Gay...???

[BeanieG]

Is it okay to be gay/bi, because at my school you get beaten up about it, is it really sickening to other people??
please answer this anyone, im scared...

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[Rainstorm]

Is it okay to be gay/bi, because at my school you get beaten up about it, is it really sickening to other people??
please answer this anyone, im scared...

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In many societies today, many people believe that being gay is evil, immoral, you're going against god, and all that random shit the Church goes on about in their preaches.

Gays and Bi's get beaten up more often, because many bullies go after them since their different, and think they will just let it come. That's why many stay in the closet until they are much older, to avoid the punishment of being bullied.

If you are gay, and you're scared, you really can't let anyone that you absolutely can't trust know, because then word spreads around, and your the next target.

If you need someone to talk to, message me.

[Harley Quinn]

It is okay yes, you cant choose who you like.
Some people are just homophobic and cant handle when someone is different from them. They are simple minded people and for now i wouldnt say anything if there is a chance of you getting hurt. :hug:

[nick]

Acceptance of gays & bis varies hugely in difference countries and in different parts of a country too. In my town there are some schools where gays and bis are just regarded as normal and get no harassment, and others where you be more likely to be picked on.

Really it shouldnt be sickening to other people. If it is then its because they are the sick ones, not you.

[Severus Snape]

good gracious child, yes. Being gay or bi is perfectly acceptable. PM me if you need support.

[Grey fox]

There is nothing wrong, different or weird about being homosexual or bisexual.

Being a necrophiliac, yes. But not being gay.

I feel sorry for you in that you go to such a backwards and unaccepting school.

[alex95]

Alright about being gay/bi some schools accept it some don't my school doesn't accept it at all they beat up bi/gay the only gay/bi's they don't beat up are the girls..... Like i dont mean to be mean but i punched a gay kid by accednt it just went through my head like this (im around my friends who dont accept gay/bi what are they guna say make a quick move so i punched and i didnt want to and i was guna really stomp him but i walked away in shame) This is why i dont talk to gay/bi i just dont wana get caught in anything at my school especially like how my sister goes there to...

[mr.sexy_bomb]

ok well first dont be afraid or scare about who you are and if you dont feel safe then talk to people, or get protection by the police

[Benpr328]

I just came out to my friends a few weeks ago. I was really shocked that they accpeted me for me. I thought a few of them might stop being my friends, but that was not the case. When I went back to school the next week, there was anote on my locker that said "all fags should die". I was really pissed, but I handled calmy. It turns out that a girl who really liked me and wanted to go out with me got mad when she heard I was gay and she left the note.

Your friends will still be your friends gay or not and if they stop then they never were your friends in the first place

[DareDevil]

It can be frightening, wanting to come out to your friends but not sure how they'd handle it or if they'd even want to continue to be your friend afterward. I would always think back to the stuff we'd done ("awkward hugs", goofing off, sleeping in the same bed when someone stayed the night) that might only be acceptable so long as they thought I was straight.

I've been very fortunate. I've yet to lose a friend over it, and even found a surprising number of them to be gay or some other form of the GLBT community themselves. The rest have all been more understanding than I could have hoped for.

As for tackling your question directly, here's the thing. These people have no grounds for what they're doing. Remember that most of all, because that'll be the heart of your defense. These people are most likely beating up on the gays at your school because of 1.) Fear and 2.) They believe gay = feminine, meaning they won't stand up for themselves. It's up to you (and that's very important) to be more determined to stand up for yourself and strongly, moreso than they are in their position. You have to give off a confidence that makes them sure it's not worth it.

But that's if you ever find yourself in a situation. Trust your friends, avoid people who look like they would find beating on you a good time (that's a nice rule for anyone, gay or straight), and to not let someone (much less a group) leave you without a means of getting to safety, whether that be running (better your pride to suffer than your face) or an adult. And don't be concerned about whether or not the adult is sympathetic. Whether or not they like your decision, they can't just stand and watch you get hurt.

I hope that long-winded bit helps. Best of luck. :)

[Shalom]

It is perfectly normal to be either, maybe keep it to yourself. You wouldn't want to cause harm to yourself, I know its tough to keep it in and you want to be proud of it. In your situation I would just wait until you are older to actually express it. Even though its perfectly okay!