He's Bi Too but Now It's Weird (help!)

[Shamus]

So this is my first post and I figured I'd throw it all out there. I'm bi and have known since 8th grade (im in 11th now). Theres this other guy I've talked to for a while almost every night. He has told me he's also bi. We've traded pics, had long Q&A sessions about stuff, filmed ourselves doing stuff and just last night we did more. Here is where I need the help. We're downtown just hanging out. Both drunk and waiting for others so we can go get high. We decide to take a drive since it was sooo cold out last night and we ended up stopping and giving eachother handjobs and blowjobs. Now today we talked and he feels weird about it. He says he doesnt want to feel gay because he hasnt done anything with girls yet. I just want him to understand how i feel and how much i would do for him. Help me get him to know this please!

[sildavin]

My advice to you, would be, just to tell him, sit him down, while you're sober (this is key) and tell him exactly how you feel, its only natural for him to feel weird after what you did. That's how you figure out what your comfortable doing, and what your un-comfortable doing, from what you say, it seems you know each other pretty well. This would just be the next step.

[Watakanata]

Sildavin couldn't have said it any better. Talking to him about it is the only way, should be face to face. If he knows your hearts in it, maybe he'll feel less worried about anything.

[Shalom]

Maybe take a break from him, let him experience with females. Still keep a friendship there, but avoid sexual things for the time being. Then after a while see what he has to say!

[nick]

I think there's some good advice there. Let him know how you feel, but also let him know that its OK for him to take some time, to experience girls if he needs to, but that you will still be there if he wants to come back to you.

You will have to give him that freedom otherwise you will probably lose him altogether

[RuneArchiac]

If he was able to tell you that he didn't want to be all gay then tell him okay but I'll always be with you or whatever you want to say to him.

[Shamus]

Thanks everyone. This really helped alot. :)