have tons of friends and through almost all 3 of those years, MAYBE 3 knew. I didn't complain about anything. If I did complain then people would know I cut. The scars suck. I stil lhave tons of friends though and when they found out they ried their hardest to help me. They've all cheered me on when I didn't cut and even now that I haven't cut for over 7 months. Maybe your teacher doesn't get it as well as he should? Like she said, try to stop then tell him you did. It might help.

Good luck!
-Kashia

[Sapphire]

i've had friends that were cutters.
I don't talk to them anymore.
why not?
because all the do is complain.
they complain about there awful lives and how they have no friends.
well shit, talk about something else and maybe you would have more friends.
and no its not hard at all.
just get in threw your head that it means nothing.
it helps nothing
and its really immature and FUCKING STUPID to do
then maybe you will quit your ridiculas obsession.

That just shows what a great friend you are. Fucking hell. How the hell can you sit there and say "Oh its not that hard" when you havent personally been through it. You can't always judge things objectively from the other side of the fence.
Self harm is never a good thing but it serves as an outlet for those who havent discovered one yet. It is not immature.
Would you go up to a depressive and tell them to "Just get over it" or go to a manic depressive and tell them to cheer up or quieten down depending on their mood? Or tell an anorexic to "Just fucking eat something" or tell a schizophrenic to stop fliping out because of their hallucinations? The answer is no. So dont say it to self harmers.

Anyway, back to girl wrestler's problem. He's probably just having some difficulty accepting that this is what you are doing to yourself. I confided in my tutor whom I was really close to and he tried his best to help me. That doesn't mean we didnt have our conflicts or anything though.

[kolte]

anybody who openly posts in a calender the days they cut are just begging for attention.
"look at me"
"look how sad I am"
cutting is a fad these days.
no, I don't feel sorry for you, nor do I feel sorry for the "depressed" teenager.
all teenagers well go threw a period of 'depression'
and its nothing.
it means nothing.
its just what happens.
some people can handle it.
some people can't
If I didnt care, I wouldnt say anything.
you need to reolize how stupid cutting is.
and then maybe you will but the razor down and say "i'm fucking retarded for doing that"
cutting IS seriously retarded.
you know how I could tell the people who cut because they had problems, from those who cut for the attention.
some would hide it, and others would use it as a weapon.
you say something offensive, or they break up with a significant other and bam, its "I'm gonna go home and cut myself" (not literal words)
good god, why don't you adverstise to the entire world that your only problem is acceptence to your friends.
if your going to let what a 13/14/15 year old says get to you.
then you are weak.
you are a fool.
you need to get a reality cheak, what they say has no relevence.
they are not gods.
they don't see the error of there ways.
and here, a site you have come to for refuge, where people try to help you..........
you shun us, and defend your cutting.
I thought you wanted to stop.
but you don't.
because you don't actually have a reason.
you just think you do.

[Whisper]

REQUEST LOCK

[Girl Wrestler]

I do want to stop.. i have gone 7 days without cutting.. and then you have to come on here and make me feel bad again... so why dont you just stop posting in here then if you thinkg that i cut for attention or whatever you think.. cause I DONT... and you dont know me...

[Sapphire]

I don't feel sorry for you, nor do I feel sorry for the "depressed" teenager.
all teenagers well go threw a period of 'depression'
and its nothing.
it means nothing.
its just what happens.
some people can handle it.
some people can't
If I didnt care, I wouldnt say anything.
you need to reolize how stupid cutting is.
and then maybe you will but the razor down and say "i'm fucking retarded for doing that"
cutting IS seriously retarded.
you know how I could tell the people who cut because they had problems, from those who cut for the attention.
some would hide it, and others would use it as a weapon.
you say something offensive, or they break up with a significant other and bam, its "I'm gonna go home and cut myself" (not literal words)
good god, why don't you adverstise to the entire world that your only problem is acceptence to your friends.
if your going to let what a 13/14/15 year old says get to you.
then you are weak.
you are a fool.
you need to get a reality cheak, what they say has no relevence.
they are not gods.
they don't see the error of there ways.
and here, a site you have come to for refuge, where people try to help you..........
you shun us, and defend your cutting.
I thought you wanted to stop.
but you don't.
because you don't actually have a reason.
you just think you do.


koler you are out of line. we dont know girl wrestler or the problems that caused her to get involved in self harm. you come across as such an ignorant judgemental git by dismissing other peoples problems like this. I for one have difficulties with depression and (in the past) with self harm too. It was not for nothing. It meant something. And no I did not "use it as a weapon". For your info there are teenagers out there with real problems that cause them to get depressed and cause themsevles harm.
I agree with whispher Request Lock

Girl wrestler, i used to cut too. I understand how hard it is to stop and to stay strong when you get the urge to start again. If you want to chat or anything just pm me hunni.

