love.. HELP ME!

[vixon]

Me and my boyfrind have been dating for a year and almot 2 months... And I love him very much and he loves me. But lately we fight about little and big tuff we both have told eachother we have thought about breaking up but just loved eachother too much and that we really dont want that. He has really over controling parents, and well as for mine my parents love him, and thy have even talked about us in the future being married my parents ask if we have had sex and they are very ok with our relationship, but as for his over controling parents they seem to not like me and they seem like they want him to date other girls. Me and this boy got in a wreck (hit a mailbox) and his parents accused of all sorts of things, his mom found a hand print on the window and told him "if i find that you both did anything last night, I will make sure it NEVER happens again" and they have old him they would break us up if we have sex. Truth is we have, and we did it at my house because my parents give me freedom but we have rules its not like they say "oh yea go to your room and have sex sureeeeeeee" no they were working outside in the garden and cleaning the indows and we snuck upstairs.
Anyways, we have been fighting alot more lately and we have caught it and ralized it is effecting us and it cools down for about a week or so and then we fight again, i know he loves me and he knows i love him, I just feel im not good enough for him I feel like he could do better I love him soo much and he hates when I degrade myself he is soo sweet but he used to open doors for me and be the "southern gentleman" he still sort of is just a little less because we have been together so long, he doesnt say " I love you " to me alot but he says it wen we get off the phone or off online or when he rights me a note, or whatever he doesnt say it spontaneusly but i mean you cant have everything right I guess I am just looking for a little advice on how I can make this relationship with me and him and with us vs. his parents...

Appriciate the help!

[krzwis]

i sugest do something romantic.....maybe candle light dinner :P.

Look at stars etc....

just don't make it too physical, ie: try not to make out.....just apreachate the time you two have together


then again, i never had a relationship last over a month (except for the one i'm now in....GO MONTH FOUR!!!) so i don't know for sure

[vixon]

im looking for more o th how can we get his parents to realize htey need to CHILL! :?

[Hi i am jon]

dont think your not good enough for him because if that were the case you two would have broken up instead of just thinking about it.....back to the question....well...i dont know what his parents are like but....wow...his parents are cruel......and his parents will have a strong effect on him......but, what you should do is just spend time with him and at the same time patch up the wreck once called relationship with his parents......maybe this would be too awkward but maybe ask his parents why they dont like you....just straight out ask and work on it.....tell them you really like him and want this to work so you dont want to not get along with them..........well thats all i really can say, i've never really seen anyone in that situation...so my advice isn't perfect but its the best i can offer :) good luck, keep us posted :D

[krzwis]

don't wanna seem mean or nothing....and i'm sorry i gotta tell you this but


most of the time parents are right, and they can tell if things in relationships aren't going smooth.

Sure, they are tough but they're just telling you not to be so fast or harsh. They might be overdoing on the punishment side but hey, its better to have parents that care than those who don't care (belive me, later in life you'll be happy you do)

[vixon]

so you are saying we should break up cuz his parents that is not very good advice and my dad loves him and to tell you the truth my dad hates all the other guys me and my sisters have dated he is not an easy person to get to like you.. and well my dad doesnt like to let go of his baby gurl cuz im the youngest but my parents even think his are whack for being so strict for god sakes he is 17! neways I think it is a good idea to ask them straight out but the thing is they act like they like me when i am around but he tells me all this shit and he would lie to me... But he has gotten so much better since i posted this wehad a talk about the differences in the relationship n i told himhe doesnt open doors and i told him that didnt matter and i told him he was still the sweet guys ive loved since the beggining so now he calls me to say hey and opens all the doors and stuff his parents are just gonna hvae to deal

thanks

[krzwis]

i'm not saying break up...but just calm the heck down when your around his parents. Or just hang out with them, that way they can learn to like you and trust you more :)

[vixon]

You dont think we tried that! We sit in the living room with his little brother we dont kiss or hold hands we just sit there seriously!

[Whisper]

How old is his lil brother? Does he like you? Cause comming from a fam with three kids us siblings can be judge, jurry and executiner if we don't like'em
Why dosen't his parents like you? Have they actually gotten off there ass and given you a ligitimate reason or are they just mad cause there lil boy is growing up?
You hit a mailbox....who...cares...
you guys were fine and that shit can be fixed
we've done allot worse

[codyandkrista]

I'm sorry if this sounds rude but it sounds like you might of rushed things. Do not take Thomas the wrong way! I had lost my virginity to my current boyfriend two months into the relationship. Because we thought we were "in love". Turns out we just cared a lot for each other. I have been with my boyfriend, well today makes 11 months. My family, besides my mom and little sister don't like him because he took my virginity. But as time hose on prove that you are worth it to the parents. Find common intrests. With the fighting, its normal with any rushed relationship. Things will get better. Good Luck!

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