Mental/Emotional = Mother

[Desy]

Mine would fall along the lines of this:
Emotional abuse


can be difficult to pin down because there may not be physical signs. Emotional abuse happens when yelling and anger go too far or when parents constantly criticize, threaten, or dismiss kids or teens until their self-esteem and feelings of self-worth are damaged. Emotional abuse can hurt and cause damage just as physical abuse does.

The things i've bolded&underlined are definitely what's going on. It's all about my mother. Actually today, she felt the need to hit my head really hard, for no absolute reason, because she thought I was doing something wrong. Then, when she noticed I wasn't, she downed me and walked away. I've delt with the "Dumb ass" name calling, the talking of me being "stupid" (more like hinting it, because I lack in some area's due to my ADD when I was young. I missed out on a lot of things...), to the point of where she just completely blames everything on me. She makes it like i'm the trouble-maker, or the bad guy. I'm doing chores and working my hardest in school, trying to make my mom proud, and it's never enough.

I'm currently not swimming competitively due to some medical issues with my chest (they're not sure if it's Arthritis, or Temporary Trauma to my sternum), so i'm stuck at home all day. I've gotten to the point with her, where i'm stuck in a corner. She's saying that she can't take "2 more years of this". If I screw up one more time, i'm leaving the house. I haven't done anything wrong, and I know it's not cool to fight your mom or do any of that, so I try to pipe down and not argue. I just usually say "okay" whenever she tries to yell at me. Then she thinks I didn't hear her at all. =/

I've done all I can do in trying to make my relationship with my mom better, but so far, i'm in no luck. I'm completely anti-social, and really awkwardly shy. I'm too scared to act out or stand out sometimes.. I really don't know what to do with this situation anymore. All I know is, i'm fed up with the crap. I'm crying everyday, and I feel like dead weight--i'm unimportant. I get enough Panic/Anxiety Attacks, I really don't want anymore issues with my heart, or anything else. Can anyone help me?

If you want more info on this, i'm free to give. ):

[mrmcdonaldduck]

is there an adult you can tell this to? they can help you with this, you cant let it go on.

[Desy]

I've tried, but they don't do anything. ): I'm afraid to tell any teachers or w/e, because I don't know whether to report it or not.. I still love my mom and all. I don't know what to do. T_T

[alex95]

I've tried, but they don't do anything. ): I'm afraid to tell any teachers or w/e, because I don't know whether to report it or not.. I still love my mom and all. I don't know what to do. T_T

well i went through same thing as you when i was young but now that im older my mom can only yell at me i guess its because im a boy child she doesn't hit me anymore and im 14 now i had add when i was younger so i missed out on alot im not as smart i try my hardest and i do all the chores but it doesn't make her satisfy she expect me to do everything when im home and says im the only person not doing anything and my sisters and brothers are working to much.

[Desy]

I'm nearly 18, so I plan to move out ASAP when I can. So my mom knows what she's actually going to miss, and what shes' not going to have anymore. I don't really know how to fix this, except for moving in with my dad and he lives in another town. I don't want to go to another school. ):

I should probably get out more so that I don't have to be home--so she can't do too much to me.

[Shenron]

Well, legally she can't throw you out untill you are 18. Othere than that, I think you should talk to her, tell her she is really hurting you and take it from there.

[1_21Guns]

My dad did the exact same thing to me, I was always the stupid one who did everything wrong and couldn't do anything right. If you ever want to talk, i'll be here, and as for what you should do, i'm not sure. Have you told a trusted friend or something? Someone who can be there all the way to help you through awkward decisions.

[alex95]

I'm nearly 18, so I plan to move out ASAP when I can. So my mom knows what she's actually going to miss, and what shes' not going to have anymore. I don't really know how to fix this, except for moving in with my dad and he lives in another town. I don't want to go to another school. ):

I should probably get out more so that I don't have to be home--so she can't do too much to me.