[Girl Wrestler]

alrighty i will

[Activate]

Koler, you think suicide is a cry for attention?
No, it isn't

Do you think people get depressed every now and then?
No, depression is a mental dissorder when a fluid in your brain isn't traveling to another part. (What I remember, someone correct me if I'm wrong)

Sure, there are some people that cut for attention
But it's not everyone...

So shut your hole and just listen to the people who really are depressed and need help.

[Aηdy]

I think that some people cut for attention even if they have problems, i think some people cut for.. well.. silly reasons. i am not saying this about all cutters, some people cut because they have seroius problems.. but i do hate people who cut for attention

[kolte]

depression is caused by a chemical imbalence of seritonion and neurotransmitters.
but this chemical imbalence is often self induced in teenagers because of low self esteme.
your constantly talking yourself down, constantly telling yourself your worthless.
thats not helping you.
the mind does what its told.
tell yourself your something long enough, and your mind will believe it.
the chemical imbalence, like an appendge of your body, can be fixed with physical treatment.
you can use your medical enhancements, but they can have harmful effects.

if you suffer from depression, true depression, then you WANT to be not depressed.
so you will try what I'm about to tell you.
if you are depressed because you want to be, then you will disregeard what I'm about to say, thus proving that you are depressed and you cut for attention.

first off, stop cutting and stop talking negitive to yourself.
every single day, regardless of the circumstances, look into a mirror and say:
I'm a beautiful person, I'm a good person, I love me, even if you don't.
every day say, this is a great day.
I'm happy to be alive.
even if your not.
eat breakfest, and lunch and dinner.
and not junkfood.
but healthy, vitimin enriched food.
drink lots of water.

how in the hell can any of these things work?
well, just as your arm needs to move and work to stay healthy.
just as you need protien and calcium to get stronger.
you mind needs particular stimulation to stay healthy.
this is a proven fact.
you don't use it.
it will disipate into nothing.

if your not getting the natural amount of chemical levels in your brain.
then you CAN and SHOULD stimulate your brains chemicals manually.
having a good self esteme and saying positive, optimistic phrases will help stimulate the brain.
water is vital for any organ, or body part.
and it can and will make you more happy.
vitimans are important also for your brain and entire body in fact.

why do I say "you have to reolize what you are doing is stupid"?
I don't care if you suffer from constant pain and have trouble walking.
I don't care if your father beat the hell out of you when you were younger and now is a schized out stalker who sobs on the telephone, blaming your for all his problems.
I don't care if you live have lived in extream poverty and go to bed hungry many nights.

cutting yourself and talking yoruself down is not assesing the situation.
its only adding to your problems.
so yes, cutting and sobbing about your life is stupid.
can you actually argue that at all.
I'm i calling you stupid.
kinda sorta.
you need to get out of the shit your wallering in and be more productive.
there are things you need to reolize in life.
only you can make it better.
and sitting there sobbing is getting you nowear.
call me a bitch, an asshole, a bastard.
I say i'm helping you.
you may not agree.
but thats your loss.
if you refuse to help yourself.
then your only proving my point

[Activate]

Koler,
That is the most hate-filled paragraph I have ever read. If you do not want to help people with problems with depression don't post on self mutilation threads. And how the fuck can you think that saying shit about cutters help? Fuck you have problems

P.S Sorry mods for posting off-topic I just want to make a point to Koler

[Girl Wrestler]

You know what i am very productive just because i cut dont mean that i sit on my ass all day and cut. I'm a wrestler, Soccer player. and i run track & Field, cross country along with alot of other sports.. and I spend alot of time with the police department.. so if you think that i just sit there and all day and say taht im worthless and all this other shit then your wrong.. but i have good support now even though it is summer i have 2 teachers phone numbers and 1 of our police officers phone number.. so dont say that im juust sitting on my ass and letting myself to keep cutting.. BECUASE IM NOT... and ITS NOT FOR ATTENITON like you fucking think.. Now if ya'll will excuse me i have to go help Officer ****** with something.. he is commig to pick me up..

[lee]

You know what i am very productive just because i cut dont mean that i sit on my ass all day and cut. I'm a wrestler, Soccer player. and i run track & Field, cross country along with alot of other sports.. and I spend alot of time with the police department.. so if you think that i just sit there and all day and say taht im worthless and all this other shit then your wrong.. but i have good support now even though it is summer i have 2 teachers phone numbers and 1 of our police officers phone number.. so dont say that im juust sitting on my ass and letting myself to keep cutting.. BECUASE IM NOT... and ITS NOT FOR ATTENITON like you fucking think.. Now if ya'll will excuse me i have to go help Officer ****** with something.. he is commig to pick me up..

