Gots a question

[waterski]

So my girlfriend wants to like play with my dick and she keeps asking me about it, but I don't know if I'm ready yet. And like I don't wanna say no because yeah. Hahaha. I'm a guy. Lol.
So answers! What would you do??

[jgibbsd]

Let Her!

[waterski]

Why do you say that? Lol

[ericboi]

Didn't your Mom tell you to share????:)

[waterski]

Hahaha. I guess she did. Lol

[Sugaree]

Ok, I think there's time for some seriousness to be brought into the thread.

This is an obvious question. If you don't feel that you're ready, then don't do it. Just tell her, flat out, that you aren't ready to further the relationship into a sexual degree. Have you done anything else sexual?

[nickisamazing]

just say yes nothing really bad can happen . plus it will feel goood

[trouble]

let her. theres nothing to lose

[pontiacdriver]

So my girlfriend wants to like play with my dick and she keeps asking me about it, but I don't know if I'm ready yet. And like I don't wanna say no because yeah. Hahaha. I'm a guy. Lol.
So answers! What would you do??

The common misconception is that men have to be sexual in order to prove their masculinity. However, the fact of the matter is that it is YOUR body, and your girlfriend needs to respect YOUR wishes. If your girlfriend has any love and respect for you, then she will not make an issue of your preference and simply do other things with you. Seuxality is really too rushed nowaday, in my opinion, and in a lot of cases partners, be it a boy or a girl, seem to think they have to "put out" in order to keep the relationship going. Trust me, it is not worth doing something with which you are uncomfortable, and if your girlfriend is not all right with your decision, then you need to totally reevaluate why you are going out with her. Relationships are a two way street, and no one should ever feel they have to do something they do not want to do. If you feel like sharing your body, then that should be your choice when you feel ready and not because you feel like you have to meet some artificial societal norm or impress someone.

I do give you credit for be cautious, and don't think that just because you are a guy that you have to do something sexual to prove your manhood.

[QuickQuart]

i agree with Rubicon and pontiacdriver. While technically there's not much risk in her playing with your dick or jerking you off, if you're not comfortable with it, then don't go through with it. You can stand to wait till your ready. Plus, it's safer this way anyway, because if you don't do it then it won't have any possibility of elevating to something more dangerous, like oral or sex.

if, at some point, you do start to feel comfortable with it, then go for it. just make sure that it doesnt become anything else, and if it does, that you're ready for that, too.

[Sugaree]

just say yes nothing really bad can happen . plus it will feel goood

let her. theres nothing to lose

It's posts like this that will lead the OP astray.

I'm taking sides with pontiacdriver. It is YOUR body, not her's. If she can't respect YOUR decision, then she'll have to wait. I agree, harm won't be done if you just fool around, but it can lead to a farther degree than what you really wanted, such as having intercourse or oral sex.

[xSebastian]

Ok, I think there's time for some seriousness to be brought into the thread.

This is an obvious question. If you don't feel that you're ready, then don't do it. Just tell her, flat out, that you aren't ready to further the relationship into a sexual degree. Have you done anything else sexual?

completely agreed

[waterski]

Thanks for all the replies. Still haven't figured it out. It's like black and white: your either ready or not ready. ;p

[Sugaree]

Thanks for all the replies. Still haven't figured it out. It's like black and white: your either ready or not ready. ;p

It all depends on how you feel. If you feel that you truly aren't ready, then don't do it. If you feel that you are, then do it. We can only offer suggestions.

[Ortizitthisone]

just say yes nothing really bad can happen . plus it will feel goood


Whoa, back up. Nothing bad can happen? That's a bad way to think, my friend. Please don't listen to posts like that. A lot of bad things can happen. What if it goes further than you intended and someone gets pregnant? I'd say that's pretty bad. I can tell by your post, OP, that you are a bit more mature than that (for the thought of not being ready ever even being in your mind to begin with), but things can happen. Most teenage guys, if offered sex of any kind, would say 'OMGYESPLEASE.' But that's the wrong way to think.

