Am I Obbessed?

[Jeffrey]

Hey Guys, so here we go.

I am literally head over heels over this girl I have not seen in about 8 months, ever since she quit working at my job. I think she is EVERYTHING I wanted and more, but we both go to different schools and she is considered more popular then myself. She also has no liking for me. I sent her a message on Facebook on how much I love her. She just says it's cute and it's like nothing ever happened. I even asked her out on a date and she said no. I have tried and tried to get over her but I just can't. I can't seem to move on, and start to like other girls, because to me, she's all I want.

Should I get some help? What should I do?

[Blue63]

Do you need Professional help? No. Do you need our help? Yes.

Believe me, I know the feeling, maybe not as far as you taken it, but the base. I realize that if I start liking a girl I haven't seen in a while, I don't actually like her. I begin to like the idea of her. Her scripted voice in my head. You like her physical traits and all, and with your help, in your mind she becomes "the perfect girl for you." Not true, nice thought, but not true.

I had a friend have a terrible time getting over someone, I told him he needed to cut her out. She flirted with him all the time, and what he really needed was just to stay away from her.

Stop talking to her, block her on facebook (or tell her to block you on facebook). Don't see her again, don't talk to her again. At least not for a long time. Not to be blunt, but you're clinging to her. Maybe if you loosen your grip and let go, look at some other girls, see who else you are compatible with, things will shape up. Think about the other girls in your life, ones you know at school, from hobbies, whatever. Picture yourself with some others and meditate on them, but don't get to attached to anyone in particular. Get the idea of you with someone else in your mind. That's key right there.