Good for you. Koler is completely out of line. You shouldn't stop cutting until you are ready to stop cutting. If you try doing it cold turkey, you'll only wind up going back to. I know for me each time I quit and started again the cuts got deeper and deeper. I'm going to have scars from it forever. Just stay strong and if that teacher is still being a dickwad, then I dunno. Kick his nuts or something (I kid).

Koler: Not all cutting comes from depression. I have never been depressed. I suffer from sever anxiety. It wasn't caused by low self-esteem. I have many friends whom I love and who love me. If you have a friend who is telling you how hard a time they are having, maybe you should try and comfort them instead of calling it complaining and dumping. However, there are attention cutters out there. If they need attention that badly to hurt themselves, even if it's little scratches, then they should get it. Ignoring them will only make it worse. But I do understand where you are coming from. Maybe your friends really were just complaining and making a mountain out of a molehill. That doesn't mean that this is the same situation.

((Sorry for going off topic and continuing the argument, I just had to throw in my two cents.))

<3

[serial-thrilla]

what tragic event in your life forced you to start mutilating your body?

[Girl Wrestler]

what tragic event in your life forced you to start mutilating your body?
For me i think for the most part is for control and a few otherthings.. but i feel like i dont have any control in anything in my life

[Rooster]

My ex-fiancee was a cutter, and it ruined our long running relationship. You know what happened to her? She got an intervention, she's gotta go to like 5 doctors from all different fields, she got more distant from her friends, and dumped the hottest musician in town. Is hurting yourself worth it though? What have you accomplished? All you're doing is creating more problems for yourself and others. You just need learn to love yourself.

[Bobby]

As much pleasure you might get out of cutting, you ruin yourself. Because once you get over that problem. You still may feel that need to cut. Damn it I lost a friend who cut in secrecy. Damn..

[m_shell]

yea thats not right.. cutting is very hard to quit. and i dont complain about my problems. thats why i cut if i did complain about my problems i owuld have no reason to cut.


yeah and me persoanlly i always try to act really happy like nothings wrong when im with my friends.

[Guru Guy]

As much pleasure you might get out of cutting, you ruin yourself. Because once you get over that problem. You still may feel that need to cut. Damn it I lost a friend who cut in secrecy. Damn..

Is hurting yourself worth it though? What have you accomplished? All you're doing is creating more problems for yourself and others. You just need learn to love yourself.

It is interesting to hear people talk about cutting that don't do it - you just don't get it.

Cutting isn't like going the the beach or hanging out with friends. We don't get pleasure out of it. We get relief (of course, relief can be pleasurable, but relief is really more accurate). Imagine that you have a splitting headache and you take some pills and it goes away. That is relieving and consequently pleasurable. But if you didn't have a headache, would you take the pills? No.

Rooster, I don't get what you mean when you say is cutting worth it. It makes it sound something like smoking pot but losing friends/relationships because of it - is it worth it? It is worth it to cut because without it we would literally not be able to function like a normal person. Imagine being in constant mental torment. Cutting maybe lost your ex-fiance you, her friends and more, but without cutting she would have lost even more.

Cutting is about living and coping, not about having a good time. Obviously there are better ways of doing it, but none we have been able to use yet. It doesn't do us any good to tell us what we are losing by cutting. Most of the time we have a good idea anyways and all it does is make us want to cut more. We just can't say, "yeah you're right, it is costing me too many friends or jobs or family, I'll stop". First of all we need to learn how to deal with things in healthy ways.

[northskater110]

dont cut! i had a friend that cut and died because she cut a main artery!

[mRojas2000]

wow...

latelly, i've seen lots of girls who cut (or used to)

[Rooster]

[QUOTE=Guru Guy]It is interesting to hear people talk about cutting that don't do it - you just don't get it.

Guru, if you actually read my post you would see I do get it. I got her to quit for like 8 months, but things started getting tough again, and old habits came back. Therefore, you are the one drawing conclusions. And that's a load of bull shit. Cutting has no benefits. It's only downhill both ways. Being self destructive does nothing to save you. You are only fooling yourself, because punching holes in your skin isn't going to make the world smile on you. You act like you're just getting rid of a head ache, but you don't even seem to realize how much your hurting yourself and the people around you. Like what happened to me and Progamer9515.