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theOperaGhost
October 1st, 2009, 05:01 PM
BOSTON - Sex in a Tufts University dorm is fine. Sex in a Tufts dorm with your roommate present? That's a no-no.

This semester, the school has a new policy banning sexual activity while a roommate is in the same room. Kim Thurler, a Tufts University spokeswoman, said the school issued the new rule after a dozen or so complaints in the past three years.

"It's really about respect and consideration, and it's a question of how roommates utilized their space," Thurler said

The new policy concerning overnight guests reads: "You may not engage in sexual activity while your roommate is present in the room." It mentions no consequences if the rule is broken, however.

Thurler maintains the new policy is not about regulating students' behavior, rather getting roommates talking about the issue of space with each other. She said the policy is aimed at the school's 5,000 undergraduates.

Alyza DelPan-Monley, 20, a philosophy major, agreed that the policy is more about showing respect for roommates than limiting sexual activity.

"I've been fortunate that I've had good experiences with my roommates," said DelPan-Monley. "But this is there for people who can't communicate with their roommates."

Freshman Jon Levinson, 18, said discussions about dorm-room sex etiquette should be kept between roommates.

"I don't believe it's the university's place to determine what goes on in a room," Levinson said. "Personally, I wouldn't want to have sex in front of my roommate, and my roommate wouldn't want to have sex in front of me."

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Policies at universities and colleges concerning dorm room sex vary. Some Catholic universities prohibit opposite-sex "cohabitation" and sleepovers in dorms, while Harvard University's student handbook prohibits any "serious or persistent unwanted sexual conduct."

Efforts to regulate on students' sexual behavior drew national attention to Antioch College in Ohio — now closed — in 1993. Antioch's "Sexual Offense Prevention Policy" required students to ask permission from one another if they wanted to have sexual contact, including holding hands.

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Sage
October 1st, 2009, 06:34 PM
What, no threesomes? Lame.

nick
October 1st, 2009, 06:43 PM
Ok, that's quite funny

mrmcdonaldduck
October 2nd, 2009, 02:37 AM
makes sense.

ShatteredWings
October 2nd, 2009, 03:00 PM
I'd love to know what idiot did this to make a rule needed..

Grey fox
October 2nd, 2009, 03:05 PM
:(

Hoorray for single rooms in all British unis!!

Camazotz
October 2nd, 2009, 03:49 PM
What if both the couple having sex and the roommate think it's okay and not report it? This rule is very unnecessary.

nick
October 2nd, 2009, 05:07 PM
Why would anyone want to have sex with their room mate present? I wouldnt want an audience.

Modus Operandi
October 3rd, 2009, 09:17 AM
That's kinda redundent and unenforcable, unless the roomie is a big enough dick to report them.

theOperaGhost
October 3rd, 2009, 12:36 PM
As an RA I have do deal with this problem. So far in my residence hall this year roommates have been pretty accommodating to their roommates with woman friends. There has been one room change due to a roommates sexual activity though. Most of the time the roommates just hang out with someone else until they are done...not a big deal.

YesterdaysNews
October 3rd, 2009, 01:23 PM
oh wow. this is kinda unnecessary don't you think? If I was going to have sex in a dorm, I would tell my room mate to get the hell out...

IowaBoy
October 3rd, 2009, 03:53 PM
Read about this on my cellphone, it just crosses that college off my list.

Bougainvillea
October 3rd, 2009, 04:15 PM
Read about this on my cellphone, it just crosses that college off my list.

YOU'RE AT COLLEGE.

Inevitable as it is, sexual activities shouldn't even be taking place. Go to school. That's it.

IowaBoy
October 3rd, 2009, 08:35 PM
YOU'RE AT COLLEGE.

Inevitable as it is, sexual activities shouldn't even be taking place. Go to school. That's it.

freedom of expression

Delusion15
October 3rd, 2009, 09:43 PM
lol thats hilarious

theOperaGhost
October 3rd, 2009, 11:29 PM
oh wow. this is kinda unnecessary don't you think? If I was going to have sex in a dorm, I would tell my room mate to get the hell out...

You do realize that is your roommates room too and they are paying for it as well? If they don't want to leave they don't have to.

Dorofolash
October 3rd, 2009, 11:35 PM
Entertaining. I would politely ask my roommate to leave for a bit, and if he ever wanted to have sex with his lady friend (Or man friend, I don't discriminate) I'd leave gingerly and wish him luck.

This is pretty unenforceable, especially if the roommate doesn't care. If he does care, and he does report it, how does he prove it? The other guy could simply deny it and what could they do? Investigate?

theOperaGhost
October 3rd, 2009, 11:58 PM
Entertaining. I would politely ask my roommate to leave for a bit, and if he ever wanted to have sex with his lady friend (Or man friend, I don't discriminate) I'd leave gingerly and wish him luck.

This is pretty unenforceable, especially if the roommate doesn't care. If he does care, and he does report it, how does he prove it? The other guy could simply deny it and what could they do? Investigate?

It's not to hard to prove it to be honest. I presume most residence halls have security cameras in their halls...you couldn't prove that they actually had sex, but if the roommate claims they did at a certain time and the camera shows they were in the room at that time, I'd say that is proof enough.

Zephyr
October 4th, 2009, 02:13 AM
One reason I'm now glad that I've never stayed in the dorms.
I know people who are, and apparently it can get as wild as you've seen on movies xD
I like my apartment... no sharing a room :D

Gumleaf
October 4th, 2009, 04:28 AM
i heard about this. i can see the reasoning why, but unless its a common problem i think its over the top.

useitorloseit69
October 4th, 2009, 08:12 PM
this is good because i stayed at a college once with a friend and her room mate was feeling up a guy in her bed when i walked in.