DareDevil
September 26th, 2009, 02:51 AM
Alright, here's one for the folks at home!
So, there's this guy (go figure). We're both in theatre together, both Seniors, and have known each other since Freshman year, but never got particularly close. A week ago, we were sitting on one of the couches backstage during rehearsal and, jokingly, we two and a third guy had our arms around each other, goofing off. Eventually the third guy got up, leaving the two of us. He wanted to see who could 'last longer,' which made me give him a funny look and say it would obviously me just because, in that sort of game of chicken, how could I lose? Where's the point where I'm supposed to be freaked out?
So arms turned to sitting close, to crossing legs over each other's and I pointed out at one point that he'd actually turned submissive, leaning into me and such rather than sitting up (because obviously he wasn't taking 'the game' any further and I didn't want to push him out of his comfort zone.) At one point I swear I almost felt some form of attraction, but didn't want to press it in front of the others sitting back there and without knowing for certain what kind of interests he has.
I had to get up for my cue and prep to go on, ending the game with the show and the next day, it came up again. I was joking about how I'd won, blah blah and he said that didn't matter because he talked the part better. I asked how you could possibly "talk gay" better than someone who was, which earned me a look. I groaned inside, because obviously he was one of the few in the department not filled in on my sexuality, and was thus unaware during our little game yesterday. He recovered from the surprise nicely to his credit and said he was cool with it, but I caught (to my amusement) a look back toward me and him turning his head very quickly when I seemed about to turn mine.
You would think that would be the end of the story, but here's where little things start to show up. Over the next few days after my unexpected confession, I noticed a bit of a change in his attitude. He would purposefully move across the circle at the dress rehearsal dinners to sit next to me, or always seem to have an open seat for notes, walk backstage with no real purpose, but always pass where I'm sitting, or move toward and then position others who come my direction to stand next to me in show circle.
So my ultimate question here is more one of you folks opinion: Do you think he likes me, or that perhaps because I 'came out to him' he feels that we're closer friends? I had one person remark to me that he seemed a bit on the curious side, but I'd hate to really weird him out this time. Keep in mind, I've only listed here the reasons why I think he does, because (as usual) the reasons why he might not be aren't exactly prevalent in my mind. Is it worth my asking himself or having a friend of mine poke around for me? Or am I wasting my time and should find better ways to distract myself?
(Also, kudos to people for getting through another one of my long posts, and thanks for your help :cool: )
So, there's this guy (go figure). We're both in theatre together, both Seniors, and have known each other since Freshman year, but never got particularly close. A week ago, we were sitting on one of the couches backstage during rehearsal and, jokingly, we two and a third guy had our arms around each other, goofing off. Eventually the third guy got up, leaving the two of us. He wanted to see who could 'last longer,' which made me give him a funny look and say it would obviously me just because, in that sort of game of chicken, how could I lose? Where's the point where I'm supposed to be freaked out?
So arms turned to sitting close, to crossing legs over each other's and I pointed out at one point that he'd actually turned submissive, leaning into me and such rather than sitting up (because obviously he wasn't taking 'the game' any further and I didn't want to push him out of his comfort zone.) At one point I swear I almost felt some form of attraction, but didn't want to press it in front of the others sitting back there and without knowing for certain what kind of interests he has.
I had to get up for my cue and prep to go on, ending the game with the show and the next day, it came up again. I was joking about how I'd won, blah blah and he said that didn't matter because he talked the part better. I asked how you could possibly "talk gay" better than someone who was, which earned me a look. I groaned inside, because obviously he was one of the few in the department not filled in on my sexuality, and was thus unaware during our little game yesterday. He recovered from the surprise nicely to his credit and said he was cool with it, but I caught (to my amusement) a look back toward me and him turning his head very quickly when I seemed about to turn mine.
You would think that would be the end of the story, but here's where little things start to show up. Over the next few days after my unexpected confession, I noticed a bit of a change in his attitude. He would purposefully move across the circle at the dress rehearsal dinners to sit next to me, or always seem to have an open seat for notes, walk backstage with no real purpose, but always pass where I'm sitting, or move toward and then position others who come my direction to stand next to me in show circle.
So my ultimate question here is more one of you folks opinion: Do you think he likes me, or that perhaps because I 'came out to him' he feels that we're closer friends? I had one person remark to me that he seemed a bit on the curious side, but I'd hate to really weird him out this time. Keep in mind, I've only listed here the reasons why I think he does, because (as usual) the reasons why he might not be aren't exactly prevalent in my mind. Is it worth my asking himself or having a friend of mine poke around for me? Or am I wasting my time and should find better ways to distract myself?
(Also, kudos to people for getting through another one of my long posts, and thanks for your help :cool: )