Advice please

[TheTruth]

Okay so i'm going out with my ex after like 2 years, in those 2 years or so we've been best friends and shes had another boyfriend and she had sex with him but that never bothered me, and i was there for her when they split up. But now that she's going out with me and shes had sex before, I can tell she wants to have sex with me but I'm not ready just yet (well i am but you know things get spred round so quick round my skool and i cant take tht pluz im a virgin shes not soo ye). I dont know why but i would have sex with her in like january seen as i'll be closer to 16 but how can i still be sexual with her without having full on sex.

[Sugaree]

Ask her if she's more interested in sex than the relationship. If she's coming on strong about wanting to have sex, just tell her that you aren't comfortable with that decision.

[Ripplemagne]

True love waits.

If she doesn't respect your decision, then it's clear that she's more into the idea of a lustful relationship than a loving one. Make it clear that you're not ready and you want to wait; she should understand. If she doesn't, then she's just a skanky broad who's looking for a good dicking. I don't think you'd want to have that kind of relationship.

But you don't need to have intercourse to be sexual. There's, of course, oral. But You can resort to all forms of foreplay (making out, passionate touching, et cetera), which should precede sex anyway.

[Aves]

True love waits.

If she doesn't respect your decision, then it's clear that she's more into the idea of a lustful relationship than a loving one. Make it clear that you're not ready and you want to wait; she should understand. If she doesn't, then she's just a skanky broad who's looking for a good dicking. I don't think you'd want to have that kind of relationship.

But you don't need to have intercourse to be sexual. There's, of course, oral. But You can resort to all forms of foreplay (making out, passionate touching, et cetera), which should precede sex anyway.

Exactly 100% right.

[kipper]

if she really loves you she'll wait for you

[kyle95]

m8, it's clear you say one thing but you believe another. it DOES bother you she's had sex, i see it everywhere in what you're saying.

advice 1: snap out of it and don't judge her because she's had sex, the important thing is that you've been great friends and even better, perhaps future lovers. if she's truly your best friend, she'd know your hesitation. At this point, it's a good thing she doesn't. your reasons for holding out are lame and insulting to her - hesitation because of lack of experience is one thing, but to be scared of what others might say??!! Are you that ashamed of her? You ought to be proud of her mate and show her off to everyone.

advice 2: once you've learned to accept her as she is and you're comfortable around each other, just follow her lead. it's to your advantage that she has some experience. she may break the ice by just kissing. she may use her hand on you. just don't fight it and be grateful she finds you attractive to do this with you. ask her what she would like you to do and don't act like a pro, she'll see right though you.

it's how i am with my gf and we're both extremely happy. good luck m8 :)

[zoom zoom]

you should find out what she likes ina relationship and just get to know her more.

[anime Freak]

listen a relation ship is 99.9 persent mental, ih she bases it of even .2 percent physical it just wont be a real relationship and do you want a real relationship or a physical relationship