Fat girlfriend

[TheStarsShadow]

Im kind of stuck because i really like my girlfriend and we kiss a lot, but shes really fat and if i ended up breaking up with her, her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences. I might find a girl thats not fat so i dont know what i should do?:confused:

[RenamedUser]

Who cares if she's overweight? If you like her, that shouldn't matter.

[nick]

Judge her on her personality, not her weight.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Dude my girlfriend isnt the skinniest, she consideres herself chubby and thats ok because I love her for her personality.

[Sage]

I'm not gonna play moral enforcer here, but if you are bent on breaking up with her over something like that, at least come up with something better to tell her than "You're fat."

[bennybronx]

I dont think the op means to break up with his girlfriend because of her weight.

i mean he DID say "i really like my girlfriend" and also "IF i ended up breaking up with her," meaning that its hypothetical.

I think he is speaking hypothetically, so people should stop with the "dont dump her because she's fat" comments.........

TO THE OP: what are you afraid she will do IF you break up with her?

[Rutherford The Brave]

I dont think the op means to break up with his girlfriend because of her weight.

i mean he DID say "i really like my girlfriend" and also "IF i ended up breaking up with her," meaning that its hypothetical.

I think he is speaking hypothetically, so people should stop with the "dont dump her because she's fat" comments.........

TO THE OP: what are you afraid she will do IF you break up with her?

Because thats is exactly the reason why he is going to break up with her, so No I wont stop those comments.

[bennybronx]

Because thats is exactly the reason why he is going to break up with her, so No I wont stop those comments.

but he said:
he realy likes his girlfriend and they kiss alot
and then he said that IF they break up she would be crushed because of bad experiences.

He didnt say he would break up with her BECAUSE she was really fat, he said he "really likes his girlfriend" so why would he?

and putting him down and judging before you know all the facts isnt very smart, innocent till proven guilty. he hasnt flat out said he will dump her because of her weight so dont be mean to him

[Rutherford The Brave]

but he said:
he realy likes his girlfriend and they kiss alot
and then he said that IF they break up she would be crushed because of bad experiences.

He didnt say he would break up with her BECAUSE she was really fat, he said he "really likes his girlfriend" so why would he?

and putting him down and judging before you know all the facts isnt very smart, innocent till proven guilty. he hasnt flat out said he will dump her because of her weight so dont be mean to him

I wasn't being mean to him at all, I simply think he should wait till he realizes he loves her for who she is rather than what she is. Plus he said if he was going to break up with her he would do it because he was fat. I don't care if its hypothetical I'm telling him, that if he REALLY and I mean REALLY loves her he would be able to get past the fact that she maybe overweight.

[bennybronx]

I wasn't being mean to him at all, I simply think he should wait till he realizes he loves her for who she is rather than what she is. Plus he said if he was going to break up with her he would do it because he was fat. I don't care if its hypothetical I'm telling him, that if he REALLY and I mean REALLY loves her he would be able to get past the fact that she maybe overweight.

Where are you getting this from? all he said is:

"Im kind of stuck because i really like my girlfriend and we kiss a lot, but shes really fat and if i ended up breaking up with her, her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences. I might find a girl thats not fat so i dont know what i should do?

he hasnt said if he was going to break up with her he would do it because she is fat, he said "if he breaks up with her her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences"

and where have you gotten "love" from? he said he likes her, not loves her so "love" is irrelevant until the op says otherwise.

If you jump to conclusions before all the facts are given you make mistakes, like the two ive stated above. Ask the op questions to verify these before you claim he has said them (i am referring to breaking up because she is fat and the love thing)

[Rutherford The Brave]

Where are you getting this from? all he said is:

"Im kind of stuck because i really like my girlfriend and we kiss a lot, but shes really fat and if i ended up breaking up with her, her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences. I might find a girl thats not fat so i dont know what i should do?

he hasnt said if he was going to break up with her he would do it because she is fat, he said "if he breaks up with her her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences"

and where have you gotten "love" from? he said he likes her, not loves her so "love" is irrelevant until the op says otherwise.