Thats what my oldest sister did but it didn't only hurt her we missed her too

[lipstick_kisses23]

they never know what they have until its gone. Believe that. she will miss you when you go off to school or whatever you feel like doing (because it's your life not hers). Most parents down their kids because they want to be youthful again and they envy the fact that they arent as good looking as they used to be or they cant do anymore "fun" things with friends. I think the best advice i can give you is to stick with friends who make you feel awesome. Talking to your mom wont work, it never does. In her mind shes always right even if she isnt. Parents think that way because they have authority and unfortunately they abuse it to the point where even at the drop of a cell phone will make them lash out and throw something at you. Parents= Im right youre wrong, Im big youre small, Im smart youre dumb, and there isnt a thing you can do about it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are worth something while getting ready or dancing around to a song you like. It will make you feel good. When shes yelling at you never think of a good memory because it will make you smile and she will yell even louder, I'd recommend tuning her in and out just to make sure when she asks what she said you at least have something to say. Stay quiet and when she dismisses you make your escape to your room and write or listen to some music to calm your heart rate (ive had the anxiety and panic attacks too). If shes anything like my mom she'll keep going all night but try and tell her you have to study or you are "sorry". This is what usually works for me when my mom has her episodes. God bless you and I hope everything gets better because you are worth so much more than what she makes you out to be. Im always here to help if you ever need a friend =].

~Love, Kuppy

[alex95]

they never know what they have until its gone. Believe that. she will miss you when you go off to school or whatever you feel like doing (because it's your life not hers). Most parents down their kids because they want to be youthful again and they envy the fact that they arent as good looking as they used to be or they cant do anymore "fun" things with friends. I think the best advice i can give you is to stick with friends who make you feel awesome. Talking to your mom wont work, it never does. In her mind shes always right even if she isnt. Parents think that way because they have authority and unfortunately they abuse it to the point where even at the drop of a cell phone will make them lash out and throw something at you. Parents= Im right youre wrong, Im big youre small, Im smart youre dumb, and there isnt a thing you can do about it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are worth something while getting ready or dancing around to a song you like. It will make you feel good. When shes yelling at you never think of a good memory because it will make you smile and she will yell even louder, I'd recommend tuning her in and out just to make sure when she asks what she said you at least have something to say. Stay quiet and when she dismisses you make your escape to your room and write or listen to some music to calm your heart rate (ive had the anxiety and panic attacks too). If shes anything like my mom she'll keep going all night but try and tell her you have to study or you are "sorry". This is what usually works for me when my mom has her episodes. God bless you and I hope everything gets better because you are worth so much more than what she makes you out to be. Im always here to help if you ever need a friend =].

~Love, Kuppy

100% true my mom takes advantage of it now my dad doesn't his nice and my sister trys to just because shes older than me but that never works she cant tell me anything she told me she has no respect for me so i have none for her =D

[Shenron]

Yup, I left my grandma because she was Annoying and ALWAYS thought she was right, about 2 weeks aftet I left she called me and apologized for being like that, and said she understood why I left. So don't think you are alone, we all feel your pain.

[Desy]

they never know what they have until its gone. Believe that. she will miss you when you go off to school or whatever you feel like doing (because it's your life not hers). Most parents down their kids because they want to be youthful again and they envy the fact that they arent as good looking as they used to be or they cant do anymore "fun" things with friends. I think the best advice i can give you is to stick with friends who make you feel awesome. Talking to your mom wont work, it never does. In her mind shes always right even if she isnt. Parents think that way because they have authority and unfortunately they abuse it to the point where even at the drop of a cell phone will make them lash out and throw something at you. Parents= Im right youre wrong, Im big youre small, Im smart youre dumb, and there isnt a thing you can do about it. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are worth something while getting ready or dancing around to a song you like. It will make you feel good. When shes yelling at you never think of a good memory because it will make you smile and she will yell even louder, I'd recommend tuning her in and out just to make sure when she asks what she said you at least have something to say. Stay quiet and when she dismisses you make your escape to your room and write or listen to some music to calm your heart rate (ive had the anxiety and panic attacks too). If shes anything like my mom she'll keep going all night but try and tell her you have to study or you are "sorry". This is what usually works for me when my mom has her episodes. God bless you and I hope everything gets better because you are worth so much more than what she makes you out to be. Im always here to help if you ever need a friend =].

~Love, Kuppy

Thank you for that, it makes me feel a lot better. ^^