Did I do what had to be done?

[tomytinker]

Me and my gf have been going out for 3 years. And we took our time. Finally we were ready to make love. However in bed as we made out she got out her hand and gave me a bi. When I wanted to return the favour I was horrified. I found out she doesn't shave. It was quite a large "bush". It was revolting so I made up an excuse and left. The next day I dumped her. Was this the right thing to do? Written from ipod

[nick]

To be honest this seems like a troll story. If you're for real then I'm not sure I can give my opinion of how badly you behaved in polite enough terms for vt.

[tomytinker]

Thanks for the help. Troll.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You dated for three years, and dumped her over pubes? Sounds like you didn't care about HER a whole lot if that was enough to end such a long-standing relationship. No offense, but she's probably better off without you; now she can find a guy who won't leave her high and dry over something so ridiculous. She's probably really self-conscious now, as well. I know if I were in her position I might be a little tiffed that my boyfriend of three years saw me with my pants down and all but ran away screaming.

If you're going to dump every girl with pubic hair, I think you're in for an unsatisfying love life in the sense that you're going to be dumping a lot of girls. I know a lot do shave their bikini line (especially during bikini season, if not the whole year), and a lot keep things tidy down there with a little trimming, but girls who shave entirely bald are probably the minority.

After dating this girl for three years, I think she'd like you enough and trust you enough to respect your opinion if you'd suggested that maybe she trim things in the future. By "bi" I assume you meant "bj" (typing on an iPod sucks, I don't blame you for making a typo), and you said you wanted to "return the favor". Well, maybe you could have just kissed around the area, like her legs/hips, and then used your fingers instead. Better than running off, and more comfortable for you in your state of shock. Then, later, you could have broached the subject, found a way to work it into conversation that you think it's sexy when a girl is shaved and see how she feels about it. Maybe then you could have kept the relationship and not treated this girl like crap, all at the same time.

[tomytinker]

Thanks for the reply. I'll ask her out again on the condition she shaves daily

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

If you word it that way, I can guarantee she'll say no.

Apologize, and ask if she's willing to give you another shot. Keep the sexy time mostly above the waist until you find a good time to bring things up, but don't just walk up to her and say, "Look, I want to try again, but you'll have to shave your damn pubes if this is ever gonna work out with us." Isn't there anything else you like about her? Not her body, but her? If there's not enough that you'd stick with her even if she didn't shave, don't bother. I can understand how a large and untamed jungle of hair could be a turn-off, but she can do some maintenance down there and you can learn to deal with some hair as long as it's tidy. It's called a compromise.