Need help about a girl please

[Mikee]

Okay so I have been friends with this girl for about a month now. Not really friends that hang out but shes on my bus and I talk to her a bit and we are friendly.

Then Recently she took my phone and added her number into it. She then texted me multiple times a day and every night for a bout a week. We would talk for hours (Texting not voice to voice) Then we set up a date to hang out so we hung out with a group of friends on a friday night.

We just hung out at a friends that night, had a nice fire goin outside and we had a couch out there and she sat right next to me and had her legs up on my lap and we talked a bit. Then went inside and watched a movie and she layed up against me and I had my arm around her.

The next day I texted her and we exchanged only about 4 messages in the morning. Then on sunday I didn't text her and she didnt text me. I didnt see her till today where we still did have fun conversations on our bus but I couldnt tell if she was still interested in me.

Anyone know whats goin on?

Sorry for the wall of text but this is all kinda new to me. If I need to make anything clearer I will, thanks.

[kyle95]

mate, you're off to good start, so quit over analysing. give her space and room. the main thing is that when you're together, she's great. advice: no matter how tempting, don't be anxious to be all hands. be a gentleman with her, she'll think of you as special and she'll feel safe around you. also don't lay a heavy because she didn't text you. if you take it all in stride, she'll show more interest. one more thing, don't talk about her to your mates, respect her. good luck.

[Mikee]

mate, you're off to good start, so quit over analysing. give her space and room. the main thing is that when you're together, she's great. advice: no matter how tempting, don't be anxious to be all hands. be a gentleman with her, she'll think of you as special and she'll feel safe around you. also don't lay a heavy because she didn't text you. if you take it all in stride, she'll show more interest. one more thing, don't talk about her to your mates, respect her. good luck.

Thanks, I appreciate the answer, it definitely helps me clear my mind a bit. I just wanted to update this a bit, I've never been in a situation like this so my mind is just goin crazy right now.

So this girl that I like is on my bus, like I stated. On the bus I sit in the back and there is a like a group of 5 people that I hang out with, her being one of them. I notice than whenever she talking she does not often look at me, but tends to look at my friend more when she talks. Now I don't know if she does this because she may feel a bit nervous looking at me (If she does like me) but I cant tell if she actually may be interested in my friend. Before we met up with each other last friday I think that she tended to not look at me that much when she talked (So I'm hoping she may just be nervous when Im around her)

I texted her right after I got off the bus, Just to ask her about something that happened on the bus, and she answered but made no effort to further the conversation.

So thats kinda the background right now, like I said my mind just feels like its going crazy right now and I don't really know what to think.

Anyways, my questions:

1. Does it sound like she may be interested in my friend and not me?

2. I've texted her 2 different times since Friday, she text me back but I always started conversation and we've only exchanged like 6 texts. Should I send her a text everyone once in a while just to show that I'm still thinking about her or would it be better to not text her at all and hope she texts me after awhile?

3. I only see her on the bus, and I'm going to ask her to homecoming, I wont be able to talk to her a lone to ask her, but I don't know what would be the best way to ask her (Im not shy, Im willing to just go right up to her and ask her but I don't want her to feel pressured or embarrassed for any reason sense her and my friends are around). What would be the best way to ask?

4. Should I try to invite her somewhere as a date type thing, just to hang out somewhere besides the bus. If I do, should I try to bring some of my friends too just to make it seem casual and make her feel more comfortable?

Thanks again for the answer, it really does help clear my mind, since it seems that shes all I think about now and its been affecting my grades and sports (Im trying not to let it affect these things but questions keep popping into my head). I realize that shes the only one that knows what shes feeling but I would like to hear what other people think. I think you right when you say I'm Over Analyzing the situation but I just can't get this out of my mind.

Sorry for writing so much but this is just one way to help me get it out of my head and off my chest. Im sure I will end up having more questions and updating this again, This is really my first experience with trying to go out with a girl so every little bit helps.

Again if anythings unclear or needs further explaining just ask and ill clean it up. (Shes a Junior, 16, and Im a Senior, 17, Just incase that was needed for any reason)

[Grey fox]

1) stop worrying and just chill out a bit
2) from your first comment, it sounds like she is really interested in you, but girls often go for the friend of the guy they are really interested in in order to get the guy they want jealous. Weird and illogical but works.
3) If she has been texting your friend too, and mroe then you, then she is probably after you
4) she is acting the same was that i was when i was trying to get a guy last year (who i sat next to on the bus!) anyway, i'm not going out with him, and have been for some time, so who knows!
5) ask her for another chill out night thing again


MOST IMPORTANTLY - just chill out :)

[IAMWILL]

Look, she likes you, but she has a life too. You dont have to talk every night, you don't have to make sure she's always on your side, just make sure your friendly. :) Relationships take time, so you need to let this develop. Ask her to homecoming, and if she says no just go anyway, respect who's she's going with if anybody, and have fun.

[Art_dude]

Basically in concurrence to what everyone else has said.....
CHILL OUT!!!!!!
You have a very active and analytical mind which is great, but it will be a disservice to you in the relationship department. Relationships take time to develop. Just because her texts are more infrequent doesn't now mean she's into another person. (on a grumpy old side note: This is what makes dating now so god damn hard. This whole younger generation builds relationships completely off texting and not off of interaction in the real world. No wonder everyone is left confused and upset - no one can read body language, make eye contact or sense sincerity or sarcasm)

Just remember, "too much analysis, leads to paralysis" :P
Sounds like you're a nice guy and this girl is taking an interest in you. Stop sweating over the minutiae, and look at the big picture. You've laid some good groundwork, so just give it time.

[Mikee]

Thanks, I appreciate the answers, now that its been few days I'm a lot calmer now. I feel like I'm not goin to worry about it, just gonna keep being myself and whatever happens, happens.

Thanks again for the answers, help me set my mind straight.