Is it right to be talking about girls with....

[sleek]

i'm 14 an I have an 11 year old little brother thats just starting to like girls. Today we went to a basketball game, and he was saying things like "look at her shake that butt!" and "look at those boobs! and that body!" and i was agreeing with him, and there were even a couple comments by me saying i would like to tap that. Is it even okay for me to be talking to him like this?

[hiker1992]

Well he is a little young to be saying things like that, and at that young of an age, it's not exactly something that's socially okay (really no guy should talk like that where others can hear him) but he is a guy, and 11 isn't that uncommon of an age for puberty to hit so hormones may be affecting him. Whether or not it's okay though, is up to you. If you, personally, feel he's ready for that, then I don't see a problem with it.

[Kahn]

He's eleven. That's quite sad.

[QuickQuart]

Just a suggestion, maybe he heard that stuff somewhere and he's trying to be cool by repeating it. Because 11 seems a little young.....

[kyle95]

you ought to set an example for him by telling him he's not respecting girls by saying such things.

[ACQD139F83J]

It's not exactly normal but I think you should be aloud to talk about anything with anyone. And it's not like you're introducing mentally damaging ideas to him - he started it... But women aren't just pretty objects - they're people. Would he enter into a proper relationship with the people he's talking about? If not he shouldn't be talking about them like that and nor should you.

[mattmattmatt]

you ought to set an example for him by telling him he's not respecting girls by saying such things.

Agreed.

[Cloud]

whatever happened to respecting girls and women?
hes 11
still got ages to learn
so instead of encouraging that
why not teach him some respect for women so he doesnt grow up to be a disrespectful asshole?

[The Batman]

I bet most of you guys say that around your friends to a bunch of girls.

Anyways, yes it's fine to talk like that with your brother because most likely he has no clue what he's talking about but you should teach him not to directly say it to a girl lol.

[nick]

He's probably trying to impress you somehow, I just instinctively feel you shouldnt encourage it from him because you dont know where that might lead next. At the end of the day its up to you to react how you feel comfortable with.

[Joshm5816]

He's a little young, I would watch what you say around him. Where did he learn that stuff? But there's no harm I guess unless he goes and starts doing inappropiate things.

[dantheman5000]

you know my lil step brother is almost like that too. i would say its normal for him to be thinking like that because all kids his age perverts! but dont agree with him. you sdhould teach him how to respect woman by being a role model!

[Raynes]

I don't really care about his age, but he shouldn't be talking like that around other people. He needs to be taught the meaning of respect, and that women are more than just sex toys. After that, what he says in private should just be the normal 'guy fun' kind of thing. There aren't many guys who don't talk like that in private, but it's mostly just for the lulz.

[danzama]

he's your bro he's a guy you CAN talk to him this way, but i'd talk to you parents or guardians anbout if you SHOULD.

11 is young but i started young and that didn't hurt me XD

[xXAnonWillXx]

try not to push brothers and sisters in talking taboo (taboo-something people dont usually want to talk about) because it can pressure them. you dont want conflicts with your brothers or sisters do you?

if your brother is talking about it himself then its ok, its part of the puberty stage we all get it and theres no stopping it. Dont worry about it mate.

[adam1995]

Totally normal. I talked to my friends like that at age. It means he considers you a friend which is cool. Just be careful not to get t graphic with him ;)

[Triceratops]

How degrading to us females...

You've just given me a good reason in to why I should hate you. :)

[toinfinityandbeyond]

Its normal! your both guys and you are comfortable to talk about these things with your own brother!
My brother and I used to sit in the shopping mall and rate all the girls that walked passed! it was hilarious! of course we kept the conversation volume right down.

[malibueedudde]

it dounds fine unles it gets to far

[Giles]

I wouldn't encourage it because it is disrespectful, but lets face it almsot every straight guy will say something like that 11 or not...

I do think that he doesnt have a clue what he's talking about, at 11 I sure as hell didn't. I think that he is trying to (subcounciously)strengthen the bond between you two. Just a thought :)

[Wonder.]

I talked like that when I was 11. But I am a pretty messed up child so...

I don't know. If it seems okay to you. He probably shouldn't talk like that but it's his decision. Not even you can control what he says. If he wants to talk like that then you should try to stop him.

[MykeSoBe]

It's all good. It is better to let a boy be himself than to have his emotions and feelings be suppressed. It's especially a good thing that he talks that way around you ... that signifies trust.