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clr9823
September 21st, 2009, 05:21 PM
Well, it suddenly dawned on me. All the symptoms were there; the high quantities of alcohol (duh) combined with an inability to stop and the tendency to lie about her consumption.
For example, tonight I smelt alcohol on her so I mentioned this to her. Does she admit it? No, she goes off on some BS story about drinking Vimto (a fruit drink) and eating fudge. I KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN VIMTO AND FUCKING BOOZE!!! To prove this I went down and got myself some Vimto to show what it smells like. When I was there I saw a wine bottle 1/3 full. She says it has been there for days, idk though, so I poured it away to remove temptation. Was this the right thing to do?
I just wanted to get this off of my chest. Any support or advice would be welcomed and much appreciated! Thanks.
Contra
September 22nd, 2009, 02:09 PM
I think you acted well and in a pretty mature way... Make your mum see that not only is that bad for her, but also to you. If she doesn't get this, and doesn't try to stop, perhaps you should consider signing her in a therapy program for alcoholics, so she can try and control her addiction. Hope I was helpful! :D
Shalom
September 22nd, 2009, 03:05 PM
One step at a time, if it gets out of hand seek ways to help her. Maybe talk to other family members and get their opinions on the situation. I'm sure they could help you out.
clr9823
September 22nd, 2009, 05:25 PM
Thanks for your advice. Honestly though she can be a stubborn bitch and she will only believe it if her boyfriend tells her, which he won't because he doesn't see it and he can't go on my word alone.
RaisingSand
September 25th, 2009, 11:12 PM
TBH, I don't think pouring it away was the right thing to do. If your mother is an alcoholic, then she's obviously drinking because of a larger problem and that is her way of coping. If that's her crutch, completely removing it is going to make it worse.
In this situation, there's not a lot you can really do; if you want, you can try and sit down and have a heart to heart with her to see what is wrong, and talk about options to work through it, such as her seeking counselling or going to AA meetings.