in love but wanna GET OVER IT!!!!

[Dog Desab]

Long but need help!!!!
Background: Ok so, my ex-gf and I were together all during the beginning of summer. We were really good friends during school. Before I decided on asking her out, i started finding out all these things about her. Like how she had sex with this one guy, in her barn. Also before we started going out she was with this one guy but when she found out I was interested she dumped him. So when we started going out my whole view of her was changed and I distrusted her but still liked her. On days that we didn’t see each other, we texted constantly. Days that we saw each other we would always make out and when either of our parents weren’t home we’d have sex constantly. Even though I’m the guy I wasn’t the one who convinced the other to have sex. She always wanted to have sex and that made me distrust her. It made me feel as though she is a sex addict d do anything for sex. By the end of June we didn’t see each other for a whole week. I was going to this bonfire and had invited her but she wouldn’t go because she had went out with my best friend and it was kinda bad cuz he was pot head. (not anymore thank god.) But that’s why she wouldn’t go. SO at the bonfire I was lonely and was flirting with this other girl. I hugged this other girl and nothing else. When I got back home I told my gf, Abbie that I hugged this other girl and was really flirty. That made her distrust me. Then for two weeks after that she went on a trip to Maine. After her trip she started to avoid me. So I started to freak out at her all the time. Eventually on facebook her status that she was going to see cody soon. I spazzed at that point. She broke up with me thru a text for another guy.
Problem: bcuz we broke up over text, I feel as tho nothing is finished between us. She recently texted me saying how she missed me and wanted to be bffs again. I feel as tho its nothing but a pick up line and that we would go into a relationship again. I still have feelings for her but she says to all her friends that her and cody are just taking a break. But everyone knows he cheated on her and dumped her. I would rather it be not get her again and move on but I miss her so damn much. Do I get with her or try to get over her? And if I do try to get over her plz help cuz this was probably my best relationship in a really long time????? :what: :what: :what:

[Mzor203]

The best answer here is really to just get over her. It's an opinionated answer, but there are numerous places with this whole thing where it just isn't working right.

First of all, throughout the whole relationship you expressed that either one or the other of you was suspicious, distrusting, etc. This is what eventually led to your breakup, and even now you have no real reason to trust her.

Secondly, both of you are just hopping around through different relationships it seems, and it's going to continue. Yours is very likely going to end with another breakup if you get back together. Then you'll be at this point again anyways, but possibly even more attached, which will make it harder.

Lastly... there doesn't seem to be much real love or respect in this. Hard to put it into words, but certainly not a relationship one gets good vibes from or the impression that both parties are in it just because they love each other.

that's my opinion, in the end it's your choice. But the fact that you're questioning it gives a VERY good indication to what is really right here.

[Contra]

I do believe the best advice I can give you is to forget her, and get over your relationship...
After everything you said, it seems like she was in a relationship just for sex, perhaps she liked you but it's suspicious she leaves you like that and then wants you back, she must understand you're not disposable.

[Dog Desab]

Thanks karastes and enbelism. it helps and yea she probably is only in it for sex. Thakns a bunch

[myapocalypse]

Hi. It is hard to get over love. But possible, especially if you were not "in love", there is a difference. I can tell you were not "in love" because you talked alot about distrust in your relationship. I also believe that she is in it for the sex from what you tell me.

My advice: get over her, vent to friends, family, on here. Or even write, anything, it doesnt have to make sense. After you are done writting whatever it is, burn it, in a safe area of course (idk if im allowed to say that, if not im sorry :/) Get a new hobby, do stuff to fill up your time so you dont think about her. It will be easier or harder depending on how long you were with her, but from what you have said it wasnt very long. Try to befriend a girl who likes you for you, not sex. Someone with the same interests as you, and take it slow, find out about her, then ask her out. It will work alot better.

Best of luck to you.