Should I have let him?

[cuddlemuffin3]

So me and another boy, about a year ago were on his couch, relaxing, but then things seemed to be more intimate. So like he ended up on me shirtless and we were kissing but then he tried to unzip my jeans which then i quickly turned away. Now at school the story got around and ppl say I should i have let him do w/e with my pants but then ppl are saying Jokingly that hes a rapist....

He's kind of embarrassed but did i make the right decision in not letting him, i guess, get in my pants?

-Liz

[Maverick]

Of course you made the right decision. You obviously weren't comfortable with him going down that route and it is always the right decision to refuse to do anything you don't want to do.

Don't let peers influence you on that. Its your body and your decision.

[Grey fox]

You certainly did if it was something you weren't comfortable with.
Also, that kind of rumour is a lot better then the alternative which would be that you're easy, after all, no guys really like an easy girl, they like to feel they've won something.

[BuryYourFlame]

Yes you did, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you weren't comfortable with what was happening you have every right to say no and to stop him.

[alex95]

Yeah but it was mean to make them make fun of him.... But you did the right thing if thats what he headed straight for thats probebly all he wanted...

[nick]

I can only agree with everyone else so far, you should never do anything you dont feel comfortable with, and he should respect that.

Now you have to ask how the story got around. If it was from him then he really shouldnt have told anyone, and at the very least should apologise for that. If it was because you said something "in confidence" to girl friends of yours then learn from that mistake, secrets are rarely kept!

[RaeNose]

She didn't make them make fun of him.
Things get spread around school no matter what. There's always a leak.
You most definitely did the right thing.
If you weren't comfortable, he has no right to do that to you. I just think that it's odd that people said you should've let him do that. You didn't want to, thus you didn't. It's your choice, and no one else's.

[kipper]

if you hesitated then it's not the wright time for you or he's not the wright guy for you

[tyler_52]

how is that a question ... of coarse you made the right descision ... but theres only you and him that could have spread that event around school ... and that might not have been the right decision... but i dunno who started it so ye

[JackOfClubs]

You did the right thing. If you are not ready for sex, and he forces you to have it with him, then it is rape. You definitely made the right decision.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think that you did the right thing cause its your life and you should live it step to step and not rush when you are not ready, so dont worry :)

[zgrazier]

if u were not comfortable then yes u did do the right thing only do what u feel comfortable doing dont do something somone else talks u into doing XD it was very brave of u to do that

[patrick99]

if u like to have a baby

[The Batman]

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