Sex is very pleasurable, yes, but you also have to look at the risks, both physical and emotional. There are STDs and pregnancy to worry about. There are people's reputations and rumors to worry about. When you are in a relationship with someone, it's supposed to be a two-way street. No one should be pressured into doing anything they don't want to. 'I'm not ready' should be the end of it. If she can't respect your boundaries, then perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship with her to begin with. Try to find out WHY she wants this so much. Is it because she feels like sharing an intimate experience with you? Or is it because 'everyone else is doing it'? You have to look at that part of it. Who cares what everyone else is doing? What matters is what you want to do and what you feel comfortable with.


I would +rep for pontiacdriver, but apparently I've already given him rep recently for something else. Lol. Great post though friend!

[pontiacdriver]

Thanks for all the replies. Still haven't figured it out. It's like black and white: your either ready or not ready. ;p

It can be complicated in that you want to please your girlfriend, but always remember that physical stuff falls into the optional category especially when you are not ready. Things are so much more fun when one is ready as at this stage you really are not going to enjoy yourself a whole lot. If you start doing this, then the next thing you know your girlfriend might want more.

My view is what you are telling us you should tell your girlfriend directly. If she doesn't take your words well or blows you off, then your relationship is not very strong. However, if your girlfriend is supportive and understands you, then she is a good person who will stand by you. I would view this situation as kind of a test as my view is that this is a basic issue of respect. Don't think you have to do stuff especially as things like this are done gradually and not suddenly.

[nick]

Thanks for all the replies. Still haven't figured it out. It's like black and white: your either ready or not ready. ;p
I dont think it is that clear cut. I agree with the view that if you dont feel fully comfortable with the idea then don't go along with it. You might think it would be OK to get a hand job but you might not feel you want it to go any further. But if you agree to that today, then next week she might want to do oral, and so it goes on. So really unless you're really sure about things, and sure that you can keep control of how far it goes, its better to say no.

[Kartellmyst]

I don't think now is the right time..you're only 14 and should take your sexual life more slowly...You are just a child...I'm just a child..If you're not ready then you're not ready..but if you are..then go ahead and let her...just know that by her touching your dick..can lead to many other things in the process..like sex..so be careful...wait..How old is your g/f is she older than you...If she is..let her have some funn...Older girls have more control..;)

[JackOfClubs]

If you don't want to, don't. you could end up really regretting it in the future. Your shouldn't be forced into doing anything you don't want to do.

[toinfinityandbeyond]

Never ever let anyone influence you into doing things you dont think that you are ready for. remember you are only 14. there is still ALOT of time. you can wait as long as you want to. and just because your friends might be having sex you dont have to just to fit in. If they dont respect your decision, well they arent your friends.
Remember, its your life.
With respect to your girlfreind, just tell her! explain your feelings to her and she should understand. Just tell her you want to take things slower. Don't let this eat away at you.
good luck my man!

[hiker1992]

You're under absolutely no obligation to participate in a sexually related activity if you don't want to. Coercion of any kind lowers the quality of your consent. However, if you really aren't seeing any major negative aspects to the situation, then I don't see how it could hurt you.

[waterski]

Wow. Thanks! Lol. I don't think I'm gonna go with it until I know, myself, that I am COMPLETELY and TOTALLY ready. (: Thanks for all the posts. : )

[crazycoller]

i would let her in a heartbeat... just make sure there aren't any cameras or parents around lol

[impact_75]

Your not ready to let a girl "play" with your cock!:eek: Man come on! And again:eek:gthen:eek:!

[Suicune]

i would let her in a heartbeat... just make sure there aren't any cameras or parents around lol

Your not ready to let a girl "play" with your cock!:eek: Man come on! And again:eek:gthen:eek:!

Ok it's posts like these which show how blind some people can be.

Ok so, totally agreed Pontiac.
Never feel obligated to please somebody no matter who they are. If your not ready, your not ready. If she were your real friend, she'd respect that.