This is killing me

[Kaius]

Ive been with my girlfriend just over two years, although its long distance. Anyway, we argued two weeks ago and split, to which id realised id made a mistake and apologised and said i was sorry, and i didnt want to lose her. But she wouldnt take me back, or even consider it. Ive lost quite a few people in my life time, through death, walking out of my life, so this hit me really quite hard. Well it carried on, the same routine day and night for the last few weeks, we'd argue. I took up drinking in this time. Last night when logging onto facebook, my brower saves log in, info which i still had hers from helping her with her settings a while ago and as i had the same initials at the start of the email address i accidentally logged into hers, and a convo came up. It was with her friend about how much she likes another guy. Now i dont know what to do, this has completely torn me apart, so badly i havent even been able to go into college.
What do i do..?

[Art_dude]

Wow. Sounds like the end of this relationship really hit you hard. If I were you, I wouldn't try winning her back - it sounds like there was a good reason you split up in the first place, and judging from the facebook chat with her friend, she has moved on.

Because you've lost so many people in your life whether it be death, walking away, or whatever, the impact of this relationship is going to seem worse than it already is. I'm not saying don't grieve - a two year relationship in which you've built up trust with someone you love deserves a good amount of time to grieve over. Just try to remember that you have a life worth living and that no person is worth being upset over to the point that your life seems like a living hell.

My advice? Try to quite drinking. It's not good for you physically or mentally right now. It's times like these that will plant the seeds for future alcoholism. Also, when you're done grieving and you're done feeling like shit, try to move on. I would try to stay out of contact with her. Just for a short period of time while you get your footing again. You need to focus on your life and what you want to do with it independent of another human being. You can't ever love another person again if you can't learn to love yourself first. Re-examine what you want out of life. "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

[FunnyHaHa]

I would give it some time...let her think about things for a while and maybe she will come back eventually if she realizes its right...and if not, then this all happened for a reason and I am sure you will meet someone else soon

[zoom zoom]

srry man i had a relationship with a girl for 2 years. but then i moved 3 hours away from her. so we tried to keep it together, but then she got bored of me. so she broke it off with me, and i was hurt bad. and to make things worse she really broke up with me to go out with one of my best friends back in my old school. so that hurt even more.
so i had a very rocky 3 months and then i thought i should move on. so i did. i found a girl called Kelsey Hildebrandt. and now we have been dating for 1 year.
So i know how you feel but im sure you will find someone specail out there for you one day. just dont give up on yourself. thats all you have to do. hang in there man