Relapse

[svlust06]

Hello every one sigh i had a big relapse the other i been almost thirty days with out cutting but I did yet again uggh and this is the worst ever because I had to end up getting like six stiches... I have been trying to stop but its really hard...sigh

[Discomposure]

It's great that you've bin trying really hard. 30 days is very good too. However don't feel like your back to stage one, because at the start you wouldn't have gone 30 days without doing it! Just take each urge as it comes, and do something productive/creative to take your mind off it. Remember, each urge you pass, you become a lot stronger for the next one. Keep your chin up, and don't be putting yourself down because you slipped up. EVERYONE will slip up whilst trying to stop self-harming, I just admire you that you are stopping, you should be proud.

Keep positive, and all the best :)

[svlust06]

thank you so much I really am trying and I feel really strong now that I can do this I just have to remeber screw the people that hurt me because hirtong my self does nothing to them and just creates more problems with me...

[Shalom]

Well that big gap is an improvement. You have to work at helping yourself, It's all about you and your needs. You have to be such a strong person and get through things. Ask for advice or anything. I am sure you are a great person and if you ever need some help feel free to send me a private message! Take time out to do things that you enjoy and try not to worry about the bad things!

[Discomposure]

thank you so much I really am trying and I feel really strong now that I can do this I just have to remeber screw the people that hurt me because hirtong my self does nothing to them and just creates more problems with me...

It's great that you know to think, screw them. And yeah, in the end, self-harm really, does nothing. You will have times when you relapse and times when your really strong, just keep at it :)

[svlust06]

it really hard at times its like i have a safety plan of like 9 thing to do if i feel like cutting but sometimes it fails or i don't use them which really sucks because i end up cutting even though i know the methods to stop my self

[Shalom]

it really hard at times its like i have a safety plan of like 9 thing to do if i feel like cutting but sometimes it fails or i don't use them which really sucks because i end up cutting even though i know the methods to stop my self

Well use those methods to stop. Yes its hard, but it can be done. You don't need to cut to make yourself feel better. In the end what is the benefit? Nothing, because you still will end up sad another time. You need to find ways to make yourself happier and proud of who you are! :yes:

[MadManWithaBox]

you've got a good attitude, thats a good sign, its good to see your still fighting this. keep it up, and if you need to talk, pm me

[Discomposure]

it really hard at times its like i have a safety plan of like 9 thing to do if i feel like cutting but sometimes it fails or i don't use them which really sucks because i end up cutting even though i know the methods to stop my self

Sorry your feeling like this, I know what you mean that you KNOW the methods to stop but ... don't maybe try them or something or try them but find cutting much easier and better. But as you know, it's not a healthy way of dealing with things. Keep positive about it and when your feeling the need to, try excersize, it's supposed to give you a similar relase.

If you need to chat, just PM me. I'd be happy to speak with you :)

[svlust06]

you've got a good attitude, thats a good sign, its good to see your still fighting this. keep it up, and if you need to talk, pm me

why thank you so much!!!!! yeah that my problem thoough too i care to much about other and neglect my self alot and it hurts me when they don't treat me the same way...

[chelsay13]

I relaped after like... 4 or 5 monthes. Sure, it's bad, but like it was said before, you're not going back to day one, you just slipped, stand back up and continue to stop. I don't count the days anymore. It makes it more difficult.

[svlust06]

I relaped after like... 4 or 5 monthes. Sure, it's bad, but like it was said before, you're not going back to day one, you just slipped, stand back up and continue to stop. I don't count the days anymore. It makes it more difficult.

yeah it suck but i really feel this is the last time

[Triceratops]

:hug:

Slipping up and experiencing relapses is all part of recovering. As long as you know you're trying you'll get there eventually.

Just pick yourself up and start over. Try to forget about what happened as the more you think about what you did and how long you went without cutting, the more it's going to probe at you and descending you into feelings of misery and worthlessness. Remember that tomorrow will be your fresh start.

[svlust06]

:hug:

Slipping up and experiencing relapses is all part of recovering. As long as you know you're trying you'll get there eventually.

Just pick yourself up and start over. Try to forget about what happened as the more you think about what you did and how long you went without cutting, the more it's going to probe at you and descending you into feelings of misery and worthlessness. Remember that tomorrow will be your fresh start.

thank you so much you guys are really helpful I am so glad my thearpist showed this site to me because I finally have a chance to talk to people who are dealing with the same problem I have!!!