If you jump to conclusions before all the facts are given you make mistakes, like the two ive stated above. Ask the op questions to verify these before you claim he has said them (i am referring to breaking up because she is fat and the love thing)

Look man, don't shot down my two cents to the OP. If you have to be technical and spew crap from your mouth then I'm done. Look I gave him the best help I could, you shot me down. My advice came from personal expierences and No were here did I jump to conclusions. You want to argue continue here without me.

To the Op. I hope everything works out for you. You obviously care about her feelings and hopefully you do the right thing for yourself. If shes fat so what, she obviously loves you and you seem to love her.

[aaaaaaaaaaaaaaagg]

Well, I'm going to say that as long as you aren't dumping her because of her weight then it'd be just like a normal break up. Even skinny people have hard break ups. But this is just my opinion.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Looks like things have stopped but just a reminder: Let's not argue back and forth here, ok? These threads are about giving advice to the OP, not debating.

[cherry_boi]

lol thats really bad of u to say that when ur already dating her...ur clearly not committed, do her a favor and let her find someone who loves her for her, i think she deserves it

[Triceratops]

I apologize if I misinterpret what you're getting at but you're saying you want to ditch her for someone better due to the fact that she's overweight?

Dude, give the girl a chance...

[MysticalBurrito]

I might find a girl thats not fat
If you honestly cared about her you wouldn't call her fat.
You would see what's in the inside not the outside.
Like Marcie said give her a chance
but shes really fat
You sound like a great bf -_-

[Grey fox]

Pro - tip, make her happy, REALLY happy, and the weight will just go.

Worked a treat for me!

[alex95]

you guys aren't really helping him... well some of you are but alot of you are criticizing him just answer the question... Dude you have to make an effort go outside with her ride bikes together tell her how you feel this is what bf and gf is suppose to do just let her know you want whats best for the both of you...

[tripolar]

Was she always fat or did she get fat. Because if she was always heavy you should have never gone out with her in the first place, because now your going to hurt her.

[apocalypse]

Im kind of stuck because i really like my girlfriend and we kiss a lot, but shes really fat and if i ended up breaking up with her, her heart would be broken again because shes had bad experiences. I might find a girl thats not fat so i dont know what i should do?:confused:

That's a rather shallow thing to say about your "girlfriend." If you're actually interested in being with her, then her weight should not be a problem to you. Why do you feel like it's such a problem for her being overweight? If you're supportive, you should remain with her, and suggest ways for her to better herself, so she can lose weight and feel better about herself.

[kenoloor]

That's a rather shallow thing to say about your "girlfriend." If you're actually interested in being with her, then her weight should not be a problem to you. Why do you feel like it's such a problem for her being overweight? If you're supportive, you should remain with her, and suggest ways for her to better herself, so she can lose weight and feel better about herself.

Agreed. But even losing weight isn't necessary for a good relationship. It's more about personality than it is about looks. At least in a relationship that will last.

[Beautiful Obsession]

tbf, your thinkin of dumping your girlfriend cause shes OVERWEIGHT?? you said yourself..
You really like her.. so whats even to consider? your judging her by her appearence not her personality.. If you really did like her you wouldnt even be thinking of finishing with her because shes overweight..

and you might find a girlfriend thats not fat?? How would you feel if you were abit overweight and your girlfriend dumped you due to your size. i think your being really harsh here..

Sorry but shes better of without ya matee if your going to think about dumping you because her size..

And sorry if anyone disagrees with my comment but.. its my opinion:D xx

[Old Account]

Judge by the weight of the heart, not the person.

[jack straw]

1. Dont dump her just because she is fat. Its things like that that give all guys a bad reputation.
2. If you do dump her, DONT say it was because she is fat.
3. Fat can go away over time. Do things together outside, maby ride bikes together, go running, and hopefully that will help.

And theres nothing wrong with a little extra fat, there's even more of her to love then!:P